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writes:Hi,I've been with my girlfriend 9 months and she will not let me cum during oral - the slightest taste of pre-cum and she makes me put something on. It really annoys me as I regularly spend 30 plus minutes going down on her before sex, as she loves an orgasm before sex. Me doing this regularly gives her multiple orgasms, and sometimes she squirts. She expects me to keep going even though I don't particularly like the taste, which she knows.When we get to sex, I rarely worry about myself 'cos I make sure she's totally satisfied, which she always is. Against all this, I got a bit wound up at how selfish she was being, and she agreed to swallow if I could find a way of making it taste much better. So does anyone have any advice? Flavoured lube, different diet, anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): OP here.
Thanks for all the genuine advice. As for the moralists, I wasn't asking for the rights and wrongs of it. She has no problem with the act at all as long as the taste is okay.
Pulling out is crap - I don't know if anyone here has ever actually had a proper BJ, but I prefer it even to cuming inside her during sex.
I wouldn't care if she spat it out, I should have been more specific. I don't really care about her swallowing, just cuming in her mouth.
And to all the ladies on their high horses - have a girl cum in your mouth then get back to me.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (20 July 2010):
 "I bet this is the only way your girl can come. You can get off if she rubs your dick with her butt."
LOL! But yeah, it's probably true. She probably can't really get off any other way so oral isn't really an equal thing. Also, you say it's precum that bothers her, but in my experience that never tastes like much except a little salty or a tiny bit bitter. Nothing bad. I kind of like the taste, but can't stand the taste of semen. I wonder if she's worried that precum is the beginning of you cumming in full. She might just not want you to cum in her mouth and she's worried about continuing. You should talk to her about this and make sure she knows that when it's about time to cum you'll have her stop and manually finish the job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): Have you told her how you feel about this?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Eating fruits such as papaya, mango, pineapple (no citrus fruits) for breakfast can make a big difference in the "flavor".
Quitting coffee, cigarettes, alcohol and pork/red meat as well.
If you eat the fruits ( maybe 3-4 serving with your breakfast ( for instance granola, not bacon & eggs) by evening time you will have a slightly sweeter taste.
Also good hygiene can make ALL the difference.
But let's face it, not all men's sperm taste good no matter what they eat or rub on their penis. Not all women like raw oysters, swallowing is very reminiscent of that.
So I agree with the anonymous poster who said you should JUST ENJOY the fact that she likes to give you oral.. the whole swallow the junk is not all it's cracked up to be.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Flavored lube will help mask it somewhat, but the taste will still be there somewhat. Cinnamon helps with the taste of your sperm. I'm not saying it'll taste like sugar or anything, but I've been told it definitely changes the taste enough to the point I've been asked "Did you have cinnamon today?". (I'm completely serious here)
All in all I don't think this is as simple as changing the taste. Clearly she's ok with you doing something you don't like yet she is unwilling to do the same. I think there may be some deeper issues there....
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): Hi there!
First of all, I have to say your girlfriend is very lucky to have such a considerate boyfriend who worries so much about her pleasure between the sheets! I think you are right when you argue that sex should be a two-way street. It's great that you've been able to talk to your girlfriend about what you'd like. I know it's a cliche, but good communication and a bit of a will to please really is key. Make sure that she understands that this is about more than just pleasure for you - that it's about the way you are close and bonded as a couple.
However, do bear in mind that it can take a bit of practice to get the hang of swallowing - the suddenness and power of male ejaculation combined with the taste can make a lot of girls gag, especially if they're not that used to taking a blow job right through to the end. In that respect, it's not quite the same as giving oral sex to a woman. Practice is the key thing - it can take many tens of times to get used to the sensations involved. So be patient if she's struggling a little and make it clear that you deeply appreciate her efforts, showering her with affection every time she tries, even if the result isn't always absolutely perfect! Remember that sex is special because it's a voluntary expression of the love you feel for each other, not just a series of mechanical sensations.
I do have a couple of more practical suggestions. First, you might want to encourage her to take you deeper into her mouth. A lot of girls focus on the tip, which brings their tastebuds into constant contact with the strong tasting fluids. Mastering the technique of deepthroating means that much of the final ejaculate bypasses the taste buds altogether or at least gets pushed rapidly beyond them. But controlling throat muscles and restraining the gag reflex is something that can take a long time and a lot of calmness to master - and it can be very uncomfortable for girls at first. (Just try sticking a banana with the skin still on down your throat and you'll get some idea of how difficult it is!) So go softly with it and whatever you do, don't put her under pressure as this will make her feel more panicky and tense about it, which is more likely to make her gag.
Flavoured lube is well worth a go as a cheaper and easier solution, though if you last quite a long time it may wash off or be overpowered by other tastes. As far as taste is concerned, there are things you can do to improve it 'at the source' so to speak. Immaculate hygiene is something I'm sure you already practice, but also bear in mind that the stronger the food you eat one day, the stronger it tastes the next couple! Meat, especially red meat, can be particularly pungent - after something strong like venison the taste can be plain horrible. You may not thank me for this advice, but eating a veggie diet for a week should improve the taste quite a bit!! Look at it as an opportunity to request a daily 'taste test' to see what progress you've made - you never know, it might work...!
I am sure that with a bit of communication and some practice you can sort this out. It is very common indeed for young girls to dislike the taste and feeling, but with time, practice, and a bit of encouragement, they often become accustomed to it. Some of us have even grown to love it! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): You are doing a lot for her, but she may just not like it. As much as I'm with you (was married to a woman for 15 years who yanked it out of her mouth and wiped her tongue off with even a trickle of pre-cum, let alone a whole load) you cannot expect tit for tat. Dont ever do something for your partner and expect something in return...it just isnt fair. She may just hate the taste. I think the majority of women do.
I haven't been with many women who swallow, but I do know that the ones who do say not much changes the taste, as long as they arent on meds. Some say pineapple and celery make it sweeter...I think that's rubbish. Most women say some is saltier than others, but the taste is very similar from guy to guy. I know anything with soy makes mine very salty (so she tells me). I once ate fresh pineapple for 3 days (a lot), and she said it made no difference.
That said, I wouldn't kill yourself trying to please her. Just do what you enjoy, and as much as you enjoy. If she's not satisfied with that, tough shit...she's not doing what you would like her to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): Dude, just enjoy it when she performs oral on you and then when it's time, just pull out and put it somewhere else, for example over her chest. So what if she doesn't want to swallow? Would you swallow sperm?
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