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writes:Please advice me:What does it mean if you send a facebook friend request to a guy and he didnt deny or accept the request?When I send this facebook request I also send a message to him asking him if he is on a dating site, and told him if he wants he could find me on that dating site.( I knew that he isnt a member on that dating site and I am sure of that).He didnt reply but did read the message. Two or three days after my message he went on vacation. He visited two countries with his brother.Then after around two weeks on vacation he both was back from vacation and also I saw that he and his brother became members on that dating site for the first time.I visited him on that dating site which means that he could see my name, picture and my age among the visitors that visited him on that site. I didnt write anything to him because I thought if he want he can contact me. But he didnt contact or even visit me on that dating site.Around 10 days has gone since he started an account on that dating site, and he still didnt contact or visit me on that dating site.Why didnt he talk to me on that dating site and why didnt he visit me on that dating site? Isnt he interested?What does it mean that he became a member only when I told him that he can find me on that dating site? He wasnt a member before I told him.Please advice my what shall I do? shall I talk to him and what should I tell him? Isnt he interested or he didnt decide yet? Thanks for your advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2013): So, you are trolling for dates on Facebook?Facebook is for friends, and you don't even know him yet. If you are promoting yourself to be on a dating site, he knows perfectly well you are sending the same kind of messages to other guys, which is fine, but that's what you do on dating sites, not facebook. Why would he accept a facebook friend request from someone who is just possibly passing through...unless he's into collecting FB friends just for numbers, he probably is friends with people he actually knows, not random people.He probably went to the dating site, just because he was curious, but if all that time passed, he's not interested. Why do you assume he would be interested in you? You don't know who he is, who he's attracted to or what he's into....you are putting an awful lot of weight on a complete stranger. Just move on....
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2013): Re: female anonymous's advice. NO, just NO. PLEASE stop promoting this sort of nonsense:"Don't ever contact a guy first unless is like an emergency. You need to play a little hard to get. Guys usually like a challange. So if you seem very into them from the beginning, they will 8 out of 10 times lose interest in you"That only applies to teenage boys and morons. It's just total nonsense that some women seem intent on promoting as fact. It isn't. As a guy, with lots of guy friends, I can tell you now that the one thing that puts us OFF and does not make us keen, are women who play any form of games, which is what you are suggesting. Decent men don't like a challenge and we like someone showing interest in us, whether they contact us first or becoming into us very quickly, just as women like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2013): Ok so here is the deal. When a guy is really interested in you he will reply immidiately. I tell you from experience. If you try to contact him and he didn't do everything within his power to reach you he isn't interested. Sometimes guys are too "nice" or in other terms they don't have the courage to turn someone down. Which is good, he's a gentleman. But the truth is that he isn't interested. For future advice, whenever you find a guy you like. Talk to him in person. Don't ever contact a guy first unless is like an emergency. You need to play a little hard to get. Guys usually like a challange. So if you seem very into them from the beginning, they will 8 out of 10 times lose interest in you. That's just the truth. But just because he isn't interest it doesn't mean it's the end of the world. There are plenty of guys out there. That one special person is out there waiting for you. You just need to have a better approach in this type of situations. Let the guy put some effort in winning you over!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2013): When someone doesn't accept you or deny you on facebook, it means they don't want to accept you, yet they are too polite to deny you. The others are right. He's not interested in you. It doesn't mean you're unattractive in any way, you're apparently just not his type.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (14 January 2013):
 he's not interested in you as a date....
move on.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (14 January 2013):
 If you tell a guy that you are on a dating site, he will always assume you are looking to date someone else and that will put him off you (men do not like competition where women ae concerned), he plainly isn't 'into' you in the relationship sense so just forget about him and move on.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 January 2013):
 Why do you think he's interested? It sounds pretty clear to me that he is not interested. If he wants to contact you he will. He has not and if I had to guess, won't. Time to move on.
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reader, mrswaldhauser +, writes (14 January 2013):
 Please see my answer on your other post as I'm pretty sure I've already answered this story. If Badoo is the site you are talking about then you've posted this one before and I've put an answer on there for you ;)
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