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writes:I met this man a year ago. We work together. We find each other really attractive and have finally decided to sleep together (once). There are no long term plans, we just want to have fun together. What I want to know is how can I make sure I don't do something stupid and spoil what may be our only night together. I'm quite conscious about my bodily flaws (early thirties) and not very confident in bed. Any tips will help. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): A few months ago I was feeling a little naughty after months of being single and hooked up with a hot 25 year old Brad Pitt clone in Joburg. I'm 35, overweight, pancake boobs, stretchmarks; you get the idea. Because we had only planned to meet that once (before they shut down gumtree casuals), I threw caution to the wind and just went with it shamelessly and with confidence and absolutely no inhibitions. He was only the 2nd guy I'd ever been with. Since our encounter he has been literally panting after me and we have met again once. Just last week he started asking if I would ever get remarried to someone younger!! I know his mind was blown because I wasn't shy or reluctant. Enjoy yourself its that simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for responding. oneFOOTwrong, I'm not sure if he LOVES me,but I do hope he won't care about my flaws. We are planning to get together this Saturday, but I might chicken out (LOL!). This guy is quite experienced. But if we don't do it soon, I swear I'll go insane!
Thanks again!
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reader, bobbye  +, writes (31 January 2010):
You need to let yourself go. If a guy is interested in you with clothes on he will also be very interested without them on, probably very interested. Do not be afraid to show yourself that is a good confidence builder and don't be afraid to try anything.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (31 January 2010):
The key to explosive sex is to be completely uninhibited. Ofcourse agree beforehand what you won't do eg. If you are not into anal and then he decides to try it .... Awwwkward! But don't try hide your body, do it like you don't have a care in the world and just have a good time. And don't tell him about your inexperience... Just go for it.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 Corsets and stockings always look good on any body type. Give him a bath, dim the bathroom lights and put on the candles. Give him a massage. Remember it's not all about the body. Tell him you are not too experienced, beg him to be in charge and watch him go from there.
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reader, Unknown0311 +, writes (31 January 2010):
The only thing you can do in embrace your body, flaws and all. What makes sex so exciting and fun is throwing all those cares away. He has seen you at work, and he is attracted to you. Just have a drink, take a deep breath, and remember -- this guy wants to be here with you because he thinks you're hot stuff and wants to have a little fun beneath the sheets! Tips? Just be involved, don't just lay there, don't think about how you're belly moves or your thighs move.. HE'S NOT LOOKING AT THAT, I PROMISE! Don't be afraid to make a move, be hands on.. Let him know you're just as turned on as he is and want this just as bad. Anyways, good luck! Just have fun.. Don't have a care in the world when you go in there.. Have fun and enjoy yourself : )
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): If this man really loves you, he won't care about your flaws ... simple ! :) Good luck !
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