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*ennie
writes:we are married for 11 years she drop me for other guy one night stand she ask me to give her sekond try sins then things does not work out fight everyday i dont trust her anymore the whole day just on her phone i send her sms sometimes she didn,t reply if i ask her she said she busy in house but if i checked on her phone see she chat whole day to her friends and family but for me she havent got time it look for me she dont care anymore about me she do nothing for me i really love her so much
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (3 September 2011):
Oh yeah, and when you do leave, make sure she has child support payments coming on a regular basis. Take responsibility.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (3 September 2011):
OK, after reading your followup to our advice, to be blunt, I don't blame her.
You know, you really need to tell the whole story if you need help.
Anyway, it looks like you are the one who really needs to be straightened out.
My advice is still to leave her, but not for the sake of your happiness, but for hers.
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reader, Hennie +, writes (3 September 2011):
Hennie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhell what i didnt told you is that i was cheating for almost 6 7 years even while my whife was pregnant. What i also didnt tell you is all the times i left her and my 3 kids at home without even bread in the house but write tjeks out for my girlfriend. What i also didnt tell you is how bad i treated my wife even though at that time she was a good wife and a good mother.and when i said my whife had a one night stand i didnt told you that she knew this person and had an affair
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (3 September 2011):
She is asking you to give it a second try but it seems like she is not giving the marriage a second try. This is selfish on her part. Were you having any other issues before this happened? Those need to be addressed. And you need to find out anything else she might be hiding from you. Did you find this out or did she confess it? If she confessed it, you do have a better chance. More often than not, these things don't work out after trust has been violated like this.
And I am sorry to say, you can't really love someone like this. You love who she used to be or who you thought she was. Its really on her now. You just need to be honest with yourself as to what her intentions really are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2011): If you want this to work, you guys need to sit down and talk everything out. Couples counseling is almost definitely needed here, and you both have to work your hardest- it can't just be one of you trying and the other blowing it off. Ask her if she really wants to try, and tell her if she does then she actually has to try and that right now it really doesn't seem like she is. Try not to attack her or anything as it will make her defensive- try to be more neutral about it. Admit you haven't been doing your best either, etc. Good luck. Remember, sometimes the best option is just to walk away... You don't want to be stuck pining after a woman who treats you like crap and possibly will cheat on you again in the future.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (3 September 2011):
 You have to determine whether you love your wife enough to move on from this and give her another chance. But it seems that she does not love you like you love her. She's lying to your face and seems to be deliberately avoiding you. Why stay married to a cheater? Even if it was just one time, you need to be with someone who won't let the temptation go further than their minds. And if they are really tempted and feel like they can't stop themselves, then they should talk to you about it or leave before they hurt you. But she doesn't care about you the way you do her or you wouldn't have been cheated on. You will get over this. How you decide to do it is your choice.
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reader, Hennie +, writes (3 September 2011):
Hennie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHennie
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