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Archived questions from: January, 2010 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How do other couples spend time together and feel connected when it's just a lazy winter day and there's really nothing to do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5436 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 51-59 - Puzzled by b/f's behavior. This happens a lot. We're stuck inside. B/F is surfing the web on his laptop. I sit on the couch with him, and play a video game with volume turned off. After an hour he wants to watch TV. So I turn off the game but can't get into the program he wants ... (178 words)

Sexual positions!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 30-35 - What's your favorite sexual position and why?... (7 words)

Please help me, I'm so confused...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 30-35 - I met my ex on a dating site after a few months of chatting. We decided to meet our first date went very and end up dating. For nearly a year all was going well until I went out one night I was raped was a virgin. After that I went through a very rough patch, me and my ex re... (220 words)

How can I stop myself having an erection when we're together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, I'm gay/bi/confused and haven't told anyone. I'm kind of in love with my best friend, my heart skips a best when I see him, when he talks I just want to kiss his lips, he makes me horny and is part of every fantasy, wet dream or wank. My problem is, we're both going... (139 words)

Why do men like anal sex so much?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5428 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a question for the guys. Why do men like anal. And why do men like to play with women's buttholes. ... (22 words)

The anecdote of perfection!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5436 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay, so. I'm 19, shes 20. We started going out about 9 months ago, we click, we are perfectly together. So perfect, that i know its bad. We are both very close, we don't have intrest in other people, but we find, that our relationshop is perfect. We rarely fight, but when we ... (142 words)

Is he more attached than he let on??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello: My boss is like 44 yrs old. He is very immature.. Well, I have been pulling away from him for some time because of an attraction between us. Needless to say - It went to HR. He asked to stay cordial with me and wanted us to still be friends, and for... (468 words)

Oddly attracted to cousin...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5399 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 30-35 - Well, how can I explain this... recently, I have been very "oddly" attracted to my female cousin. I don't know why, but I need to know. Is this wrong? Please help me out guys, I'm waiting.... (36 words)

Men's sex drive!

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31 January 2010 (F)

age 30-35 - how high is a mans sex drive after 30? and is it normal if a man older than 30 never got turned on with a previous partner but does with his current partner?... (33 words)

My sex life is just one big stress!!!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 26-29 - I am soo stressed about this. I'm very young but I love my bf. I don't know if I should wait or go for it but I have a feeling that this time is right to have sex but when it comes to this I get very stressed out I tremble and I can't breathe. I don't know whats wrong with me, ... (100 words)

I'm a bit stuck! What to get him for valentine's day?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5436 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 30-35 - im 15 and ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 7 months, we love each other so much x and its going so well... its coming up to valentines day and have thought of some stuff to get him but dont want them to be too mushy..., i was thinking about getting him like a thorntons ... (87 words)

I broke his trust... how can I make this better?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5419 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, so I am a senior in high school and so is my boyfriend and we are both almost 18. We have been together since we were freshmen and our three year anniversary is coming up. Our first time having sex wasn't planned at all and this happened almost two years ago. This... (328 words)

His anger problems are tearing us apart...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F) age 36-40 - My bf and I have been together for 3 years collectively now. I've broken up with him before because of his uncontrolled anger problem. He gets angry at the smallest things and then I have to try and calm him down. Usually when he gets angry it spoils our day because he's in a ... (292 words)

Your advice is needed. I don't know what to do for the best... for me!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, Thank you for reading my email. I hope it makes sense and you can help me. Ok so i have been in a relationship for around 3 years now, we were due to get a house but broke up last Monday. It was my own fault i suppose, my girlfriend had doubts about how faithful i had b... (978 words)

What's a 69'r???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5400 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend has recently asked me to perform a 69er with him but I don't know what to do :S please help ... (23 words)

How do I stay strong and have faith???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 30-35 - Well I've been going out with this guy for about a year, and we've just decided to split up because we both go to different schools and have hobbies and commitments inbetween and it's made it hard for us to be together and to be a proper couple as we hardly get anytime ... (350 words)

Why is she distancing herself from me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5435 days ago

31 January 2010 (?)

- I am a middle aged female. My very best friend is also a middle aged female. She say's she has had low self-esteem all of her life. What I don't understand about low self-esteem in regards to my friend, is when she thinks I am distancing myself or if I don't tell her how much ... (146 words)

I am always nice to girls, but they don't seem attracted to me.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 30-35 - No girls seem that attracted to me, i am always nice to them, being a gentleman what else can i do, ... (21 words)

Should I tell him my REAL age?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 26-29 - hey you guys i have a question that i want to ask im 14 soon to be 15 in june and my boyfriend is younger than i am i want to tell himm that im older than him but im way to scared that he might reject me becuse of that. please tell me how should i tell him the truth. so if i do ... (99 words)

I'm really angry right now. What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5421 days ago

31 January 2010 (F) age 36-40 - I'm a bit angry right now. I just broke up with my boyfriend. Reason being that he had trust issues with me and my past, for the record in the past I wasn't a slut (although he thinks I was) and well, I gave oral sex to a guy we both know (I stopped talking to that guy... well ... (605 words)

Would having sex with her change the perameters of our relationship?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5435 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi. I'm an 18 year old virgin. A girl I know, who is a close friend of mine, has said she will have sex with me if I want, so I can gain experience. I really like her, and I wouldn't say no, if you get me. But she's one of my closest friends and I don't know if sex would mak... (102 words)

I am tired of my boyfriend being too relaxed on the weekends to go out.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a demanding 4 year old boy and a boyfriend of 1 year. We see each other twice a week. Half of the time he calls to say his shift happens to be short that day so he could see me. The other times we call on the weekends and hope we would meet up. The problem is if I plan ... (223 words)

Why is she talking about how hot her body is after I creeped her out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 36-40 - I was really hung up on a good friend of mine. I told her I liked her and she said she liked me too but no thanks. Later I got really drunk and sent her an email about how much I liked parts of her body and how seeing her for a couple of minutes the previous day had made me ... (174 words)

My boyfriend became violent and doesn't tell me what is the matter. Can you help me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 36-40 - hi. my boyfriend is a very nice person and is very caring. recently he has been quite violent and aggresive. i dont know whats wrong. ive asked him and he says nothing is bothering him. can anyone help me please. ... (40 words)

First kiss difficulties...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 26-29 - dear cupid: how do you have your first kiss with a boy who hasnt ever kissed any one either cos everyone has told me to follow him but wot if he was expectin to follow me ??? x... (38 words)

I have ED, how common is this over 40? WHY do I have it? Am I the only one?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4918 days ago

31 January 2010 (M) age - How common is erectile dysfunction over 40? I, m having ED since 43,and now,Im 47.. My doctor did not find anything wrong with me medically. He just says,it is aging. I CAN'T ACCEPT THAT.I really don't want to complain, but it is such a bad situation. My wife is still with ... (133 words)

What is making me think of someone else when I am with the love of my life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5436 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 41-50 - Ill try be brief, i have been with my boyfriend for over 10 years, im only 26 .i love him his my soul mate and best friend and i would die for him and never want any harm to come to him and we laugh so much together. His so sweet and kind and treats me like a princess and is ... (522 words)

After a flirting/emotional relationship with someone else, am I finally able to relax in my marriage?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5436 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 51-59 - I had a flirting/emotional relationship with a committee colleague and his wife found out several months ago. She snooped on his phone and found some incriminating texts he hadn't deleted and he told her it was just a game between us. She rang me and texted me wanting to know ... (317 words)

What position would be best for first time intercourse?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 30-35 - so me and my gf are goin to have sex for the 1st time. we are both sure we want to do this. i have asked other questions having to do with this, and so far almost no one has said anything about waiting until were legal, and isnt the legal age 16? ok, so for our first time what ... (111 words)

Would I be wise to take another chance with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 41-50 - hello, i split with my boyfriend of three years, almost three months ago. The desicion was his, i tried all ways for us to stay together but at the time he was having none of it. we stopped seeing each other all together, as he lives a 1hr and half away from me, but he would... (391 words)

How do I resolve all of these issues that I have with my dad?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F) age 41-50 - I'm don't know how to resolve an ongoing issue with my dad. He and I haven't been that close for many years. He left us just before I started gradeschool and he started a new family. He was a fun guy for me when I was a kid, but then he changed very abruptly and became someone ... (751 words)

Is not seeing each other while he's away...ruin what we have?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 15 and have been talking to a 18 year old boy for about 3 years now. He went to my school. There is nothing wrong, we text almost every day and speak on msn when we can. I sometimes worry about texting first incase i seem desperate or silly but most of the time it's him. I ... (192 words)

Is she afraid, I'll move away when I'm done college? advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 36-40 - I am totally lost with this at the moment. I'm 22 and talking to a girl that is 18. She is a senior in high school and I am in college. We have been on quite a few dates and things are going really well between us. She just got out of a bad relationship and wants to take ... (206 words)

My wife lacks interest in certain sex acts, I like. How do I convince her to keep trying?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5432 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age - My questions are simple, I have been married for quite a while we always have had a good sex life. I know that as you get somewhat older it will slowdown. We always tried different things had a good mix 3 to 4 times a week when younger, now we will only do it if I'm lucky 1 or ... (206 words)

Lack of experience...any tips to share?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 30-35 - Im a 20 year old guy who has never had sex/date/or gf. i consider myself pretty decent-looking and have confidence. i talked to a couple of girls from high school that were just friends but the biggest problem i have is my lack of experience in 'taking the next step.' iv never ... (160 words)

He's much older than me..will this be a problem?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 5427 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 36-40 - I am carrying this kind of problem everyday. I am confused and i don't know what is best and right to do. I currently having a relationship with a guy who is older than me and separated from him wife. I am 23 years old and he is 50 years of age. I met this guy when i was s... (330 words)

How can I achieve orgasm, while he's on top?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5436 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok here's one for you, How can i achive a orgasm when he's on top? I can only have one when i'm on top of him! he doesn't know, and i'm afraid to tell him, because i've been faking for awhile. But iv'e really never been able to orgasm any other way, and with any other partner. ... (77 words)

My husband has touched my daughter... how do I deal with it?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3843 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 51-59 - My daughter who is 19 has suffered from depression for the past 3 years, she is on tablets and struggles to sleep. I have tried to talk to her to help her to try find out why. She finally opened up to her CPN at the end of november, she told them that when she was 11 her dad ... (564 words)

Guys, what makes you think a girl is easy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 30-35 - all guys that comes my way. thinks am cute and sexy. and they all just seem to want sex.. i dont dress sl.utty..or give it up easy.. but i do however, flirt with guys alot..(thats cos they always start flirting with me first) and when they realise am not like that..sl.ut... (140 words)

My boyfriend and I have a fictitious lover - anyone with similar stories?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 51-59 - I am looking for input. My fiance's biggest turn on is fantasizing about me sleeping with other men. I don't but for the sake of role play have developed a fictitious 'boyfriend' and make it as real for him as possible. So, is there anyone else out there that has a similar ... (56 words)

Should we wait longer to have sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 30-35 - hey im 15 and im thinking about having sex with my girlfreind but my penis is 5.5" erect with the girth of 4" is it too small and should i wait longer + will a condom fit ?... (38 words)

How can a friend be so close and never want to talk to you?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 30-35 - My friend only talks to me when he doesn't kno its me? I just started AIM and added him. He kept asking who it was and I didnt want to tll him knowing if I did he would never chat with me. I wanted so much to talk to him but he never understands me. How can a friend e so close ... (154 words)

Once I was accused of rape and it proved to be a lie! I am afraid it can happen again.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 30-35 - I just need some reassurance because i am worrying really. When i was 11 in school, we went on a week long residential trip to wales, half way through the week, a person i thought was a friend, she was also 11 accused me of raping her. it got found out she was lying of course, ... (130 words)

"Fake" friend hitting on girlfriend - what should I do so she doesn't speak to him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 30-35 - im an 18 year old male. i have a girlfriend and my friend is so messed up and says stuff to her behind my back. he asks her to send him sexual pictures. he asks her for kisses to cheer him up. and to bite her ass and stuff. the thing is i promised her i wouldnt confront him ... (196 words)

I dislike the way my closest friends treats me, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5436 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 51-59 - Basically ive been close friends with a women(im female)for a couple of decades!.We would always tell each other our daily news and regulary meet up every few days. But within the past year she got a new boyfriend and all of a sudden become distant,didnt invite me to see ... (538 words)

Why do I always end up just being 'the friend' when I want more than that?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (M)

age 41-50 - Why am I one of those guys that women want to be friends with but nothing more? Of my ten closest friends, nine are female. They all say I would be a great catch. I have asked them, seriously, what I could do to make myself more appealing but they all say that I dress very ... (161 words)

Going to sleep with a man I work with. How can I get over my flaws and be more confident in bed?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 41-50 - I met this man a year ago. We work together. We find each other really attractive and have finally decided to sleep together (once). There are no long term plans, we just want to have fun together. What I want to know is how can I make sure I don't do something stupid and ... (88 words)

I sort of like this guy and we kissed while drunk, but he has a girlfriend! what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 30-35 - A few months ago I kissed a guy, we were both quite drunk, well really drunk. He goes to my college, and is in a few of my classes. It was really awkward for a while, but it's alright now. Anyway, I didn't know that he had a girlfriend, who is abit older than me. I... (159 words)

How can I stop comparing our relationship to others?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 30-35 - I really need some advice. I can't stop comparing my relationship to others and i am becoming increasingly more jealous of other girls around my boyfriend. I don't know why i do it and its really getting me down...i keep taking it out on my boyfriend too which makes everyt... (123 words)

Bad relationship with my husbands kids! How can I change things?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5426 days ago

31 January 2010 (F)

age 41-50 - Several years ago I got involved with an older, married man. At the time I thought it was simply a short fling, but it developed into a relationship that eventually led to him leaving his wife. I do not feel the need to go into the 'gritty' details of their divorce. Well... (392 words)