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writes:I'm a gay male 25 been in a gay relationship for the past 6 years, he is also 25. he is addicted to porn and always wants other men he hasn't yet cheated in the flesh. my question i guess is what can i do to make him feel he dosen't need to lie about his porn and masterbation
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Participate with him... That'll certainly make him feel less 'guilty' (which is probably why he lies) about it.
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reader, jp21 +, writes (21 July 2010):
 lol i have that issure with porn and masturbation. why would he lie about his addiction? hmmm, idk, you should do it with him. then he may feel ok and comfortable about it.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Unfortunately short of leaving there's nothing you can do other than keep talking and talking and making sure he knows how much it hurts. Once it's gotten to the stage of lying constantly he's not going to stop unless he knows he has a problem. He may say he'll stop, he may not want to hurt you, but porn is one of those things where people rarely stop for someone else. He has to want to stop for himself. If you can get him to admit he has a problem, then you're on the right track. Also it might help to, not as revenge so much, but as a way to try to get him to feel what you feel, turn him down for sex (or say hang on I can't sleep before bed) and pull out a porno and masturbate to it. Maybe you could also convince him to read some literature on the subject? There are some good books out there, though I can't name off any that aren't mostly feminist.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): You should just simply talk to him. Nicely. Not accusingly. Tell him you're being understading and he doesn't need to lie about it all. Otherwise he won't ever know that you want him to feel like he doesnt have to lie.
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