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writes:I'm 41 and with a highly sexed woman who's 40. We've been together about a year, and I have to say it has been a roller coaster. I love sex, but I am not used to it every day, let alone 3-4 times. Mentally, yes, but physically it takes me at least a full day to "recharge" fully and have my libido back. As a result, if I try to please her when I've had sex with her recently, I sometimes do not maintain an erection. It's like my animal instinct is just dead. This seems like a libido problem, and I did talk to my doc about it. he tested my blood, and everything came back normal. Testosterone was like 520. He gave me some Levitra to try and while it did make me firmer, it did not increase my libido, and I can't keep buying the stuff (insurance doesn't cover much).I also get a bit of performance anxiety from it, becuase I want to be the super-stud she wants. And sometimes I am, but many times, I go for days without being "in the mood" for all out sex. We compromise very well, and she is understanding, and we do not ALWAYS try to do it every day...she is understanding that it is not good to force it. but I'm wondering if I can somehow increase my libido. I think I'm still young enough to be the horny guy I remember form my 20's and 30's. I get serious wood in the morning and from porn, so I know there is nothing wrong with me physically. However, I am under a LOT of stress lately, which is probably the cause.I am very healthy, athletic, dont smoke or drink and have no ED-causing ailments.So, how do most doctors tackle this?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (5 August 2010):
 You should do something to take the stress off yourself, like have you thought about buying her a vibrator for you to use on her? That way you can pleasure her without having to get an erection and quite frankly without having to do a ton of work. How about just giving her oral occasionally too? Since your insurance doesn't cover it (not to mention they're dangerous) I would stay away from those drugs. It doesn't sound like anything's wrong with you. You say you're under a lot of stress, stress if pretty much the number one libido killer for everyone. When you're stressed the last thing in the world you'll want is to get busy. If you're not horny, don't have sex. Try getting some relaxation before trying for sex. Like, ask for a backrub before trying. One last quick thing, you mention you have no problem getting hard for porn, if you're masturbating on top of this, that's definitely contributing to your libido problem. I'd lay off porn and masturbating until your libido is back.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (5 August 2010):
I alway say the penis should finish what your mouth and hands started. It should not be the ONLY tool in the shed. Find ways to get your lady so cranked up, that by the time you use the tool, she is done.
A friend of mind use to do things to his girl all day. Sex talk, touch here and there. He would get her soooo horny that by the time they got to the bedroom....she was ready to explode.
Some handy work, lip service...now she is ready to rip her hair out. By the time he enter her, 1 minute, and KABOOM!! She was done. She loved sex too, but the big one took sooooo much out of her, she did come back as often.
What I learned from that? All day foreplay, goes a long way.
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