I'm scared he might use me again or want to see me for all the wrong reasons!...
Q. ok there's this dude that always trys to hook up with me but we did some stuff in his room once but it was a one time thing i thought that he was into me and he would ask me out well the next day he didnt say anything to me and asked another girl...
A. 3 August 2008: He's going to do the same thing to you again that he did last time. Meaning he'll have sex with you (or 'do stuff' as you descriptively put it), and then be off chasing other girls the next day.
To not hook up with him would be the smart thing to... (read in full...)
Should I accept that he sleeps with other girls -What Does he Mean By I want "more"?
Q. Recently having met a new man he seems fairly interested BUT he says he doesnt want a relationship and he has also said he "fears" I want "more" because he mentioned someone he was flirting with and I said it wasnt nice when he had invited me out ...
A. 3 August 2008: "I am not sure if he will find many females happy to go along with what he is saying."
Ah, well I completely agree with you there! He may be being unrealistic: plenty of (older) men imagine these fantastic situations where they're sleeping... (read in full...)
I'm 21 weeks pregnant, but everything is going down hill with the father. Should I try and make it work for the baby?
Q. Im 21 weeks pregnant and still with the father of the baby. we have been dating for just under a year now and everything just feels like its going down hill. he is alot older then me therefore he should be more responsible than i am about this. all ...
A. 3 August 2008: If you're going to stay with this guy to benefit your unborn child, then you need to be having a healthy relationship. A healthy relationship is based on telling the truth about your feelings to the other person. ... (read in full...)
I'm obesessed with calories and even stopped eatting to loose weight.Do I have an eating disorder?
Q. Do i have an eating disorder? I have always been thin, but when i started my period (quite late, last year), i did put a few pounds on, i went from being size 6/8 to a 10/12. It didnt seem to bother me while i was at school though and i was happy ...
A. 3 August 2008: You're not eating enough calories for your body to function healthily. You're making yourself vomit after you eat. You're going out to 'eat' with your friends, then watching them eat whilst you're actually hungry, but you're not eating. ... (read in full...)
Should I accept that he sleeps with other girls -What Does he Mean By I want "more"?
Q. Recently having met a new man he seems fairly interested BUT he says he doesnt want a relationship and he has also said he "fears" I want "more" because he mentioned someone he was flirting with and I said it wasnt nice when he had invited me out ...
A. 3 August 2008: Neither of you is wrong. You just want different things. There is nothing wrong with you wanting a monogamous relationship. It sounds like he realizes that's what you want. But there is also nothing wrong with him saying he doesn't want a mon... (read in full...)
I lied about living in the US, now she wants my mobile number!
Q. alright people so im in america at the moment and i met this really AMAZING girl problem is i told here i lived in america too (i don't know why) and now she wants my mobile number so since i live in england i think she'll notice that i don't live ...
A. 3 August 2008: I'm guessing you told her you lived in the US because you thought that would make it more likely that she'd have sex with you... because there would be the possibility of a relationship. She's less likely to want to sleep with someone who is going ... (read in full...)
Are women typically interested in one night stands as much as men?
Q. Simple question: Are women typically interested in one night stands as much as men? Just curious....
A. 3 August 2008: Not as much as men no. Otherwise why would pretending that you are actually interested in a woman be an effective method for getting her into bed? Which is what most men end up doing at one time or another. Evolutionary psychology offers some good... (read in full...)
Poll: When did you have your first kiss and the first relationship?
Q. Hey just a quick thing. Can you guys/girls tell me when you had your first kiss and when you first had a boyfriend/girlfriend? I'm 16 and never been kissed, never had a boyfriend, nothing. Just wanna know when you guys/girls had your f...
A. 2 August 2008: First kiss at I think 14. My first relationship was from 15 to 17, and I lost my virginity age 17 also.... (read in full...)
Will his jealousy get worse?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about four months. The situation started as roommates and it transitioned from there. This is usually the sweetest most loving relationship I've ever been in with the exception of his jealousy. I still am friends ...
A. 2 August 2008: I highly recommend this book about jealousy, it really helped me understand what was going on when I became jealous:
http://www.amazon.com/Dangerous-Passion-Jealousy-Necessary-Love/dp/0684850818/
You might even try reading it together and dis... (read in full...)
He tells me he loves me but it just does not feel enough! I have a fear of our relationship going wrong due to my past!
Q. hi agony aunts ok ive been with my partner a few months and it got a bit complicated with things going on on both sides..but in the end we really do love each other..just i sometimes have a hard time explaining things or how im feeling i want him...
A. 31 July 2008: "...its like i want more not proof but just something..something not to have this feeling anymore"
That feeling is within you, it's nothing to do with him I'm afraid. If you make it his issue to deal with then you'll eventually drive him away bec... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is refusing to give me oral unless I shave, what do I do?
Q. My gf is refusing to give me a blow job unless i start shaving. what should i do? I'm also woried about accidentally cutting myself. Plz help me out....
A. 29 July 2008: This is one of those questions that makes me feel old... 13-15 year olds asking about shaving pubic hair. Oh well.
I recommend using not a razor but a trimmer. Then you can cut it short enough. Your skin down there is very sensitive, I don't re... (read in full...)
Is asking my boyfriend for oral sex unfair?
Q. I am a virgin, which my boyfriend knows, but we have had anal. There are a lot of reasons I don't want to have sex with him that I won't include here. But one thing is that he's small in that department (I can't imagine that I would honestly feel ...
A. 29 July 2008: Ummm, if you're having anal sex twice a week you're no 'virgin'. If someone asks you straight up 'have you ever had sex', you'd be lying if you didn't answer: 'yes, a lot'.
I suggest you start having regular intercourse (as well as oral)
... (read in full...)
Can one ignore her first and only sexual experience, an unpleasant one, and consider herself a virgin?
Q. if losing your virginity is a state of mind is it acceptable for a girl to want to ignor her first intercourse (being unpleasent one) and concider her self still a vigin untill willingly giving her self, (it only being her second time?) [Added from...
A. 29 July 2008: Poor girl. Whatever you do, don't give her a hard time about this, it sounds like she's suffering more enough from it already.
Technically she wasn't a virgin when you met. But 'technically' is pretty meaningless. You are the first man she has ... (read in full...)
He was VERY experimental with his last girlfriend... what can I do to really wow him in bed?
Q. I'd really appreciate some sex tips from anyone that can give them. I've recently started dating a guy who I like A LOT. He's attractive, really sweet, and treats me great. I'd really like to see this relationship last a long time. But I'm a...
A. 29 July 2008: Give it some time. I'm certain the things you're describing didn't happen all at once at the start of his relationship: as intimacy and trust builds over time, you can explore.
I have to say, it does seem like you're seeing sex a bit like athletic... (read in full...)
I cheated numerous times since my wife told me the truth about her sexual past, in hope I would feel better. I feel worse and still angry. Help!
Q. I am seriously troubled with my wifes past and am so frusterated at the idea of living the rest of my life in anger. It is really depressing. She was my first girl friend and my only other sexual experience before her was a very humiliat...
A. 28 July 2008: You have my sympathy. As you can see, that's not something you'll get from many people. I don't think anyone can empathise with you unless they've been in a similar situation themselves. I've been there, I know how utterly overpowering and painful ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is telling me my vagina is too wide, what should I do?
Q. my boyfriend told me that i have a wide vagina and theres no feeling for him when we have sex. what could be the problem?, and what can i do to fix it?...
A. 27 July 2008: He's talking nonsense. Most likely he's become too used to the (very strong) pressure he exerts when he masturbates with his hand. Tell him to hold off from masturbating for a month and see what happens. Well, if you want to stay with him. I have to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have broken up several times, I am extremely jealous, to the point of distraction, he is financially irresponible, how do we fix these problems, I am driving him away?
Q. I'm 31 he's 25. We've been together for 7yrs. We've broken up so many times its hard to keep track. The Two major issues are my insecurity and his lack of financial resposibility. My problem with him is that he works but cannot manage his finances ...
A. 27 July 2008: You need to focus on overcoming your insecurities. They are leading you to pathological jealousy, which will drive any partner away from you. Have you seen a therapist about this? If you can afford it I'd recommend it.
I also recommend this boo... (read in full...)
We're at it every night, and I still can't get pregnant.
Q. ok this is a weird question but i have been having problems getting pregnant.me and my fiance are at it like everynight.and im still not pregnant.i have had a syst taken off my overy but i still have both,could that be causing it?if so what can i do ...
A. 26 July 2008: If you have had a cyst on your ovary, then you could have PCOS - Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. This is something that will make it harder for you to get pregnant, although it is perfectly possible to conceive with help from doctors. Sadly, much as you ... (read in full...)
It is possible my child isn't my partner's?
Q. i fell pregnant on the 8th of june witch was a friday i had been sleepin wiv my partner all that week but i had sex wiv a diffirent person the friday b4 is it possible my chid is not my partners?...
A. 26 July 2008: If you've slept with several different men recently and you're pregnant, then it's very possible the child isn't your partners.
You need to ask yourself how you've ended up in a situation where you could be pregnant by different men, it's not a gr... (read in full...)
Recently I found out I had chlamydia. Does this mean he has cheated on me?
Q. i got back with an ex two months ago but before i got back with him he had slept with a number of girls and i had slept with one other boy, when we got back together we had constantly been having unprotected sex. just recently i found out i had ...
A. 26 July 2008: Chlamydia can have serious complications, so make sure you see a doctor as soon as possible.
The fact that you have it doesn't necessarily mean he's cheated. He could have caught it prior to you two getting back together, or you could have cau... (read in full...)
My girlfriend stopped wanting sex. Doesn't she love me any more?
Q. I've been living with my girlfriend for almost 9 years now. I'm 33, she's 31 and we have an 8yo daughter. We were together for about 2 years before moving in here and we were close friends for about 10 years before that. Things were great befor...
A. 26 July 2008: Her saying that "you should accept it and that's just the way it is" is no good. That's not an acceptable response. A healthy sex life is an important part of a relationship, the longer you stay like this the greater the negative pressure on your ... (read in full...)
Why do my testicles ache?
Q. This is bit embarassing but what might cause my balls to ache? They have ached in the past when I've been seriously turned on but not had sex however they seem to ache at times every day for past few days. I have been masturbating but even so am ...
A. 26 July 2008: It could be nothing, but it could also be one of a long list of medical causes. The best thing to do is go visit your doctor, tell them your symptoms, and see what they recommend. They'll probably run a few tests.
This is a pretty importan... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend secretly record us having sex and show it to his mates?
Q. my boyfriends made me VERY VERY paranoid, weve been together for 7 months, and been having sex for 3 months. we have always been safe and i am on the pill. have been since i started my periods, but he joked about three weeks ago about recording us ...
A. 26 July 2008: Guys like to tease each other, when you're the only girl with a bunch of guys they'll treat you like just another guy. Which can be fun, but expect to have the piss taken out of you a lot in that situation. It's just the way guys are to each other, ... (read in full...)
Am I a fool to think that after all her other relationships she can be mine alone & not just one of her sexuall patners?
Q. Am I a fool to think that after all her other relationships she can be mine alone and not just one of her *****? Am middle eastern man who was 24 (now49)when I first met this middle eastern gal in college in the US. I was able to feel so good wit...
A. 26 July 2008: It sounds like she has made her wishes clear to you: that she will happily meet with you, but won't marry you nor commit to a monogamous relationship.
You have two choices;
1) Accept her terms, and see her without putting pressure on her ... (read in full...)
Do women 'cum' like men?
Q. Do women cum? I know that men do alot but i'm confused.I know that women get moist down there I have made out with guys and my underware gets wet is that a female version on cum? I have never had sex so sorry is I sound like a retard. Thanxs for ...
A. 25 July 2008: No.
Women 'cum' as in orgasm. But its very different than men.
Men save it all up til the end, then out comes semen. Sometimes you get a little bit coming out earlier, but not much. Men don't really get 'wet' as such.
Women (usually) get '... (read in full...)
I am going mad over my girlfriend's new male friend.
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out 7 months now. last month she got an email from a male friend she was at school with. she chatted on msn then decided to meet him. she told me about it and the fact he single. but instead of agreeing to meet ...
A. 25 July 2008: Not surprising you're going mad over this, from your description it seems pretty clear than she's drifting away from you and towards him.
You have several choices.
You can 'win her back'. Don't do that by arguing or fighting, but turn on the ... (read in full...)
He never tells me that sex was great unless I ask him! Is this normal? Do guys do that?
Q. Every time after sex I tell my BF that it was awesome ... he just saiz "Thank you" ... than he is relaxing and staring somewhere in the air .. or he is staring at me or just holding me ... he never tells me that it was great unless I ask him, than ...
A. 25 July 2008: It's very normal for a guy. We just don't like to talk about this stuff very much. That doesn't make it ok... he should definitely learn how to talk about it with you.
Also bear in mind that after sex a guy's mind is usually totally blank, a... (read in full...)
He pulls away when I try to get intimate, does he have trust issues?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month, and when we started to get intimate he pulled away. I still see him all the time and he always acts so weird around me now. When I saw him at work he was avoiding me, but my friend said that he kept ...
A. 25 July 2008: This sounds a bit odd. He certainly has issues of some sort, they might be to do with 'trust', or he might just be really uncomfortable with intimacy in general. A lot of guys grow up being taught that it's not good to show our feelings, and then as ... (read in full...)
A year and four months without sex. I'm feeling frustrated. I HAVE to have sex again soon! Help!
Q. Hi I've been out tonight drinking with some friends. Two of my friends are a couple. Their relationship is falling apart, AND YET, chances are that tonight they are going to be be at home together having sex. Same goes for 2 of my other friends wh...
A. 25 July 2008: Welcome to the wonderful world of being single. Unfortunately it doesn't change much as you get older. It's nature's way of telling you to go out and find a girlfriend.
You're better off finding a proper girlfriend than someone 'just for the nigh... (read in full...)
If I watch other guys getting "pegged", am I gay?
Q. Pegging describes a sexual practice in which a woman penetrates a man's anus with a strap-on dildo. http://en.wikipedia.org /wiki/Pegging_(sexual_practice) Does enjoying pegging porn make me gay?I know practicing it doesn't really mean I'm ...
A. 25 July 2008: You'd be gay (or bisexual) if you want to have sex with a man. Getting turned on by watching a woman screwing a guy with a strap-on probably just means you want to be screwed by a woman with a strap-on! Which is considered kinky by many, but is not ... (read in full...)
I feel woman aren't attracted to me, what can I do?
Q. Why do females look at me as if I am very ugly? I am a twenty one year old guy who has never had a girlfriend because of how I look. Every time I look at a female with a pleasant face, she would look at me with an 'as if' attitude or give me a dir...
A. 25 July 2008: It is almost certainly nothing to do with 'how you look'. Looks do matter to a woman, but they are much less important than other things.
Each person projects an aura... it is a combination of how they move, their body language, their expressi... (read in full...)
I hate to think that anorexic, fake breasted whores are better than me! How do I stop being insecure?!
Q. I hate having to compete with media beauties. My boyfriend (23) admitted that the girls on TV are supposed to represent the fantasy of the ideal female. He says they're hotter than the average female because that's what they're paid for, the same as ...
A. 25 July 2008: Your therapy should be helping, thats the main route for you to improve. In the mean time it can be good to remind ourselves of how much of a 'fantasy' those images really are:
http://www.threadless.com/product/1000/Runnin_Rhino#zoom... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's going to leave me because I can't satisfy him in bed!
Q. I think my boyfriends going to leave me because i don't satisfy him sexually. Basically, we have great sex and i usually get 2 or 3 orgasms. my boyfreinds circumsised so he can go on for ages (which is good) but he never gets one inside me and al...
A. 24 July 2008: Wow, you two have this completely the wrong way round.
His trouble with having an orgasm is nothing to do with you. It's either a physical or mental problem with him. A 'normal' male will orgasm within 5 to 10 minutes of intercourse at the long... (read in full...)
How can you beat a "player" at his own game?
Q. if you know a guy who claims is and honest but is a player when it comes to women how can the woman beat him at his own game and him not even know he is being played back?...
A. 23 July 2008: Well, 'the rules' are there to help you find 'Mr Right', but they include the (necessary) ability to catch and catch-out 'players'...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Rules... (read in full...)
I think he was recording us when we had sex. What can I do?
Q. i been with my bf for a long time and im not sure but i think he was recording us while was were having sex. and i reali dnt knw wat 2 do. whether to ask him why he done that, or tell my sister about it and if i do i reali dnt knw wat she will do to ...
A. 23 July 2008: You need to ask him. And if he did, you need to get hold of it, make sure he has no copy, and destroy it. Otherwise you'll end up on the internet at some point, which will do wonders for you if anyone who knows you sees it...
And if he did, and... (read in full...)
How can you beat a "player" at his own game?
Q. if you know a guy who claims is and honest but is a player when it comes to women how can the woman beat him at his own game and him not even know he is being played back?...
A. 23 July 2008: You have to follow 'the rules'... (read in full...)
Is 10 minutes of foreplay enough?
Q. hi everybody, i need your answer for different viewers (men and women) my question is how much time would a girl satisfied of foreplay before getting in? its ok if i take 10 minutes foreplay before getting in? Thanks...
A. 23 July 2008: Two lesbian friends of mine one evening decided to tell me 'the secret'. The secret being: what women really want and how to make love.
They way they told it (as far as i remember, we were rather drunk) was "make love as if you don't have a penis"... (read in full...)
Only dating for a week and he's moving WAY too fast... should I be worried?
Q. Ive been dating this guy for 1 week only and I feel like things are moving WAY to fast. He texts and calls me non stop and always wants to see me. He keeps saying he likes me sooo much and is complimenting me saying I'm beautiful, goregous and ...
A. 21 July 2008: The problem with people who 'fall too fast into love' is they also tend to quickly 'fall fast out of love'. You can be sucked into a whirlwind romance, only to find yourself quickly ejected when the storm is over.
People like him frequent... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex and bled heavily during and after my first time, please advise!
Q. Today me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time, but unprotected my boyfriend kept taking out his penis to check he werent producing sperm , could i be pregnant even if he said no sperm came out? and i bled heavily alot during and after it is ...
A. 20 July 2008: Oh girl :( You do know that "he kind of forced it on me" is rape? ... (read in full...)
Can I wear a purity ring if I'm a born again virgin?
Q. Ok so I'm about to be 21 years old here in the next few months and one thing has been buggin me. I am not a virgin havent been since i was 15. Now I've only slept with 2 guys my whole life but the second guy I slept with i really didnt want to sleep ...
A. 19 July 2008: The ring would be misleading, your 'future husband' would think you're a virgin when you're not (by his definition).
Also, a ring isn't going to make you feel any better. You'll probably feel worse in fact, since you'll know it's dishones... (read in full...)
Any tips on reducing my sexual activity, in order to focus on what is important for my age?
Q. im always havin sex with guys and i want to stop because i no when i get older i dont want that lifestyle any tips on reducing my sexual activity and what i can do instead of havin sex all the time...
A. 19 July 2008: Please tell me you entered your age wrong :(
If not, go see a councilor / therapist as soon as possible. What you are doing is really dangerous and unhealthy. ... (read in full...)
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