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writes:Times have been hard lately for my husband and I so we got a room mate to help split the rent of our 3 bedroom 3 bathroom home.I'm 27 and my husband is 29 our new room mate is a 20 year old college student, pretty quit and geeky. I'm a stay at home mom and becoming a desperate housewife. I find him attractive and we play around sometimes, a little kissing here and there. cuddling and stuff. I really want to do more with him. I think I should tell him to move out before my feelings get stronger. I don't know what to do should I tell him to move out?...should I tell my husband and get a new room mate ?
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reader, Serpico +, writes (15 January 2013):
IMO you have already committed adultery, and IMO are only a pocket-protector away from it having gone the full way already.You are well on your way to losing your husband. Proceed accordingly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2013): I totally agree with MrsWaldhauser..couldn't have said it better myself!!
And for you to have the guts to even ask this question on the internet is disgusting.
Who do you think is really going to comment back being like oh yeah have fun!..Unless they are retarded?
Get a grip of yourself!
Your husband is out earning money to pay for the food you eat, the clothes on your back and the house you live in and this is how you repay him?
I hope he finds out and kicks your ass to the curb because he deserves much better!!
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (15 January 2013):
 Hi
If this question is for real ........
then I think its totally unfair to evict this poor lad
Your the experienced one, the mature one, the married one, control yourself, its quite easy.Stop playing games with him
Your husband should evict you, your struggling moneywise,he's out at work earning and all you can do is jeapordise the extra income.
Go out and work or volunteer, anything, to help the situation financially and support your husbands efforts.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 January 2013):
 I am sure the 20-year old nerd will learn a hard lesson: don't mess with a married woman. No, make it better: don't mess with the married woman of your landlord. No, even better: don't mess with the married woman of your landlord because she will have you evicted. Even better: don't mess with the married woman of your landlord because she will have you evicted and the husband will kick your ass.
The sad thing is that the 20 year old will have to go. But then he deserves that somehow.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (15 January 2013):
 Get a hold on yourself. Don't ruin your marriage for a few moments of pleasure, its not worth it. Get a job to help with the money and distract yourself.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (14 January 2013):
 Are you sure your husband wont evict YOU instead? I will be honest with you, that if I was in his situation, I would be far more hurt by you, not your room mate. If you are distracted so easily then there are other important things you should be figuring out and working on.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 January 2013):
 I would have him move out and I would suggest you get a job to help with the bills instead.
I would not move an unrelated person into a marital home EVER.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2013): I don't mean to be rude or come across as judgemental. I don't know you to judge you. What I will say is what happened to for better or for worse? Richer or poorer and FORSAKING all others? Just because he's cute and available don't mean you should be kissing him or cuddling. I would think a mother of two should even have the time to be hanging up under a roommate. I hope you're children doesn't see this because they are going to inform you're husband!If things are off in you're marriage, you and your husband should talk and work things out. If you keep going at this rate, something will happen between you and your new tenant. You can either set the ground rules for this tenant. Let him know that the fun times are over. Get a new tenant. Tell your husband and hope and pray he forgives you. Some advice for the future.Always put yourself in the other person's position. How would you feel if that person did to you what you're doing to them? That will pretty much answer all questions you have about what to do.Best wishes to you.
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reader, mrswaldhauser +, writes (14 January 2013):
 First of all what you should do is feel pretty damn guilty about what you've been doing. Your husband has moved a younger man into your home thinking nothing would ever happen and trusted you enough to be at home all day and you do this to him! Reverse this situation, would you be happy with your husband at home all day with a 20 year old cute school girl? If you are a stay at home mom does this mean you have been cheating (because that is what you are doing whether you have had sex with him or not) whilst your children are in the home? What, are you waiting for them to nap so you can have your cuddles and kisses with this young man? I think you have been very foolish and at your age you are only just starting out and you've damaged your relationship already. You need to ask this man to leave and explain to your husband what has been happening. I can pretty much promise he will not allow another young man to be staying in your home paying rent. If he does forgive you, you will be lucky if he lets a woman stay there. But then again, if you are that bored at home you may find her interesting enough to kiss and cuddle too! Your poor husband. This is all I can say.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (14 January 2013):
You have a choice: kick him out or risk losing your marriage. The choice is yours but trust me, if you continue down this path your husband will find out.
A moment of pleasure is not worth losing your marriage is it? If it is then you need to really work on your marriage!
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