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*abylav
writes:I had unprotected sex with my guy during the first day of my period .he's very afraid of blood and got turned of in the middle of it and then started acting weird. i didn't want to do it either but we are on a long dist. relationship and i feel he's not getting enough of it ..i mean the whole pressure of that plus the excitement that he's here made me suggest this horrific idea .now 1. i'm feeling uncomfortable down there (its my 3rd day) and having a burning sensation and wonder if i got an infection,2. i heard yesterday from a friend that you could get pregnent even while chumming!(he didn't cum inside and we stopped in just 5 seconds or so because he got turned off !but there must have been precum or something)3. most importantly for me ,he acted so different that day ..suddenly just ceased all intimacy ..i kissed him and he would just peck me back ..he said he needs to get over all the blood thing which freaked him out :( will the blood thing keep coming back to him everytime we get intimate or does he feel disgusted of me :( ?i asked him if he's scared anymore and all that he said nothing 'chilax' n 'dont worry' he never ever says dont worry to me!!!normally!does it mean he's denying that he's still perturbed?
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reader, babylav +, writes (14 September 2011):
babylav is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks a lot people :) ...everything fine.!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 September 2011):
 There is nothing " horrific " about sex during periods. Some men are squeamish about blood , and that's ok, obviously they should not be forced to go against their inclinations.
But sex involves anyway body fluids and secretions and other intimate stuff : sweat, saliva, sperm...
By this token, one should label as horrific and disgusting also oral sex, or French kissing. If you ,or he,don't like something, just don't do it, but please do not make it sound,or think of it, as if it were some shocking criminal practice.
As for " chumming ", personally I don't find anything hilarious in this choice of word, and I am pretty sure you'll change name for your periods once you find out what it really means.( And, btw, in slang it also used for " stinking up a place "...."
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (4 September 2011):
 OP you need to get a hold on yourself!! I mean come on...so you had sex on your periods...BIG DEAL!! Its not "horrific " in any way and stop treating it like something bad. Its not like you committed a crime or something. Periods happen to every woman and its normal and natural and nothing to be ashamed of. You're just over reacting and unless you are comfortable with it(which you clearly are not), how can you expect your BF to be so?
If on the other hand your BF is grossed out by this fact, then you cant do anything about it but just let him be and deal with it himself.
And yes, you CAN get pregnant while on your period.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2011): I thought "chumming" was hilarious. I've never heard it called that before.... absolutely made me laugh out loud!
Give it some time and don't worry; he'll get over it.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (4 September 2011):
 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chumming
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 September 2011):
 Burning sensation sounds like urinary tract infection. You'll need to see a doctor for it. It often happens when you have unprotected sex with a new partner. Use a condom next time.
Yes, you can get pregnant every time you have unprotected sex. Chances of pregnancy vary, but unless you're a professional at diagnosing when you're most fertile or not, don't even try to calculate safe periods. Calculating safe periods is difficult and time consuming, and even then it has it's risk percentage. Just use a condom at all times.
Especially if you are to have sex while on your period, it'd be nice to wear a condom. Just so the guy doesn't have to get blood on his penis, but can stay "clean" within the condom. It takes away some of the gross-factor.
Maybe he just needs a bit of time to get over what happened. But he shouldn't treat you any less than before, it was his choice as well to have sex while you are on your period. Try to cuddle more with him and see his reaction, then tell him it hurts your feelings if he pulls away.
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reader, babylav +, writes (4 September 2011):
babylav is verified as being by the original poster of the question@cathy :hmm :) thanks,yeah i did explain to him that i didn't bleed beacuse i'm hurt .its just the uterus lining etc. .i just hope he forgets it and doesn't carry it to bed on our next time !!
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reader, babylav +, writes (4 September 2011):
babylav is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey birdynumnums !first of all thanks for the advice ...will never ever do this again!i myself used to have goosebumps if i ever thought of anyone having sex on their period,i dont know what made me suggest i guess the whole pressure that if he didn't get it he might end up gettin it from elsewhere ..i trust him but ..anyways!i dont know whats gross about the word chumming??you're from a different country but here we girls generally refer to having periods as chumming ..like eg."i have a bad stomach ache " "oh! are you chumming or somethin?".."yeah :( i got my chums today" I'm sorry i really dont know exactly ,does it sound derogatory to you !!??lol please do tell me why so that i dont use the term with Canadians and people from the west!!!
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (4 September 2011):
I'm sorry... Chumming???? I have no problem discussing anything but CHUMMING???? You know, as women, we have enough issues about our bodies and our periods without using a term like CHUMMING to discuss our periods. Holy Honking Hell.
Yes. You can get pregnant when you are having your period because you are HAVING SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM.
And for the same reason, you can contact STI's.
You could actually only be having an allergic reaction to his sperm, but you won't know until you get properly checked out by an OB/GYN and I hope they yell at you for having unprotected sex as well. Use two forms of birth control, including one barrier method, until you are married.
Finally, some guys are freaked out, some guys don't care, every guy has his own opinion about sex during a menstrual cycle. You are going to have to suss that one out by yourself, because there is no right answer to that, only personal feelings about it.
CHUMMING?
Gross.
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