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writes:Puzzled by b/f's behavior. This happens a lot. We're stuck inside. B/F is surfing the web on his laptop. I sit on the couch with him, and play a video game with volume turned off. After an hour he wants to watch TV. So I turn off the game but can't get into the program he wants to watch so I grab my checkbook and sit on the couch and pay some bills, balance my checkbook and glance up at the TV every so often. He picks up his guitar and starts playing music with the TV muted. I pick up a book and start reading a few chapters. Later he says we aren't "in sync" but can't tell me exactly what he wants me to do differently. How do other couples spend time together and feel connected when it's just a lazy winter day and there's really nothing to do? He didn't want to go anywhere. We didn't really have any projects to work on together. What am I missing here? Reply to this Question
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reader, stephanie,jayne +, writes (1 February 2010):
You need to make things to do, heres a few ideas:-
Go for a walk, go to the shop and get something nice in for tea then make it together, watch a film, if you can spare the cash go out for dinner. if you have a dog then take it for a walk together! when your playing video games, make sure its a two player game so you can play it together, take up a hobby together like bike riding, or the gym, or dance lessons, ANYTHING!! I can't really understand what your problem is? if you cant find anything else to do then play bored games, TALK!! or if your really stuck for ideas, go out and buy a few "toys and outfits" and experiment in the bedroom ;) im sure your man will love that! there is always something to do and even if it isnt that interesting, if you do it together its bound to be more fun!! xx
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reader, curious0hot  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 We watch something together (take turns compromising on what show/movie to watch), have sex, talk, or nap. Or I will read a book, while he plays Madden.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 For lazy winter days we snuggle up on the couch or in bed and just talk or watch dvd's that we would both like, give massages, surf the net together, ring friends on speaker phone so we can both talk and listen at the same time, cook food, ...or just get off our butts and go out for a drive, walk in the park, visiting people, shopping, whatever. None of it is terribly exciting, but none of it is ever boring either when we are doing it together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): When I am watching TV with my bf and I get bored, I just start kissing him. I stop focusing on the tv and start focusing on him. Or I'll just cuddle up an take a nap. I love when I get a chance to just be with him and cuddle on the couch. It doesn't matter what we are doing just as long as we get to be close. It sort of sounds to me like your relationship is just getting stale. Find some new activities you can do together. Maybe a video game you both like or a new tv show to watch. find a way to get that puppy love back.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 Surprise him with a sexy leopard skin outfit. Tease him and give him a massage. Sorry to say but sex is the only way couples connect and get in sync. God made your bodies in opposite polarity so you can be attracted to each other. Put it to good use and he would stop being lazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): He could be feeling lonely. Have a conversation, watch something you both like, play a game together, make dinner together, eat together without the tv and have conversation. Give him a back-rub, maybe he will give you one. Take a walk, walks are good for you, fresh air and it gives energy. Also its common that people find more things to talk about when they are walking, or in action, than when they sit and watch tv.
A normal lazy day like the one the two of you had sounds nice though! And when living together, and being together for a while, it's good to not always sit on top of each other and talking all the time. Doing things on your own is good for you. But could it be your boyfriend thinks there's too much alone-time in the relationship?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 February 2010):
I either sit there talking to my girlfriend, or we go out for a walk together, or we do something like cook. The point being, do something together. Cook a meal.
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