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female
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30-35,
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writes:i have absloutly no confidence when it comes to sex! really want to srop being so unconfident and insecure and i keep tellin myself that im gonna take controll during sex, but when it comes to it i can never do it! i am generally quite a confident person! i dont get it! i lost my virginity about 3 months ago and im still with the guy i lost it too. i guess that confidence might come with exsperiance but i want to take controll with the guy im with. i keep giving myself confidence pep talks thinking that it will give me the guts and it does right up to the piont of actually takinf controll. can anyone give me any sex tips to make my man scweal lol or anything that might make me feel more confident. thanx xxx
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reader, MissLoca  +, writes (4 September 2011):
Well I personally think that you just aren't all that comfortable with him yet. After I had sex with my bf for the first time, he took my virginity, I didnt even want him to see me naked for more than a few seconds. I just didn't feel comfortable. I think you need to stop stressing out about taking control and just go with the flow. Your confidence and comfortability will come to you in time, it's no need to be stressing over.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (4 September 2011):
 Rather than focusing on sex, try focusing on being able to have open and intimate conversations with your boyfriend about other topics. Hold each other and talk about your hopes and fears, and share some secrets and things that mean a lot to you. This will bring you closer emotionally, which will help you open up sexually with each other. The intimacy will make you confident when it comes to sex.
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