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writes:ok so me and my bofriend want to have sex.......but the thing is hes not a virgin and i am.......he wants to do it in the bathroom and idk if i could do it in the bathroom.........and idk if i want to do it with him or not.......how would we do it in the bathroom what position.......i just dont understand......can anyone help me with the postition please and wold it hurt worse than doing it in the bed cause i know its going to hurt wither way i just want to know if it will be worse in the bathroom.........please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 July 2010):
 Sure ,great idea . You can have some romantic after sex cuddles resting your backs against the W.C. column and your head on the toilet seat cover.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): if you really want to lose your virginity with him, do it in the bed. it will be really uncomfortable on the floor, bathtub or tolet. thats just me, but remember to wear condoms and use birth control as well.
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (19 July 2010):
 IF you are SURE you are ready, get him to take your virginity in the bedroom first, just because the softness of the bed will make you relax more and then it will hurt less on the first time. When you have a little experience, try doing it in more different places - the sofa, the dining table, then maybe the bathroom. There's loads of ways you can do it in the bathroom - laying in the bath/on the floor, standing in the shower, sitting your boy on the toilet, sitting you on the sink - loads of ways. But I suggest you try the bed and the sofa for a couple of times first.
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reader, clareloux +, writes (19 July 2010):
hey my 1st time with my boyfriend was on a bed
a bed is the best bet for your 1st time as your cherry may pop and you can bleed of that . you may not bleed mutch and it will hurt only a little but then you will enjoy it
if you dont feel strong about this person then i dont think yous should sleep together i would only sleep together if this is a serious and a long relationship after all a relationship is bult around trust & love
hope this helps xxx
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (19 July 2010):
 Really not the place for the first time. Unless you have a huge bath, bathrooms are for surprise quickies when she's having a shower or cleaning her teeth. It would be very hard to get comfy for nice sensitive, gentle, first time sex.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 July 2010):
 The only reason I could think of that he would want this is for ease of clean-up if you bleed when your hyman breaks. That's one thing to be prepared for, it may get messy.
I still stick with my original sentiment though. It's your virginity, lose it where you want to. I'm with person12345, there's plenty of time for the other stuff later. Make your first time something you'll be happy to remember.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): He shouldn't pressure you and be more considerate especially if you told him it's your first time. FIRST, know yourself. What you want out of your relationship? A fuck buddy, just dating, a long term bf/gf, or a relationship that may end up in marriage? Where do you stand on sex? Do you want to save it for your husband? Do you want to try it? Where do you want your first time? At a honeymoon or with a special someone? Remember, you may have to BE FIRM with him on your beliefs if you decide against sex. Be ready to give him a reason why (I.E. you want to do it with someone special like your husband or you want to wait). If he give you a hard time or puts you down, he isn't worthy of you.SECOND. If you still want sex then, communicate with him and that you don't want to do it for the first time in a smelly bathroom, you don't want to "remember" your first time in a bathroom. Tell him gently but BE FIRM in your resolution, cause he may try to change your mind, and get you to agree with him and do what he wants. If he doesn't get your message then chances are he won't get your message about anything else (in life). (If you do decide on sex... Make sure he understands foreplay and getting you wet, a lot of guys forget that girls need their pleasure too. Don't forget about contraceptives, birth control, and condoms.)IF HE STILL INSISTS ON FORCING/PRESSURING you to do something you don't want or isn't ready for, then he doesn't see or care about the real you and only his sex fantasy. BEWARE: A lot of guys just want the sex or fantasy sex and leave once they get what they want or find out it isn't as they imagined. Don't attack him verbally, write it out and read it to him if you have to, but if he starts attacking you verbally or physically, then he's not the one.How long have you've known him? Do you do other things when you are together? Cuddling and kissing, walking in a park, have a two person picnic at the park, beach or lake, spending time together doing nothing, talking. Is he serious? Have you introduce him to the family? Does your friends know about him? Does he want to settle-down or are you just dating and want to have fun right now? Get to know what his view are.I meet a guy didn't know him really well, fell in-love for six months and was so happy that I was willing to bend myself backward for him. Although our situations may not be the same, I do wish I had waited out at least a year to get to know him better. Get to know his friends and family, introduce him to my family, know his likes and dislikes, where he likes to go for fun, how he deals with stress, and how he treats me when he is under-stress.Good luck, on what ever you decide to do.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 July 2010):
 Does he know you are a virgin? Why does he want to do the first time with you in the bathroom? Does he understand the word "romance"? Because this isn't exactly what you define as romantic. The first time for you, and the first time for you both as a couple, needs to be a bit higher up on standards than a quickie in the bathroom. If he is afraid of blood spills he can have a towel under the sheets.
Tell him to light up the candles and buy you roses, and take charge how how YOU want this to go down.
And yes, a bathroom floor is not comfortable at all, you will be much much more comfortable in your bed. Trust me. I've done the bathroom floor, and it just hurts your back and bum and tail bone as well as being overall unpleasant. Plus, you will probably lay there wondering when was the last time you cleaned under the bathtub and around the toilet. Bathrooms are for the experienced and people who are flexible enough to stretch their legs up on the sink wile hanging in the shower curtain. Don't do it. It is a health risk.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 July 2010):
 I wouldn't want to have my first time in a bathroom either, if he doesn't get that, he isn't the one to do it with.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (19 July 2010):
 Bathroom sex is fine, but it's kind of insensitive to ask for for when you lose your virginity. If you're nervous about it he shouldn't pressure you into it. I was under the impression most people do it missionary in a bed or couch or something their first time since it's scary and you don't know what you should be doing. You should talk to him about what scares you and excites you. There's plenty of time to have crazy wild shower bathroom sex in weird positions. It doesn't have to be your first time.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 July 2010):
I say, it's your virginity, lose it where YOU want to!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni want to do it with him and in the bathroom but im kinda scared in a way
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reader, vicky121087 +, writes (19 July 2010):
hi, first you need to decide if you actually want to have sex with him. if you decide you want to then i think you should do it were you feel comfortable its up to you were you want your first time to be. and in the future you can have sex in diffrent places. only have sex when you are ready.
you should talk to your bf about it and if you want your first time in the bedroom then you need to tell him that
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): You said you don't know if you want to do it with him or not. Do you mean just in the bathroom, or overall? If you don't want to do it, then don't do it. You shouldn't feel pressured into doing something you're uncomfortable with in your relationship.
If you're terribly concerned about it hurting in a different, non-bed missionary position, you should talk to your boyfriend about it. Remind him it's your first time, that it will hurt, and you'd prefer to try more traditional positions first until you get the hang of it. Later, you guys can try it in the bathroom.
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