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Does he have another reason why he's not willing to let me help? He doesn't want to allow me to be the designated driver when he goes out drinking with his female colleagues.

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Question - (2 November 2012) 1 Answers - (Newest, 2 November 2012)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I'm recently married. Things generally are very good with our relationship.

Just today, though, my husband told me that he has to travel to his company's other office a couple hours away sometime next week, and that he's going to stay after work and have drinks with his co-workers, who are all women.

I know it's not really out of the ordinary to have a drink with a co-worker, but he's never traveled to that office since we've been together (over 2 years), and he's not much of a drinker, so this sounds off to me. He's also vague about what day this is happening. Should I be concerned? Something rubs me the wrong way.

I suggested that I come with him, maybe go to a coffee shop while he works then join him with his co-workers when they have drinks and be the designated driver, since it's so far away. (I work for myself, so I make my own schedule.)

He didn't say no, but was discouraging me from doing so. I mean, having drinks then driving 2 hours home at night sounds like a bad combo; I want to be in DD if that's the case - for his safety. Is that wrong of me to want that?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2012):

I think you are more curious about his female coworkers than his safety and he knows that. If he has given you a reason not to trust him, then address that instead of hoping to ferrit it out by offering your "help".

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