A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was just wondering if anyone could tell me how likely it is that i might be pregnant, and how soon i should take a testOk well over last night and yesterday morning me and my boyfriend have had sex many times and he has ejaculated inside me 3 times, as we are trying for a baby, just wondering if anyone could tell me how likely i am to be pregnant as my last period started on the 30th june and endedon the 5th july, which by my calculations means i would be ovulating on the 19th of july (the day we had sex) Can anyone offer any insight as to how likely it is im pregant? and how soon should i take a test if we had sex yesterday? Thankyou in advance for any and all answers x x Angel x
View related questions:
be pregnant, ejaculate, might be pregnant, period, trying for a baby Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 July 2010):
 I think you should go see a GYN. Talk to her about how to get pregnant and how to avoid it. And no, if you had sex yesterday there is no telling (yet) if you are pregnant or not. It all comes down to your cycle, yours and your BF's fertility and.. a bit of luck.
If you are actively trying to get pregnant, take a test about 5 days after your first missed period.
Good luck,
A
reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for the answers, maybe i should have made this more clear im 20 in 2 weeks this isnt my account, my boyfriend and i are engaged to be married in december, im a nursery nurse and he's A sales manager hes 22. Please could you guys offer any perspective on my question :( apologies for not making my age clearer, i did originally intend to put it in my question but forgot. xxxxx
...............................
A
female
reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (20 July 2010):
 I'm your age and yeah I think babies are cute and all but your so not ready for one yet! Listen to the other posters! Your not even 18, you havn't experienced clubbing and all the other fun stuff which is gonna be damn near impossible unless you can fork out for a babysitter (and nights out are expensive enough!)Be realistic, you might not be with your boyfriend forever, which is not the best start for you baby, as infants need consistant attachment figures to develop well mentally and feel secure.Also it would be so hard to study with a baby, and if you wanted to go to uni then there's almost no hope of that with a kid. Don't think you can just let your parents take most of the responsibility, because its so not fair on them.
...............................
A
female
reader, person12345 +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Why are you trying to get pregnant at your age? I understand a baby sounds like a great thing now, but it's not only in your best interest, but in the best interest of your unborn child to wait until you're older. Relationships at your age usually don't last forever. What happens if you guys break up but now there's a kid involved? Do you think he's still going to pay his fair share money-wise and time-wise? Also, what financial means are you going to use to pay for the baby? In case no one's told you babies and children are REALLY expensive. To raise a kid you basically have to be able to afford a new house. And that's not even including paying for a car, or college, or any of that. You should listen to k_c100. She has it all very well covered. This isn't like that new phone you HAVE to have right this minute. You can get rid of that. This child will be tied to you, 24/7, for the rest of your life. So if you have this baby, any other plans you had along the way are now no longer relevant. You should wait. Delayed gratification is the definition of maturity. If you want a baby so bad now, you'll want it just as bad when you're 25 and have a good job.
...............................
A
female
reader, k_c100 +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Well you have done all you can to get pregnant so just wait and see if you miss your period. We are not doctors here on Dear Cupid, nor can we look inside your teenage womb and tell you if you are pregnant or not. Wait and see if you miss your period, then take a test. If you do not miss your period then the chances are you are not pregnant and the world will be spared of another teenage mum for at least another month.
I'm sorry if I sound harsh but I cannot understand why a 16-17 year old girl (who can spell which is very rare for DC!) wants to get pregnant? I mean really, have you thought this through?
1. You are not married, and if your boyfriend is a similar age to you I would bet money that within a few months of the baby arriving he will no longer be your boyfriend. Nearly every teenager that comes on this site who has a boyfriend and they "try" for a baby, where they both really want it and their boyfriend is "so excited" - the boyfriend leaves and the girl comes on here crying wondering where it all went wrong. The issue is that women, when they become mothers, will be tied to that child for the rest of its life. Mothers have a much stronger bond to the child than the fathers, therefore the fathers find it very easy to walk away. Especially when the father is a teenage boy or young man who had no idea what he was letting himself in for and the responsiblity becomes too much. I'm sure you think this will never happen to you, but I think you should think carefully about this - are you happy to be a single mother? Because you are not married therefore you have to be well prepared to raise this child alone.
2. Where are you getting the money from aged 16-17 to raise a child? Do you expect people like me to pay for a nice council flat for you and baby? Or is it your poor old parents that are having to fork out for your selfishness? Or by some miracle do you both have jobs that pay over £20k a year and you have plenty saved up in the bank ready for the approximate £100,000 that it costs to raise a child? I would imagine you dont at your age! In fact I bet if you have got a job you will be on minimum wage with no career prospects.
3. That brings me onto education - why are you not doing A Levels? There are hardly any jobs out there at the moment due to the economy, so trying to get a job so you can feed your child will be almost impossible with only GCSE's, unless you fancy a life stacking supermarket shelves. And if you do plan on trying to do A Levels, how do you think it is possible with a child? Who is going to care for the child while you study? Is it good old mum and dad again? Or are us taxpayers paying for your childcare too?
4. Life experience. What do you honestly believe you have to offer a child? I bet your answer will be "love". Because all teenagers come on here saying the same thing, "I have so much love to offer a child". Well I have so much love to offer Jake Gyllenhall, but that doesnt mean I am going to act on it now does it! Love is not anywhere near enough for a child - the child needs you to be responsible, mature, well educated, financially stable, able to drive, in a stable family (i.e. Married!) etc. You are none of these things age 16/17! What happens when the child comes to you for help on its homework and you have no idea because you dropped out of school and never made it to uni? What happens when the child wants a toy all his/her friends have but you cant afford it because you have a dead end job? What happens when you want to enrich your child with educational toys and books to make sure he/she is smart and switched on, but all you can afford is a crappy old TV so he/she sits in front of that all day? What happens when your teenage boyfriend is no longer around because he didnt want to be burdened before he is 20 so baby asks "why doesnt daddy come round anymore" and your only answer is "because he is out partying with his friends". What happens when your child gets picked on at school because mummy is working all hours to make ends meet yet baby still never has the latest clothes or trainers? Do you think love is enough then?
5. YOUR LIFE. Have you thought about what you are giving up? Are you ready to have no friends, no social life, not be able to go out for at least 5-10 years, have no money to buy yourself clothes, not be able to go out to clubs/bars when all your friends are? Are you ready for the next 18 years of your life to be about another person and you get no time to yourself? Are you ready when it comes to your mid-thirties to have an adult child and you could even become a grandparent at that age? Are you ready for all your friends when they are in their thirties to be succesful and happy with their young children and babies, and all you have is years of struggle and hardship?
I hope to god you are not pregnant and by some hand of fate you dont fall pregnant for at least 5 more years. Because the last thing the UK needs is another teenage mum. But you wont listen, you are a teenager, and of course you are so mature you know what is right and right now having a baby is a great idea.
There is no good reason to have a child at your age. Simple as that. There are a million reasons to wait until you are older. I say this to every teenager that comes on here wanting a baby and I am sure it is falling on deaf ears each time. But you never know, one day one of you teenagers might just prove me wrong.
Well I can always live in hope cant it!
...............................
|
