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writes:my boyfriend told me that i have a wide vagina and theres no feeling for him when we have sex. what could be the problem?, and what can i do to fix it?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (29 July 2008):
 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise
All vagina's are wide, after all, they got to be to pass a baby.
But like your anus the vagina has a muscle around it and you can learn to control this.
The muscle can contract as thight as the anal one, to the point penetration of any kind becomes impossible. Women who suffer from sexual trauma often experience this.
If your vagina is indeed loose look into this. You can also of course test for yourself if you are loose, stick some fingers in. 1 finger, you are thight. Your hand, you are wide. My hand? You are an elephant.
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female
reader, MuffinGirl +, writes (27 July 2008):
 Maybe instead he is too small? Don't worry about that. He's not worth it.
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reader, Yos +, writes (27 July 2008):
 He's talking nonsense. Most likely he's become too used to the (very strong) pressure he exerts when he masturbates with his hand. Tell him to hold off from masturbating for a month and see what happens. Well, if you want to stay with him. I have to say, the guy sounds like an insensitive jerk, it really is an unpleasant thing to say, especially since it is 100% nonsense.
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reader, kitty.letterbox  +, writes (27 July 2008):
it's a myth that vaginas can be too 'wide'. a vagina is not shaped like a throat, where there is a hollow hole. when not excited, the walls of the vagina touch each other, these muscles are how it holds in things such as tampons or a penis during sex. your boyfriend is either extremely rude, or simply quite ignorant about the female body. perhaps you should explain that it's not your vagina, but how u're having sex. maybe it's not sensitive because he's not used to sex with a condom, keep using the condom but put a drop of lubricant in before putting it on to increase sensation. try different positions. maybe there is a problem wiht the sensitivity of his penis. good luck babe xxx
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (27 July 2008):
Yes, I would have to agree with some of the others. It could be him. Saying you have a wide vagina is a nice way of saying you're loose. Find a nice way to tell him that maybe he has a pencil dick. But try kegels also like others have said if you really don't think he's the problem.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 Tell him to get a penis enlargement and see how he feels x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): First of all, the exercises are spelled KEGEL exercises! There are all kinds of books and web pages that tell you how to do them. Heck, there are even devices that will tell you how much pressure you are exerting with your vaginal muscles, in order to help you do the exercise correctly. If the boyfriend really wants you tighter - tell him to buy the books AND the device!
Do the research yourself - based on the answers I see here, this website is a font of misinformation!
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reader, bellasmommy +, writes (27 July 2008):
yea ive never really heard of a wide vagina either.. it could be that you are too wet when your having sex... but i dont know.. but i DO know that if you sit in a tub of hot water it can tighten your vagina.. (the muscles) so try that.. sit in there for 20-30 min before sex.
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reader, sjwcool +, writes (27 July 2008):
 ok first this is not a problem that is beyond your control. second it could easily be him if he's average or small it makes a lot of differance. if he's willing to be patient you can tighten the muscles with a little work. it's like any other workout but, your specifically targeting those muscles. an exercise called keggels that you tighten the same muscles you would use you hold it if you gotta pee. one way is you can drink a lot of water (very healthy for you)and hold it as long as possible you will be able to do so longer and longer. another way that is a little quicker is to simply tighten the muscles constantly hold the mucles tigh for about 30 seconds and release when ever where ever you want. to speed that up you can find something about the same size as he is
(store bought dildo, cucumber, any variety of vegies could work) my favorite is in most adult stores there is a kit to make a dildo it does invole him so if he's up for it
here are the simple steps to make a dildo almost exactly the same size as he is.
1.get him really really hard
2. the hardest part is to keep him hard so you have to tease him.
3.take soft clay and cover his genitals with it.
(if you put lube on him and/or a condom before it's easier to take off)
4. wait a few seconds with it compressed tightly to his member.
5. you now hace a cast of his member now, take it off of him being careful not to damage the sides if you can't slide it off take your finger nail and gently slide it down the side and smoosh the clay back to be solid walls
5.fill the cast with liquid latex or plaster-a-paris(find on the internet the recipe simple water and flour)
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reader, CantHelpFallin +, writes (27 July 2008):
he sounds selfish and judgemental...try changing up the positions. you can find them all over the internet and no you DON'T have to look at porn to get ideas because there are good sites devoted to enhancing you sex life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): I have herd that you can do pelvic lifts and pelvic tilts ask your gynocologist for excersizes to help you get back ito shape such as after a baby. I dont know if you have had one or not you didnt say. or you can look it up online under google.com then pelvic excersizes they work i did them after I had my daughter and I have had no complaints.
Hope this helps some
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