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writes:I need help urgently!!!I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 8months tomorrow, and right now I am so confused on what to do next!!At the start of the month we moved in together in a flat, and he often tells me he loves me, etc... but lately I havent been feeling like he means it.He has cheated on me in the past, and it almost killed me, and he promised never to do it again, yet I know he is still chatting and flirting and sending and receiving nude pics on his phone. When I confront him he denies it, and he deletes it before I can use it as proof.On Thursday I was around when I friend mentioned about an app for a dating site, and told him about it... I knew he would sign up on it... so I went and googled an image of the type of person he likes and created a fake profile. Low and behold, he contacted my fake profile today, and wants to meet up with the fake profile. So I let the profile reply and make a date and time 9:30pm (its 8:06pm while typing this).Now I am not sure on what to do... do I go there myself, and show him just how badly he fucked up...Do I confront him on it? Do I leave it and make it as if the person cant make it? And then try work on his guilt later? I dont know what to do next!! Can I still consider it cheating if he was prepared to go through with this? Even if he didnt actually do anything?HELP!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2013): You should meet up with him, catch him red handed in the act of meeting somebody (You), and then dump him.
He can't be trusted. How many other ways do you need proof of this?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 January 2013):
 yes dear he's a liar and a cheater.
But I would have done exactly what Code Warrior said.
You have your proof that he' does not care enough about you to treat you with respect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2013): Dump him. That's all. Break it off immediately.
What a jerk. Sorry this is what he turned out to be. There is someone far better out there for you :-)
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (14 January 2013):
 I don't know when you'll read this, and the time of the 'date' may have passed already. If it was me, I'd stand him up. Let him wait for the fictitious woman. But then again, I would have dumped him the first time he cheated and I certainly wouldn't have moved in with him.
Whatever you decide (/decided) to do, you know he's a cheater. He's not faithful to you. How much proof do you need before you accept it? Going on dating websites, sending nude pictures and sexting are all cheating. He isn't changing like he said he would, you know that.
You don't even need to confront him about this, you need to dump him.
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