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writes:Okay, so I am a senior in high school and so is my boyfriend and we are both almost 18. We have been together since we were freshmen and our three year anniversary is coming up. Our first time having sex wasn't planned at all and this happened almost two years ago. This incident freaked both of us out so we promised each other that we would keep it a secret and that we wouldn't tell any of our friends until the end of our senior year because we were both barely 16 when it happened and we knew that we were too young etc.I kept this a secret until like 7 months ago. I told my best friend who goes to another high school and she did not tell anyone. She was asking me about the state of my virginity and could tell I was lying... I felt terrible betraying my boyfriend's trust and for some stupid reason I chose not to tell him about it. He wasn't supposed to find out and my best friend was supposed to act surprised when we "told" her. I've been feeling extremely guilty about it ever since.Okay, so long story short, my boyfriend just found out that I told my friend. He is extremely upset and I can't blame him for it, especially since a few weeks ago I caught him lying about something else (something stupid) and was pretty angry at him.How can I make this better?? He says he can't trust me anymore because I broke this huge promise. I just don't know what to do. I know it is all my fault and I can't stand hurting him :( My boyfriend is the love of my life and we plan on staying together in college and beyond.
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reader, popeye78  +, writes (19 February 2010):
hey, i reckon things will work out, you can understand why he would be angry, but i dont think he would consider throwing away somone so special to him over this... in the bigger scheme of things what you did was not that bad. good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): Things are getting a little better...
I have been apologizing like crazy!
Thanks for all of the replies
Evans, there is no way I am letting him go and he will not let me go either. I definitely do not hate him. Sorry to burst your bubble.
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reader, Evans  +, writes (2 February 2010):
I'm afraid this will not work out my dear. I'm sorry for that. Maybe it is gonna be a lesson for you. How I wish you should start telling your friends to be truthful about themselves to their boyfriends. Don't hate your boyfriend for the state he finds himself in now and don't force him to understand you. You betrayed him and you should suffer the consequences. If you try to mend it up. Go ahead, but sooner or later, it will catch up with you. Gal, you messed yourself here. Let him go. If he has to come back to you, let it be on a fresh page. This could be the best advise you can get.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): People make mistakes. No one is perfect. It happens. You didnt want it to, and you feel horrible about it. You made a mistake. He makes mistakes too. Realizing that will help you both overcome difficulties and accept each others mistakes without loosing respect for each other.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 January 2010):
All you can do is say you're sorry, and ask that he forgives you for it. Just be there, listen to him and say that you will not blow a second chance. I'm not saying it will work, but this isn't really as huge as it seems. Just say sorry, keep saying sorry and ask that he forgives you.
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