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writes:I am really confused here. I was seeing a great guy he is Canadian and is a student here in the uk. Things were going so well and I knew how much he was into me. We spent the night together I felt so close to him. The next day he got really bad news that his dad was sick and he was completely crushed. I could tell how upset he was and I felt so upset for him. But after that day he never even contacted me again. After calling him a few days later. All I got was one text telling me he was going to see his dad and his flight was like 2 days later. I tried to ask if he wanted to see me before he left I asked if he wanted to end things with us to focus on his family. Yet nothing. Not a peep. Since then I have emailed and tried to talk to him. Nothing. I'm really upset because it was going so well. I haven't done anything. I can understand he might need space. I just wish he would contact me. Should I cut my loses and move on? Or hope he might come back into my life.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (14 January 2013):
 if he's out of the country he may not have international texting and calling and he may not be near a computer.
I know when my mom was very ill I was out of touch with everyone.
I would just chalk it up to him being in the right place with you at the wrong time in his life and let him go.
it sucks and you feel no closure but it's not a reflection on you at all.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (14 January 2013):
 Hmmmm... This stinks. Are you 100% certain his Dad is sick? Sounds like an excuse to me. Men hear this sort of thing all the time; "I have to cancel our date because my cat isn't well".
If I were you I'd cut my losses and move on. Cut all contact and ignore any messages/emails. If he comes back then he comes back but don't count on it.
This guy is giving you the runaround. Just because his Dad is supposedly sick doesn't affect his ability to talk/message you. In fact, during troubled times most people would love to talk to their loved ones/partner for support.
This guy is OUT.
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reader, Read-the-signs +, writes (14 January 2013):
I think that, regardless of his father's illness and family stuff going on, he would have shown more interest by contacting you more. I'm sorry, but it's not a great sign that he hasn't been more communicative.
Watch out for him re-appearing in your life at a later stage full of excuses just to get together with you again. He has not shown you the right level of politeness or respect to allow that.
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