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writes:i've been with my bf for 1year. hes my first love and im his he's two years older than me.. we are both vigins.. and homecoming night b4 his big game.. i well lets just say i wanna have sex with him.. he gave me i ring and we are getting married soon.. in1more year about. my family loves him. and so do i. but he dont wear condoms and im not on birth control or anything, and scared of getting pregnant. i've tryed everthing he will never wear them... i really wanna have sex with him and im ready..should i??
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reader, londonmiss  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 If you are truly committed to him and you want to have sex, well you are going to have to insist he wears a condom or you go on birth control. Its simple, if you are not ready for a child then you need to do one or the other
1) condom
or
2) birth control
ideally both
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reader, dirtball +, writes (6 August 2010):
 For heaven sakes don't listen to MIchaela.Weeks! The pull out method is like playing Russian roulette. There is sperm in his precum, which starts coming out right away. That can get you pregnant.
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reader, GettingHelp  +, writes (6 August 2010):
NO
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): plain and simple ... No
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reader, MIchaela.Weeks +, writes (6 August 2010):
i would say no, it wouldnt be a good desition because you never wanna take the risk but then again ive done it before, a few times actually, without a condom and not being on birth control and nothing happend. but if yall do have sex then make sure he pulls out BEFORE he cums otherwise you will probably get pregant.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 August 2010):
 No No No. START with having some SELFRESPECT! If the guy won't buy and wear a condom, there is no sex. EVER! ( or at least til you are old enough to take care of a child)
Be smart. Don't be a statistic. Do be on here in a few weeks/months wondering if you are pregnant. Or having to get an abortion and all the physical/emotional mess that comes with it.
Even IF you two will eventually want to marry each other... doesn't mean you two shouldn't use protection. The boys you like at your age now... may not be what/who you want to be with when you are 18 or 21 or even older.
Be smart. Please.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (5 August 2010):
 No glove, no love then. If you don't use condoms then sooner or later you'll get pregnant. No question about it. Why won't he wear them? That's just plain idiotic. Don't you still have to take sex ed in school? Don't do it. Tell him no condom, no sex, end of story. If you can't even make him wear a condom so you don't get pregnant at 13-15 I don't think marriage is a very good option. Or marriage for anyone at 13-15 for that matter.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Put simply: If he won't wear a condom, he doesn't deserve sex. If he wants sex, he'll wear one. If he won't compromise, then he's not worth your virginity. Period.
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reader, Lotsalove. +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Child - Dependant for 18-21 Years Minimum
Needs constant feeding, changing, sleep, love, play, feeding, changing, sleep love, play...
Price - $ALOT
STD - Disease that affects your lady parts.
Symptons Vary From - Itching, Burning, Scabs, Sores, Problem Urinating, Sores in throat and could potentially leave you unfertile (Cant Have Children)
Which One do you want? Or You may get lucky and get BOTH!
Honestly, Your too young to get married, your too young to have sex, let alone a baby and you should only be learning about STD's, Not having a firsthand experience on how to get one. If your boyfriend pressures you into it without a condom, then tell him where to go.
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reader, escribanus  +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Dear you are atill a Kid, the time to be a teenager is too short. You will only have five to seven years to be inocent, fool, punk, childish. That time of live is the only one where your only concern is to enjoy and to learn. You are atill unmatture for a lot of things, so please do not rush things.
At your age, I would advice you to wait until you grow more mature to start or to keep having sex. Inocence is a jewel that can not be recovered ince you loose it.
Start your TV, put the dial on MTV and look at the show Sixteen and pregnat.
You will surely get pregnant or even worse get an STI like AIDS, HPV, gonorrea... guys have no memory about other sexual encounters he might has had.
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (5 August 2010):
 I want to jump off a bridge but I don’t want to wear a parachute should I?
OF COURSE NOT!!
If you thing you are old enough to have sex than you are old enough to firmly state your terms.
NO condom, NO sex
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reader, Miamine +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Heck your not even old enough to drive a car yet... My prediction... you have sex with the guy, you get pregnant, you two fight, your friends disappear, you struggle for money, kid starts screaming, eventually the guy runs away and you never see him again.
Not worth it babes.. never have sex without protection, unless your willing to be a parent, or the guy can't have kids and has a letter from his doctor promising you that he's free from AIDS.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (5 August 2010):
So you two want to be parents.. Have you put down money for this child your going to have?
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reader, raiders +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Poster you have said it yourself he won't wear a condom, How do you know for sure that he is a virgin. You have to always have in your head that guys are not virgins and that at some point he has had sex without protection. Always think this to protect you, always wear a condom because you might know the person you are dating but you don't know the people he dated and slept with. Having sex without protection is a big risk factor of catching an STD. Anyways you are a little to young to have sex and do not let yourself get peer pressure over this, because you are still in high school and believe me you might think you are going to grow up and marry him,,,,, but you won't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): Of course you shouldn't especially because he won't wear condoms, unless he has a proper genuine doctor's note saying he's allergic then i think he's a right t**t, also you're not on birth control! So no. It's ssilly and full of risks, plus he's just feeding you what you want to here 'oh yeah babby we're gonna marry , yeah , let's make love soon and after plan it'
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 August 2010):
NO NO NO NO NO!
1 - He might be diseased.
2 - You will get pregnant.
3 - He and you will be arrested.
4 - You'll never have any freedom again.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (5 August 2010):
clickhere nailed it with one sentence. If he won't wear a condom, then he isn't thinking about what is best for both of you. Only proceed if you're ready for parenthood.
Everyone else gave great advice too. Your fears mean you're not ready. It's great that you're in love, and that your family likes him, but how would they feel if they knew he wants to have sex with you without any form of protection? lol.
Be a kid, have fun, don't rush into anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): Short answer...NO!
Use protection, or don't do it at all.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (5 August 2010):
 I see you're very young. Are you ready to take this kid of responsibility ? Is he ready ? How old is he ? Are you secure about him, that he will marry you and take responsibility ?
If you want a baby, you can have sex with him, but at this age... I don't know if it's OK to throw yourself into something with no turning back. Having unprotected sex at this age, resulting in a pregnancy, is a great burden in the future. If your mother loves you, she will stop you from taking this step.
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reader, HalfHeartbroken +, writes (5 August 2010):
 If you're worried like this, then you are not ready. You need to talk to him about your fears and concerns. You both need tested even if you are virgins to double check and if you still wish to pursue this idea to have sex with him. Please get on birth control at least, Go to the clinic or planned parenthood and talk to the doctor there about obtaining birth control. Though, in my opinion you should definitely wait until you are older or you get married. Your virginity is a priceless gift and if your boyfriend already doesn't want to honor your wishes toward sex (i.e. wearing a condom) then he is not going to later. Whatever you do, please be careful and make a responsible decision that you won't regret later on in life. You are still so very young, be careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): there is a saying in england - want respect, wear a condom or in this case, make him wear a condom. He may promise to be with you forever today but tomorrow when you have a kid, those promises might fade. Always always wear a condom and try to get on birth control if you can ... you are both in high school by the looks of it and i doubt you want to be parents before graduation. Tis blooming hard work and so not worth a night a passion for a life time of slaving away for your kid when you are not ready for that responcibility. You may want sex and he may want sex but i would stand strong ... no condoms, no sex, period!
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (5 August 2010):
 first of all you aren't ready for marriage and definately aren't ready for motherhood. guarantee that you will get pregant if you have unprotected sex or even an STD. Wearing a condom isn't just his choice.
DO NOT have sex with him without one. You're young and fertile. talk to your mother about getting on some type of birth control if you're really ready for sex. don't be afraid to because according to you... you're about to step into woman hood.
but if he doesn't love you enought to wrap it up then he really doesn't love you at all.
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reader, clickhere +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Not unless you want a kid.
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