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writes:hello :)) i'm single since birth and i do not know why,i know that i'm not that head turner lady but still i'm not the super ugly one..before,there are some guys who i know that liked me,they show gestures that they like me (like i always catch them staring at me,their friends smiles or act something strange when i'm around or when the guy talks to me..and the like),but they seem not to pursue..i don't know what's wrong with me..am i so intimidating,or something.?please help :(( Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 September 2011):
 You need to take action. Nothing will happen if you sit put and act like you ignore the obvious interest these guys show you. You need to FLIRT. That means you look back if guys you like check you out, you smile at them, you let them know you're interested as well.You can't sit around and wait for a man to actively pursue you and close to force you out on a date, because that sort of man is probably not someone you want. My bet is you are still single because you aren't signaling back to these guys that you want them to approach you. Smile, eye contact. That's the two key things. After that, conversation, laugh, suggest to meet up, show an interest. The guys will be all over you once you start to show an interest.
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reader, TwoLeftFeet  +, writes (3 September 2011):
There's nothing wrong with you at all, in my experience, boys don't usually pursue unless they know it's worth them trying. If you like a boy, let him know you're interested, perhaps flirt with him? Or just talk to him more if flirting isn't your thing. Boys hate getting rejected and having their egos knocked, that may be why they don't persist. You'll find someone soon, don't worry and good luck. :)
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (3 September 2011):
 You sound like a respectable young lady that just needs to meet the right guy. Don't rush into anything but there a a myriad of different web sites for singles to meet up on try one but be VERY careful. There are animals out there waiting for a young prey to fall into their trap.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 September 2011):
 Not knowing you and your personality and circumstances, mine is necessarily a vague answer, in fact more of a wild guess. The reasons of your persisting singlehood might be many- including sheer bad luck ( let's hope it's not :)But speaking in general I have noticed that when people has above average trouble pairing up is a matter of excess : either too standoffish or too eager. If you are shy, lack self confidence, have trouble opening up etc... you may come across as cold and uninterested, an ice queen , even if you really aren't. Then again, if you feel very bad about being single, you may send off anxious , desperate vibes.Like, not being able to just relax in the company of men, tryng too hard to impress, to make them like you, mentally calculating at once if a new acquaintance has bf potential .... this kind of stuff. It's mostly subconscious,and it comes out through your body language.I may be off the mark, but based on your post... that's the best I can do :). Good luck anyway ! And, keep your eyes open,... but don't worry too much ; having a partner is nice, but not a mandatory condition for living a happy life.
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