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writes:Having just returned from a cruise and had a lovely time-towards the end I became friendly with a nice man slightly older than myself (although he was friendly and chatted to everyone) however we had lunch together several times and coffee one evening But I didnt invite him back to my cabin, because I was scared he might think I do it on every cruise and wasnt too fussy!!I like him and he asked for my e mail and said he would e mail. We had a lot in common including finding out he lives 2 miles from where I was brought up as a child and he was a teacher in the subject I was best at in school at the time.I am scared he might not think I fancied him because I didnt invite him to my cabin and not bother to e mail me (I didnt get to see him when I went so didnt get his) -should I have invited him back or will he wait if he really liked me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2011): I think there is a good chance he will contact you. Shame you did not get his email, but never mind. I'm sure that your not taking him to your cabin will not deter him if he is interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2011): There is nothing wrong with that, but if you do like him make it obvious by being friendly and dont always wait for him to contact you first, so he knows you are thinking of him. Its really confusing for a guy when talking to a girl they like and them trying to play hard to get.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 September 2011):
 Don't worry, you did right.First, that the woman may be the one to initiate things sexually , is not forbidden, but is not mandatory either !So, when you did not invite him back to your cabin, he won't have thought that you did not like him, he will have thought that you wanted to wait, not to rush things. And apparently he respects that. Second, supposing that unluckily he was not terribly interested, it's not by taking him to your cabin and jumping his bones that you'd have made him like you more. Probably he would have seized the chance- and remained uninterested. If he really liked you, he will get in touch. And if he did not- at least you haven't shared intimacy with a guy who did not care .
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (3 September 2011):
 Try not to "over-think" the things you might have,should have or could have done . Life is a series of accidental great things. Live as a tree does and wait for the rain rather than suck harder at the dry earth.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 September 2011):
 IF he fancies you he will contact you. Had you invited him back he might have just had his way with you and be done with it. Giving your body to a man does not promise that he will continue to contact you.Personally I think you did the right thing. IF he is seriously interested he will get in touch.
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