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How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 25 June 2010: No, I loved the length and the frankness in your most current post.. I was getting pissed of by what I could see as your "cruelty" in continuing to demand she relive her past..
But your last post, that was beautiful, hard for me to understa... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 10 June 2010: Here they are Karma, when you have time, take a look at these 3 links
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-would-not-have-married-her-had-i.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retroactive-jealousy--how-do-i-overcome-it.html
http://www.dear... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 10 June 2010: Yes, Gottman's Four Horsemen article was brilliant, good for everyone to take on board.. think I'll print it and keep it for myself.
I'll try and track down Yos's recommended posts on this issue.. ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 9 June 2010: It's funny how we've gone from a wife who was working through this with you in your original post, to a wife who now has a serious personality disorder... ... (read in full...)
Husband cheated and says I treat him like a convict
Q. I am married with 2 kids aged 2 and 6. My husband frequents pubs and night clubs with his friends. I accidentally discovered that my husband paid and slept with the pub hostress after he got high and drunk. He promised not to drink again and will ...
A. 9 June 2010: I notice that you use the word "I" a lot... this isn't only about him, it's also about you I think..
This business, the cheating, has made you into the kind of woman that you dislike.. probably checking up on a man is not something you like... ... (read in full...)
Can't pull back foreskin
Q. hello ,, i have searched and searched and searched for people with my problem ,, i think im thu only one with what ive searched ,, im a 14 year old male and cannot pull my forskin back even when soft ,, someone please help ,, im soo... worried i ...
A. 9 June 2010: Just found out, somewhere from a thread on dear cupid, that they don't even cut you no more.. they have a cream they use and it loosens everything up.. go to the doctor and everything will be ok.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 9 June 2010: Rereading all the posts again... a couple of things stand out..
1. You'd rather not feel like this, but you are in pain and suffering, it's not something you can help.. you need your wife to understand this and help you by working through this tog... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 8 June 2010: It's not your fault, it's not her fault.. it's not something you want to do.. it's just how your brain works, it's primative, repeatitive and sorry, obsessional...
Have you tried Cognative Therapy Behaviour (CBT).. which helps you rational... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: What can she blame you for? The only thing you are responsible for is demanding she relive her past which probably causes her pain.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: So it dosen't mean that she has to repeat the story of the past... all she has to do is listen to how your feeling?... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 8 June 2010: No... please don't...
I have said my point.. it's long past time I started to listen...
You want her to not ignore the pain that your going through with all these thoughts about what she done in the past? Is that it? For her it's past, but f... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: *sorry.. or her..
How dose your wife do this "validation" thing?
Does she need to recognise your in pain? Do she need to apologise for her past? Dose she need to admit that she was wrong? What is it that you need?
... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Ok.. lets break this down.. Let me try to understand what you want...
"I want to be validated now, I want to validate her now,"
Validate how, what dose this mean? Your in pain, definitely, thoughts about her past hurt you, yes, deeply...
... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 8 June 2010: Ok.. new track.. exactly what are you looking for..
You asked your wife for details, she has given you them.. what more do you need to know from her..
You say you want to talk to her, about what.. do you need her to repeat the story again and ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Yes.. "the past is another country.. once we leave there is no passport to get back".... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: You say that you've noticed she hasn't changed... what dose that mean... has she been unfaithful to you, is she doing things with drugs again?
"I want is for her to give up the control and to learn not only to soothe herself, but also me. Instead,... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: :)... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: "some people do not know how to think. They have faulty logic, most of it too linear which allows them to justify just about anything in their own minds, even to help you with your problem."
You know what.. R&B is totally right.. I am wasting ... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 8 June 2010: I don't do ratings.. if I did, I would be nice and sweet and polite..
Space is so limited here, how would I know you have OCD, when you have never mentioned it and I don't know you at all..All I know is what you write, if you don't tell us, then... (read in full...)
A lot of relationship problems! Please help my hearts breaking!
Q. The father of my 18 month old daughter left me yesterday saying he needed to get away from me to better himself yet today he says he thinks hes made a mistake and wants 3 weeks break and then to return home. Hes been unemployed for basically 3 years ...
A. 7 June 2010: Sorry honeypie, but you need someone to reliable, or you need to find that strength to stand on your own..
Pain is fresh, you cry, you cry as much as you want. Today remember all the good times... But I want you to come back and remember all the ... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 7 June 2010: Oh one other thing.. this punishment.. no.. do not give up.. if your unhappy of course you must say something, just like you did here.... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 7 June 2010: And sorry, the laugh is for myself, for my own arrogance and my total misreading of your particular situation.... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 7 June 2010: lol.. so I was totally wrong.. understood and accepted... so what happens now..
slapping is abusive, just like screaming is.. you didn't actually say you smacked his hands, you said that you had slapped him.
More questions than anything else, q... (read in full...)
How many is too many? She's had 10 sexual partners in 3 years
Q. Hi all, I am 21 yrs old and I'm seeing a new girl right now. We've been dating for quite a while now, but she said something that concerned me. She is 21 also and lost her virginity at age 18 and has since gone off and had 10 sexual partners since ...
A. 7 June 2010: Mr anon.. speak for yourself.. you must be having very bad sex if you have the time to think of other people.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 7 June 2010: Yos, if I can remember was all for you fighting your own obsession yourself and trying to ignore it and push it away.
Troubletoomuch on the other hand found it useful talking about it with his wife and getting all the details until he could un... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 7 June 2010: We have very, very good discussions about "retroactive jealousy".. again search the board for posts by either "Yos" or "troubletoomuch", they have suffered and in many discussions gave lots of different hints about how to overcome..
I'm still he... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 7 June 2010: Karma.. I like your post and the way you are approaching things...
I do not have time for jealousy in any form.. it is a destructive, non loving emotion..
You want to know what I really think.. again, it's not good to ask women things when you ... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 7 June 2010: Your head is sick with this obsession, give your wife a break and go and see a doctor.... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 7 June 2010: "....but you should cede your top aunt spot to someone who isn't so quick to ignore others' pain."
Pot calling kettle black methinks.. what about your wife's pain.. she's the one who did the bad action, who has tried to forget and change..... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 7 June 2010: "My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married."
You knew about this before you got married, but still you decided to marry her.. why, to punish her and make her life hell...
How long have you been married by the w... (read in full...)
A lot of relationship problems! Please help my hearts breaking!
Q. The father of my 18 month old daughter left me yesterday saying he needed to get away from me to better himself yet today he says he thinks hes made a mistake and wants 3 weeks break and then to return home. Hes been unemployed for basically 3 years ...
A. 7 June 2010: OK... you spend all you money on this guy, what dose your daughter get?
She wants to introduce him to her friends, but he's too busy playing xbox to be bothered.
He's there, but he dosen't do anything, he dosen't help her with her homework, ta... (read in full...)
I waited faithfully for him while he was deployed but now he says he only loves our daughter
Q. Help. I waited.. i've been waiting faithfuly since Jan 09. I sent him packages, took good care of our daughter, was nice, honest, affectionate. But then he came home, and he says he's too different to love me anymore. He says the only person he ...
A. 7 June 2010: You always hurt the one you love right... they are the only people who accept you as you are...
I do hope with all my heart that this works out.. and you know how I feel, I'd feel safer if you and him lived separately so there would be less cha... (read in full...)
I waited faithfully for him while he was deployed but now he says he only loves our daughter
Q. Help. I waited.. i've been waiting faithfuly since Jan 09. I sent him packages, took good care of our daughter, was nice, honest, affectionate. But then he came home, and he says he's too different to love me anymore. He says the only person he ...
A. 7 June 2010: ah... ok.. I understand now about the abuse and why you stay...
Again.. drink has to stop, and then he needs counselling.. Is there anyway you can contact someone in the military for help. I know the USA usually have military groups for wives an... (read in full...)
A lot of relationship problems! Please help my hearts breaking!
Q. The father of my 18 month old daughter left me yesterday saying he needed to get away from me to better himself yet today he says he thinks hes made a mistake and wants 3 weeks break and then to return home. Hes been unemployed for basically 3 years ...
A. 7 June 2010: mmmm... your right marieclaire, why keep him as a lover, £700, that's too expensive for even me... keep yourself free to find someone who treats you right.... (read in full...)
Can't pull back foreskin
Q. hello ,, i have searched and searched and searched for people with my problem ,, i think im thu only one with what ive searched ,, im a 14 year old male and cannot pull my forskin back even when soft ,, someone please help ,, im soo... worried i ...
A. 7 June 2010: Go to your doctor.. don't be worried, inability to pull back foreskin is common.. it's probably a little bit of skin that needs to be cut.. Tell your parents to make an appointment for you to be seen.
You need to get this seen too, it will mak... (read in full...)
Forgot my pill, what should I do?
Q. This is just an enquiry - basically I'm on the pill and have been for a few years now - I forgot to take the pill after a night out and it slipped my mind as I was on my period shortly after. Now when I finished me and my boyfriend had an accident ...
A. 7 June 2010: IUD.. can be inserted up to 5 days and stop unwanted pregnancy.. please contact your GP or your local Family Planning Centre. NHS have a 24hour line you can call which is staffed by trained nurses...... (read in full...)
Suddenly , 4months into our relationship, he now lets me know that he has a child!!
Q. Okay Im in a four month relationship. I am 20 years old. I found old yesterday my boyfriend has a five year old child. I am blown away by this and devastated. I feel too young to be with someone who has baggage but I also feel tricked that he waited ...
A. 7 June 2010: You are young, you don't want a man burdened by children, end this relationship now before it gets any more serious.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got drunk and took her top off with a group of other people. Should I be worried??
Q. My girlfriend and I recently attended my best friends wedding. After the reception, everyone was pretty drunk. And myself along with several other people (two who were good friends of mine) continued drinking and partying in the hotel (we had the ...
A. 7 June 2010: Drink too much alcohol and you black out and remember nothing.. of course it's true that she forgot what she did and acted totally out of character because of the drink..
Alcoholic blackouts are a common thing..... (read in full...)
Is this going somewhere bad?
Q. I think my hub is slowly gaining all control over me and getting me into an abusive relationship.. it all started amazing, he was nice in every way. Then he got more angry more easily. He gets mean out of nowhere but is really nice after that but ...
A. 7 June 2010: Stop drinking both of you.. then get him to see a counsellor who deals with anger and PTS... the military can fix this up, or otherwise get him to see his local doctor.
You cannot fix him, you cannot change him, he has to want to change himself.... (read in full...)
Is this going somewhere bad?
Q. I think my hub is slowly gaining all control over me and getting me into an abusive relationship.. it all started amazing, he was nice in every way. Then he got more angry more easily. He gets mean out of nowhere but is really nice after that but ...
A. 7 June 2010: You'll only get the same answers... no aunt here on this board will tell you to stay with this abusive man.... (read in full...)
Is this going somewhere bad?
Q. I think my hub is slowly gaining all control over me and getting me into an abusive relationship.. it all started amazing, he was nice in every way. Then he got more angry more easily. He gets mean out of nowhere but is really nice after that but ...
A. 7 June 2010: You can't even see the pattern..
1. Treat woman badly
2. Treat woman nice
3. Treat woman badly
4. Treat woman nice
Except every time he hurts you, he will hurt you worse and worse.... Please look up domestic violence on the internet, be... (read in full...)
Is this going somewhere bad?
Q. I think my hub is slowly gaining all control over me and getting me into an abusive relationship.. it all started amazing, he was nice in every way. Then he got more angry more easily. He gets mean out of nowhere but is really nice after that but ...
A. 7 June 2010: Forced blowjobs are not normal, neither is a man pinning you down and saying you don't have the right to push him away, whilst telling you nasty words to your face.
This is abuse, and it usually gets worse.. You stay, it gives him the green li... (read in full...)
A lot of relationship problems! Please help my hearts breaking!
Q. The father of my 18 month old daughter left me yesterday saying he needed to get away from me to better himself yet today he says he thinks hes made a mistake and wants 3 weeks break and then to return home. Hes been unemployed for basically 3 years ...
A. 7 June 2010: Sigh.. I was going say he's feeling down because he's unemployed and that makes him feel like a slob.. BUT
1. Took £700 from your purse
2. Didn't care enough to come and see his daughter in hospital
3. Cheated on you when you was 9months preg... (read in full...)
Is this going somewhere bad?
Q. I think my hub is slowly gaining all control over me and getting me into an abusive relationship.. it all started amazing, he was nice in every way. Then he got more angry more easily. He gets mean out of nowhere but is really nice after that but ...
A. 7 June 2010: Your guy is abusing you.. I suggest you leave him, things are going to get a whole lot worse, soon he will start hitting you and raping you, he's already forcing you to have blowjobs and accusing you of adultery..
LEAVE HIM!!!!... (read in full...)
How many is too many? She's had 10 sexual partners in 3 years
Q. Hi all, I am 21 yrs old and I'm seeing a new girl right now. We've been dating for quite a while now, but she said something that concerned me. She is 21 also and lost her virginity at age 18 and has since gone off and had 10 sexual partners since ...
A. 7 June 2010: hahaha.. we don't want you to dump her, but it's hard to tell you to forget your feelings and change your views..
Your both in it for the long term.. that's all that matters.. 10 guys, 100 guys.. who cares.. they are no longer here..
Women d... (read in full...)
Help! I freak out when I feel good!
Q. This post has turned out to be really long, I’m sorry, I just started writing and didn’t realise. I’m a 25 year old girl who has a mental block during sex/fooling around. I’m starting to think I’m not normal. I have the loveliest boyfriend. I sho...
A. 7 June 2010: Damn, Damn, damn.. your bringing tears to my eyes, because I know exactly how you feel and your much too young to suffer like this..
Can you register with Dear Cupid.. I would prefer talking to you in private by the messaging system...
Keeping... (read in full...)
Husband cheated and says I treat him like a convict
Q. I am married with 2 kids aged 2 and 6. My husband frequents pubs and night clubs with his friends. I accidentally discovered that my husband paid and slept with the pub hostress after he got high and drunk. He promised not to drink again and will ...
A. 7 June 2010: Yes, but trust takes time.. you've been betrayed and hurt, your trust destroyed, it will take you a long time to trust again.. Tell him this, tell him it's his fault that you now get scared of him misbehaving again... People that cheat destroy ... (read in full...)
I feel more comfortable dressing like a guy
Q. Hi. Um, I hope this question is appropriate for this kind of forum, but it's the only site I can really find that seems reliable. Anyway... I'm confused. I'm a 19 year old girl and consider myself as such. I have crushes on boys, though I've only...
A. 7 June 2010: lol.. glad you think we are reliable..
Sex is one thing, clothes is another, there is nothing to say your not feminine or your a lesbian if you prefer to dress in (boys) clothes...
You are transexual when you hate being a woman, hate your... (read in full...)
We both dreamt we cheated! Does it mean anything?
Q. this is the third time ive had a dream about my boyfriend cheating on me and i told him about it and he said that last night he also had a dream and it was that him and his cousins were at hotel and he called me to come and one of his cousins was a ...
A. 7 June 2010: Dreams can tell us about the things we fear... He likes you, you like him, you are frightened to loose each other and therefore you dream.
It's a warning, make sure that you are happy and you do things that make you both laugh and want to stay tog... (read in full...)
Old enough for a baby, but he's unemployed and we still live at our parents...
Q. ok heres the thing my partner is well broody for a child im 29 and hes 26 . weve been together for 3 years and both think we could do this have a child . hes not working at the moment but looking and im working . im worried and i know i shouldnt...
A. 7 June 2010: 29... as a childless woman, I will say what the nurses told me.. you fertility rapidly declines after 35, we are talking about 50% decay for every year you get older.
There is never a perfect time to have a child, never enough money, never en... (read in full...)
Nice Guys, my boyfriend is too nice, my husband is too nice
Q. So...I just want to open this space for discussion between men and women husbands and wives girlfriends and boyfriends about what it means when a man is being "too nice" or is a "Nice Guy" and how it makes both men and women feel...there are a lot ...
A. 7 June 2010: Nice guys apply only.. why would anyone want a guy who makes them feel like shit..
I don't understand the logic myself.... (read in full...)
How does a large penis feel? Can a smaller guy satisfy a woman?
Q. I have a question for you women out there who have had a large penis (like 9"). What do you feel when it is all the way in? Is the sensation of being "filled completely" so overwhelmingly erotic to you that you long for it, or is it no big deal? ...
A. 6 June 2010: Big penis.. hurtful, uncomfortable, and makes the guy a jackass who thinks more about technique than making a woman feel emotionally good...
It's a lie, we woman don't dream about big penis, only men do that.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend admitted to me that while on holiday he visited a brothel
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years now, and he was going away on a family holiday for 2 days. When he came back i didnt see him because he had to go straight to work when he got home, but that night he texted me saying he had went to ...
A. 6 June 2010: Ok.. I'm swayed.. one mistake, forgive and forget...
And watch him like a hawk, especially when he gets upset..... (read in full...)
How many is too many? She's had 10 sexual partners in 3 years
Q. Hi all, I am 21 yrs old and I'm seeing a new girl right now. We've been dating for quite a while now, but she said something that concerned me. She is 21 also and lost her virginity at age 18 and has since gone off and had 10 sexual partners since ...
A. 6 June 2010: Agreed Vintage...
You have your beliefs, she doesn't seem to suit, why worry or make her unhappy... find a girl who has slept with the right number of people to make you less concerned...
No problems... ... (read in full...)
I'm tired all the time! What's going on?
Q. i don't sleep well at night..i take sleeping pills at times and still don't get a good night sleep. I don't ever sleep a 5-6 hours straight without waking up. After work i am just happy to come home and take a nap. Naps are where i get my best ...
A. 6 June 2010: She's getting 5-6 hours of sleep at night, and she's getting 2hour naps in the day... makes 8 hours.... That's probably enough
She needs to stop the naps and readjust her sleeping habits. She's not tired because she naps in the day... She need... (read in full...)
My boyfriend admitted to me that while on holiday he visited a brothel
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years now, and he was going away on a family holiday for 2 days. When he came back i didnt see him because he had to go straight to work when he got home, but that night he texted me saying he had went to ...
A. 6 June 2010: JMTMJ has made a lot of good points, and if your situation were different I would ask you to take them on board...
However.. you say your boyfriend has a history of doing stupid things with girls when he is upset... I think he loves you, but I al... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: To the aunts that blame the poster, shame on you (I've read your views in other posts and it makes me want to scream, you are so far off the mark, but you continue to dish out your diatribe in a nasty and vindictive way).
Anon... I'm not here to ... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: Manipulative... yep, that needs more explaination for why I said that....
First, I am very aware of what happens when women get abused, and how they act and react...
You lived with an abuser, and this guy is (supposedly) abusing you by s... (read in full...)
Any suggestions about this??
Q. Its been about four days since my last post. And my husband has currently convinced me to move back in... We still sleep in the same bed. But I do not allow him to touch me. A kiss or too I'd fine. As for sexually UHUN!. The day I posted that post ...
A. 6 June 2010: That's the pain bit, and it's perfectly normal. It takes time to forget his betrayal, accept that you are human, as you have accepted that he is. Tell your husband what your feeling, the thoughts that torture you and make you sick. You've been ... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: Lets walk in the guys shoes, lets turn this story around, and see if you still think her behaviour is wrong.
(story) I'm a woman dating a man. Everytime I walk down the street he accuses me of looking at other men and wanting to have sex with the... (read in full...)
The condom broke -- could I be pregnant?!!!
Q. hi im am 15 and well me and my boyfriend had sex yesterday on june the 4th and well today is the 5th, and well the condom tore:/ and the condom tore and he didnt know soo he came in me and im scared i might be pregnant? i was on the last day of my ...
A. 6 June 2010: I didn't say to go to your mum... you silly girl.. go to the doctor and stop the pregnancy if you've been caught. You are wasting time.... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: Man shouting = wicked abusive person
Woman slapping = fine, you had cause for violence... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: Is shouting and loosing your temper abusive.... is everyone on this dear cupid board a saint, who manages to keep their voice calm no matter what the provocation?
Don't listen to me, yes certainly, listen to only people who agree with you. Bu... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: *You know the difference between the abuse you suffered and this normal guy who was provoked and had a reason for loosing his temper and shouting.
You mention the abuse in your last relationship, because you are manipulative and you want sympathy... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: Your wrong, and you were not as calm and reasonable as you make out. You have jealousy issues and probably accuse your guy of all types of things. He is not your last boyfriend, he sounds like a guy who lost his temper because he has a distrusting ... (read in full...)
The condom broke -- could I be pregnant?!!!
Q. hi im am 15 and well me and my boyfriend had sex yesterday on june the 4th and well today is the 5th, and well the condom tore:/ and the condom tore and he didnt know soo he came in me and im scared i might be pregnant? i was on the last day of my ...
A. 6 June 2010: Young lady, stop wondering and do what the aunts have said.. book an appointment with your doctor.. ASAP, hurry, you don't have much time..
Your doctor can't tell anyone, it will all be secret. He will be able to help you. Sitting and worrying... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 4 June 2010: I suggest you take up Gabrielle's offer. Many aunts are not willing to open themselves up on the board, and a private letter would allow a longer conversation and more honesty than just a general response.
I would also suggest you search on the b... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 2 June 2010: Granted male anon, the main problem is his perception of his wife and what she HAS been capable off.. it leaves him feeling confused and picturing her in a different light. But we all have many dual personalities, we can be a whore in the bedroom, ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: Can you recreate the experience?.. you can give her the danger and excitement.. but the rest is impossible.. you can't give her the feeling of youth, or the feeling of doing something wrong, or feeling totally immoral and ultra powerfull.. she also ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: I'm like you.. no good at stranger sex.. I'm also one who thinks that the past is the past.
But I have a friend who suffered like you about his woman's past. He also found it comforting to understand and put things into perspective.
Sex, or... (read in full...)
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