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36-40,
*ender
writes:There a guy an old crush till recently I really thought I was over him but I guess part still has some feelings. Long story short on my first day at uni at coffee shop. ii started eye flirted with cute guy across the room we both with other ppl so didn't get chance to talk but he flirted back. Later found his the sociology professor. With our current positions it seem very unlikely of any possibility of anything happen. I must admit there small part fate will b kind n give us a chance. For now I will carry the burden in silence.The other night like always he invalid my dreams, but the typical romance one. This was actually very scary. In the dream in class n we were talking about some social issues n I see very clearly on his arm an recent self-harm cut I recall being very upset in the dream. But now I'm just constantly worried.I know it he love to do social research n advocate for social justice issues in South America region n in chilli, from my understand socialist tend to write art lice n analyst of the social structure m politics issues. I admire n respect him so much as a person n teacher but i can't help myself fearing for his safety. It feels wrong but i myself checking his fb page even though his not on my list, just to make sure his alive n hopefully ok . Is that wrong of me to do so.
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reader, Fender +, writes (3 November 2012):
Fender is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst of all thank you for your advice.
Guess part it true i do check his page cause i still care[that and sometime i like to go and steal some resources links he good collections of resolutions image that i used in my workshop.]
While i agree with most of the points raise. However i also like point out n state. I may have interpreted it wrong but i really didn't agree with the statement your not worries about him. Yes i was sexually that was also before we know that he was going to be my teacher. Despite we have during class time we have our professional hat which mean any urges n feelings are ignore, i have are on ice til end of class. I do worried because i really do care about him. i care if lives dies, i feel a sting if his hurt, either mental or physicals.
Also when i said part hope i meant only when there not boundaries and if wants t. I didn't enter the humanitarian sector for nothing.
I'm sorry don't mean to sound defensive,but im not sallow
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 November 2012):
 I think you want to "check up on him" because you still have the crush on him, not because you are worried.
I think as long as you can be honest with yourself as to WHY you are doing what you are doing it can be OK. If you start to STALK his Facebook or whatnot, you know you are crossing a line that isn't healthy.
And really, having a look see is not going to hurt anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2012): yes it is wrong. you have to seperate his role in your life with your feelings. you know its just a crush, so step back and get busy concentrating on you. he is a grown man who is in a position of trust and needs to take care of himself.
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