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Should I contact him or let things be?

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Question - (3 September 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 3 September 2011)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

There was a guy I knew for four years. I sort of liked him because he was always there for me when I needed it. He never judged me or anyone by their exterior and I feel like there was something there for me. I was super insecure so I let him go and at times on my ambitious drive would choose other guys over him just to see if I could get them. A year after not seeing him, I got in touch. He had a gf so I backed off. I ended up falling for his friend. I didn't know they were good friends. Both of them ended up getting out of touch. He even blocked me on facebook,etc. However, I just noticed that he unblocked me.

I feel like both of us did things wrong. He shouldn't have talked about me with his friend...and I shouldn't have continiously chosen guys over him.

When I look back, he is still the guy I respect beyond any and the one I can communicate with most openly and who understands me. I don't know if I do love him...but I know that in some strange way we get one another.

As for his friend, he never tried to get in touch or unblock me.

Even if his friend had unblocked me, though my feeligns were stronger for his friend, I respect him so much that I would always choose him over love.

Should I add him back on facebook or should I wait for him to?

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A female reader, Claraw1 Australia +, writes (3 September 2011):

Claraw1 agony auntLast year I was in a situation where a man that I had feelings for, who was a great friend; I had lost contact with him and I wanted to contact him again. I added him on facebook and now we are a couple very much in love. My advice is add him and if he accepts take it from there, if he doesn't then you will know. If he adds you don't have any expectations though, just talk and see what happens. It is worth the risk, and you will then know either way. Good luck, I hope it all works out.

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