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writes:is it normal that my boyfriend does not hug or kiss me? We have been together for 4 months and he has requested for blow jobs which i did. No actual sex is involved yet though he had asked. But he doesnt kiss me at all. He only kissed me once on the cheek on valentines day. He would always ask me to kiss his neck. Does he hate mouth to mouth kissing? He doesnt kiss my neck either.Whats wrong!? When i complained about it, he kissed me on the cheek and went "dont say i dont kiss u"
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reader, James the Rocket  +, writes (28 August 2010):
The more feelings I have for a girl, the more I want to hug and kiss her. Especially kissing on the lips. Tongue-kissing can be more of a sexual thing and I like that, but I often like just soft kissing on the lips... we both kiss (am single, but when I do have a gf, I mean!) and it is a show of mutual feelings... so beautiful. Special.
He is not into you. You like hugging and kissing, just like most other people. I think 99.9% would like hugging and kissing.
He is just using you for sex. Find another man who will appreciate you and who will share your affections.
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reader, OhGetReal  +, writes (20 July 2010):
 I agree with everyone here, this is an unhealthy relationship for you.
Let me make one thing clear. It is popular in our culture to somehow think of oral sex as not sex or being sexual.
It is sex, you might as well be having itercourse because you are having genital contact. So why are you doing that with a guy who won't kiss you? You call him your boyfriend, has he asked you to be exclusive with him? Somehow I doubt it. He's a user like everyone here has said.
Also, you can get some pretty serious STD's from oral sex. HPV is highly contagious virus that young people are highly susceptible to simply because of their youth. There are 43 contagious strains of it and over 100 strains of the virus. All can lead to oral, anal, vaginal cancers...do you want to get cancer from oral sex? Condoms do NOT protect against this virus. Although, you are at a less susceptible age if I were you, I would get the vaccination against HPV for added protection.
The are other STD's that you can contract from oral sex, so you may want to get tested as I am not so sure how faithful this guy is being....I'd be worried.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): No its absolutely not normal. Do not give bj's to ANYONE who will not even hug or kiss you. mal
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reader, person12345 +, writes (20 July 2010):
 He sounds like a very selfish person who views you as a masturbation aid. You should definitely get out of there. What has he given you? A kiss on the cheek. What have you given him? Multiple blowjobs. Doesn't sound much like a partnership to me, it sounds more like he's using you to get off with. Will he reciprocate oral? Has he offered without you asking? If you won't even kiss you on the mouth, it seems unlikely he'd want to kiss that bit. You deserve someone who shows a bit more affection. Take care.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 July 2010):
He really sounds like a very cold, almost emotionless man. Either than or he is secretly gay or something. Whatever it is though, you can't really stay in a relationship where a man shows you no affection. And don't sit there thinking he will change either. This is who he is. So this will be your life if you stay with him. Or you can end it now and find a guy who actually does have emotion in him
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