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writes:My boyfriend and I are going on two years together. We've been arguing a lot lately so the past weekend I didnt hear from him nor did I see him. He keeps a condom in his wallet, its been there for months, thats our emergency condom because we have some at the house but just incase we ever run out we keep it in his wallet. Anyways back to the story, the condom is always there, He dropped his wallet so I picked it up to hand it to him and didnt feel the condom so I looked inside and kept looking in all the pockets still NO CONDOM! I ask him what happened to it and he says he gave it to his friend so I called his friend and he agrees that he was given the condom by my boyfriend. But of course id cover for my friend too. I dont know what to believe... I trust him but not when it comes to a missing condom... thats just unbelievable... what should I do? Is he cheating or did he cheat?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): Your being so over the top, he will have given it to his friend. If you're so touchy about everything then just leave him instead of getting fussy about stupid stuff
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Keeping a condom in your wallet is a horrible idea. If you read the boxes, the temperature of your body can, over time, destroy the condom. If you need an emergency backup, find a new place.
(I realize this has nothing to do with the question at hand, but that's been handled pretty well by the others)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 July 2010):
The suspicious part here is not that the condom wasn't there. It could have been out of date, it could have been lost. Lots of things could have happened. Not even the 'weekend' excuse is the suspicious part.
The suspicious part is that his friend said that he'd gave it to him. I don't buy it.
There's not enough information to say for sure that he cheated, but I recognize a male excuse when I see one, and I think that the condom excuse was a lie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): If this man is "the one" you will know if he has cheated.
For something like this go with Occam's razor, which is the principle that simplest explanation is usually the correct one.
Beyond giving it to a friend, he could have turned into a water bomb, into a ballon, melted to fix a puncture and so on. Many possible explanations. Why torture yourself with just one possibility from many?
If he has cheated he will probably eventually tell you. If he has, is it the end of the world?
Maybe you need to spend some time renewing your affections for each other, renew the sense of trust you have.
Good luck
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reader, person12345 +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Difficult to say. But most likely since you've been fighting he thought it was a good way to spite you or something. It's very sketchy that you didn't hear from him all weekend. I'm sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear.
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