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writes:Recently, my boyfriend told me that he found a girl at his summer job to be more "attractive" than me. I'm thin for my height, and in his words, look more "fragile" than "fit" and "fragile" is not attractive. He also said that she is prettier, but that could be because of her personality? I've never actually really met this person, but from what I've been told, she is quite friendly, open, outgoing, cheerful and "sparkles". I'm, on the other hand, quiet and reserved, and don't really laugh that much (I go through periods of "depression") Anyway, should I be worried? He said that if he wasn't with me, and she already didn't have a boyfriend, he'd pursue her. I think he might have more than a "crush" (in his words) - how do you know if you significant other likes someone else? Do such feelings ever go away, or would they intensify with time? Also, if you were in this situation, what (if anything) do you expect your significant other to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): Your boyfriend is an asshole. Drop him, he does not deserve you. And do it quick beofre he says more nasty things to you!
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (21 July 2010):
When you see the hurt train coming a mile away...you get off the tracks.
Anyone who has to put up with a jackass like him will have depression issues.
Let him have her...Maybe she will see someone else she is more attracted too...hehe.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 July 2010):
When a guy says something like this, he's not good enough. What an ass. I think you should dump him and move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): Hi girl
Honestly I think that you should tell him how you feel when she talks about the "other girl" if he does not listen then I suggest you leave him period. Probably he is not the guy you thought he was. You should have not even let him talk like that about her from the start. Does he even tell you how much he loves you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): Why the hell would he make that sort of comment to begin with? This is define a sign....how would he like it if you made the same comment? He is a total dickhead!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 I think he is an insensitive bastard for putting you down the way he is.
Why are you still with him? Obviously it can't be for his compassionate and loving personality.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): How do you know if your significant other likes someone else? In your case you lucked out because he directly stated he likes someone else. So this is a tremendous help in figuring it out.
Usually, you can tell because he pursues the other girl through various means.
If my man told me he found someone else more attractive and would pursue her if she didn't have a boyfriend, that would be the last thing he gets to say to me. Albeit I would be grateful for the direct announcement, it's still the last I'd see of him.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Yes. You should be worried. He's an insensitive prick for saying that. Who does that? You should leave him before he a) cheats with that girl and b) destroys your self-esteem. Again seriously, what kind of person would say that??? You deserve someone who is attracted to you for you and says so, not someone who eats at your self-esteem and tells you you're not as good looking as his coworker. I repeat, what kind of person does that?
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