A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have known this girl for almost 5 years,we became classmates but got to know her well from past 3 years. Back then i had a crush on one of my thai friend, so my classmates use to make fun of me. And this Indian girl i use to consider her as a sister, but i was never serious about it. Days passed by when i interacted with her more and more i fell in love with her. But at that time she had liked a guy who was her Badminton coach, we are in our 20s and that coach is around 40. She got to know that i have feelings for her and tried to make me understand that she dosnt see me "that way". I told her that i will wait as long as it takes for her to understand my love for her.Her parents were not at all fine with her liking the coach, during this time her parents got to know about me and i was in charge of her for quite few days, We use to go to college together in my car and her parents insisted that i be with her for awhile and look after her.After some months she took me seriously and spoke to me that she can never love me and after that talk we did not speak for almost 3 months.After those 3 months she even got engaged to another person whom her parents suggested.I was so heart broken that, it took me quite awhile to get myself together. When i asked her the reason why she dint give me a chance, she said that she cant lie to a person who knows all about her, in fact she isnt even happy with the guy whom she got engaged to. she is always putting on a fake smile on her face for the satisfaction of her parents.Her parents though knew that i love her and can look after, they couldnt do anything as i am just a student right now and they had to take a immediate decision of getting her married.During her engagement we got back together and we are friends like before and she still knows that i love her more than she can imagine and how much she means to me.I still love her and i cannot see her go away from me, is there any way i can try to make her understand and is it possible to get her back. Hope someone has a solution for this. She is due to get married by April 2013.Why she dosnt see me that way is what bothers me till date when all my intentions are clear, i wanna prove her that its love and not anything else.All this has been going on from past 3 years. This is my story
View related questions:
crush, engaged, fell in love, got back together Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u all for the response. Guys i dont have any intentions to make her have feelings for me, and i know its not something rightful to ask for. Love should happen but itself with out anyone forcing.
Just that i want to spend more time with her, and at the same point, the more time i spend with her the more i love her. Days are becoming very difficult to face.
A
male
reader, Serpico  +, writes (14 January 2013):
Listen to the below. You cant manufacture love or feelings for you. She either does, or she doesnt.
...............................
A
female
reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (14 January 2013):
 I'm sorry you're in a really tough situation, but you can't make someone love you - it just isn't going to happen.
You've been pursuing her for three years, and she isn't willing to see you as anything other then a friend.
I know you don't want to hear this, but there is absolutely nothing you can do to make her love you. She's not the one for you - it's time for you to move on
...............................
A
male
reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (14 January 2013):
 You can't change her feelings. You're OUT. FInd someone else who does think of you that way.
...............................
A
female
reader, mrswaldhauser +, writes (14 January 2013):
 I'm afraid this is the story of a love that is clearly one-sided. She has made it clear to you on more than one occasion that she doesn't feel the same way about you and just sees you as a friend and there is nothing you can do to make someone love you if they don't. You need to be there for her as a friend if she wants you to be and if that is too difficult for you because of your feelings for her then you need to let her go and tell her that it is just too hard and you can't bear to see her marry another man, especially if she has told you that it isn't what she really wants. Find a woman who loves you back.
...............................
|
