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writes:Ok this is not really a romance question but I really need advice... Ok I have a cousin that's my age my and her parents had us sacronised and so we r like really close. I tell her every thing that happens to me in my life. From boys to things my parents do!!! There is one secret I have ever kept from her. We may be the same age but I feel like I'm her big sister. I allways look after her and I love her more than anybody in my life ( more than my parents, sister, bro, ect...) and I would hurt anybody that messes with her. So over all I am very protective over her. Well the big secret I know is that her dad has aids!!!!! I've actually known this for a few years and her parents haven't told her yet and she will be fifteen in a few months! My question is should I tell her or not? She is a dadsys girl so I know that she will be devastated If she found out. But I don't want her to find out from her parents and be mad at me for not telling her... But I'm also afraid that if I tell her she will think I'm lying and be mad at me either way!!!!!!!! I'm only fourteen but iv known sinse I was 9 or 10! Should I tell her and possibly break her.... Or should I let her parents tell her, and her be mad at me for not telling her???
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 August 2010):
 U found out accidentally, the only thing u can do right now is do ur bff duties and be there for her every step of the way when her father tells her. Another thing u can do to maybe ease ur mind is confront ur uncle in private and tell him u overheard the convo and ask when are they going to tell your cousin bc she does deserve to know..But it has to be from her father's mouth not urs..Think if u told her, she would be angry with her rents for not telling her and very sad all at the same time..spare her the anger part, she's going to be a very sad girl when she finds out
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know because my mom and dad got into an argument and I over heard that he had aids from cheating on his wife....( she also don't know that her dad cheated on her mom...) iv kept this stupid secret for 5 years and my uncle ( the one w/aids) is currently at a doc check up in Houston!!! He told her he was going because hE was having "knee" problems!... For the third time !!!!!!!!!!... Her older sister, me and my family and a few ppl she don't even know knows about him having that stupid disease! I just think that it's wrong that she is the ONLY one in our big family that dosent know yet and I think is pretty messed up that I knew befoe her.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (4 August 2010):
 NO, absolutely not. Completely agree wih person12345.
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (4 August 2010):
 I am so sorry to hear this...But, please, don't tell her. You are her cousin but it's not your place to tell her, that falls on her parents. Never tell her that you know/knew. The best thing you can do is keep being the absolute best friend you can be to her and be there for her whenever it is she is told. Think too of her father, maybe he doesn't want his child knowing he's dying of this disease...doesn't he deserve his privacy? The right to tell his child himself? You can't take matters into your hands this way and I doubt her parents will tell her that you knew. Even if they did, she'll be too busy grieving to worry about being mad at you. So again, just be there for her, I can tell that you love her so be brave and be patient with her and the emotions she will go through...
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 August 2010):
 No absolutely not, do not tell her. Leave this to her parents to decide. I don't know how you know he has AIDS, but this is her father's decision and his alone when to tell her. This is not your place to tell her.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 August 2010):
I understand she's your bestie and that you guys share everything. However, its not your place to tell her this. Her parents havent told her for certain reasons and are most likely waiting for a good time to tell her so she can understand what's going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): How do you know? And it's his business to tell her not yours.
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