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writes:I'm 22 years old, 23 in January and I have slept with 3 guys. The first one became my bf when I was 14 and we finally slept together at the age of 16 and a half then broke up when I was 17 and a half. The second guy became my bf just before I turned 18 and I was with him until I was 20 and a half then not long after that I met the guy Im with now and have been with him for almost 2 years.I was having a convo with my bf today and we were talking about kids and I had mentioned that if I have kids Id be devastated if they slept around or had a one night stand. But I honestly would... I mean obviously I dont mind about the whole sex before marriage thing but I dont want my kids to be sleeping around and doing things like that... Id rather they were like me and only slept with whomever their dating. Yes I know most people appear to have one night stands a lot because well many of my friends are like that but there are more people out there who do not.My bf was like if we had a girl she wouldnt be allowed out kind of attitude but if he had a boy he wouldnt encourage it but if that happened he'd be all 'thats my boy' and proud I guess whereas Id be totally gutted.My bf is 27. Im his 4th girlfriend. He was with his ex for 2 years, the one before that 5 years and one before that 3 years and lost his virginity at 15/16. He has never cheated and slept with around 50 girls give or take so that gives an idea that yeah he's one who has most definately slept around.Im also one who doesnt want my bf to go to strip clubs or own pornish magazines.Am I wrong for thinking like this?I'd like to know if I'm the only one who thinks like this? or if im wrong or something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2012): i dont think your in the wrong at all!
its your opinion and there is nothing wrong with that, in fact its actually refreshing to know there are people like you out there.
im exactly the same in this area aswell. i lost my virginity at the age of 22 to a man i fell for and am still with today after 3 years.
everyone is welcome to do things how they wish but ive always believed that there are certain morals that should be respected more.
good on you
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2012): Your values conflict with your BF's. It does not make you wrong in the slightest. It is just a compatibility problem that you have with this guy. (And there are LOTS of guys out there who don't sleep around like that. Most guys do not.)
Its the same problem as if you had slept around in the past and he was taking issue with it now. People have different views about promiscuity. That can cause conflicts especially once kids get into the picture.
People love to say you can just leave the past in the past. But its not that simple. People's actions reflect who they are, and who they are does not only affect the past.
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