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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have met a guy on a dating website who I really like. We get on really well, and he seems very smitten with me. We have loads in common, and he treats me like a princess, pays for everything (even when I offer to pay), etc. All fine so far, but one thing is concerning me somewhat...When I have gone to view his profile (to give myself some conversation ideas for when we next meet), I have noticed that it says he has been online within the last 24 hours, but he is not using it to view my profile so he must be looking at other girls' profiles. I have felt really guilty going on this dating website just to view his profile in case he thinks I am chatting up other men (I'm not, I just go on there very occasionally to check out his profile) but then he must be looking at other women's profiles. This guy and I had a misunderstanding last week when he thought I was going to stand him up. He got a bit cross about this and when we talked later he said that he found it difficult coping with rejection and he had thought that was what I was about to do. He explained that he had been let down by a few dates that were waiting for a better offer. We sorted things out, and I was very impressed by how maturely it was all resolved.But now that I've seen that he's still logging on to this website, I'm wondering if he doesn't see us as exclusive and that actually it is him constantly looking for that better offer. What shall I do? I don't want to get too heavy on him when we've only just started dating as I think it'll make me look like a psycho! Likewise, though, I don't want him to get away with it.It would look to me that he doesn't see us as exclusive just yet, and I am wondering whether, rather that 'putting all my eggs in one basket with him', maybe I should be open to dating other guys until he mentions us becoming exclusive.The thing is that now I have noticed this about my profile I keep wanting to log on to check up on him.Please let me know your thoughts. Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345  +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Until you've agreed to date exclusively logging on is still fair game. If he wants to check out other women's profiles, why not log on and check on other men? Or suggest dating exclusively. You're allowed to bring it up too!
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