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writes:Well, let's get right to the point. I'm 14 years old, and I really believe I'm in love. I've read things like, "how to tell you're in love!" or, "are you REALLY in love?" They of course list things like, "Do you think about him/her every waking moment?" and etc. I answer yes to mostly all of the questions, and whenever I read a story on being in love, it just rings true for me. But it's not just articles and books, it's how I feel when I'm around him, when I talk to him... I feel like I could really spend the rest of my life with this boy. I've been in relationships before, and I've NEVER felt this way. But is that natural for a 14 year old girl? I want your opinion. Thanks much! Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 I don't think it is normal for a 14 year old to have been in relationships before. But the kids seems to grow so fast these days. I didn't get my first boyfriend until I was 18...
Okay, so say you love this boy. Are you a couple? Does he love you back? Have you said "I love you" to him? Has he said it back? Have you talked about the future?
Love to me is a lot more than crushes.. actually crushes and love have little and nothing in common. The best way I can put love is: you love your parents right? Mom, dad, siblings? Identify that feeling... and then look at the feeling you have for this guy. Anything similar?
You have fights with your family right... and then for days you can swear you hate them.. then in the end you go back and you are a family still. Can the same thing be said about you and the guy?
Well then, so if you love him.. no I don't think love in itself is unusual for a 14 year old girl. Children love their parents, so love is not an adult feeling. But to love someone like a man loves a woman and vice versa, is a little different. You will know it when you take a closer look at your feelings. Is it unusual to find true love at 14? Maybe. Maybe not.
But all in all.. who cares. If you love him, good for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): Hi, this is the same person who asked the question...
Just want to point out that I am in a relationship with the boy who I believe I love, and he claims to love me back. So no worries on one sided love or anything. :-)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (20 July 2010):
 You're probably at least in the infatuation or honeymoon phase. I don't know if a 14 year old can really be in love, but you can certainly feel that infatuation thing. It's really fun, isn't it? You know you're in that stage and probably not love if you answer yes to the following:
1) you are convinced that what you have is truly special and all the other couples can't possibly have anything even close to as special.
2) you are happy to stay up late or wake up early consistently just to spend time with them. Sleep? Who needs it.
3) you cannot stop thinking about them.
4) when you do think about them, you feel giddy and happy all over.
5) hours apart feels like YEARS.
6) like seriously cannot stop thinking about them. Like with everything you think about them and get butterflies when you get a text or phone call or whatever.
7) you don't think you've felt this way about anyone ever.
If that's what you're feeling definitely enjoy it. It's the best feeling. And that is not because you're 14, even old farts like me (mid-20's) get that when we first start dating someone special. Enjoy!
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reader, Squeaky  +, writes (20 July 2010):
For any relationship to happen and grow the feelings you feel need to be felt by both people involved in the relationship. You can't build lasting love and happiness on relationship thats just 1 sided. You are also only 14 and have so much life to live ahead of you. You have a to build a solid future for yourself and respect yourself in all you do. You need to talk about your feelings with the person involved or at least find out how they feel. If they feel the same take time to get to know and understand each other. You have the luxury of time on your hands and a lot of life to build and live. You both need to think about your futures, education and securities.All you can do is be yourself and don't feel dissappointed if things don't work out. There IS plenty more fish in the sea and there will be 1 out there that is fully appreciate you for who you are. AT 14 emotions can leap and bound all over the place and young hearts can break easy but they do mend.
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