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How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 25 June 2010: No, I loved the length and the frankness in your most current post.. I was getting pissed of by what I could see as your "cruelty" in continuing to demand she relive her past..
But your last post, that was beautiful, hard for me to understa... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 16 June 2010: Hold your horses there.. ssome pretty bold claims, that basically puts down the lifestyle and culture of anyone that is not living your standard of lifestyle..
Women in polygomous marriages fight and are unhappy... mmmmm.. interesting claim...... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 16 June 2010: BRAVO!!!!!!!!! Hahahaha... very wise words... and have you put Q in a box forever.. no problem, we'll have you as you make more sense.. :)... (read in full...)
I used to be skinny, now I feel like a whale!
Q. I have always felt uncomfortable about my body. I used to be skinny, and now that I'm married I feel like a whale. And my sisters and parents make these comments. I remember hearing how ppl who were over weight said that it hurts to hear ppl say I ...
A. 16 June 2010: Damn, Damn, Damn... hahahaha... I sent you a message with me details, here on dear cupid...
Damn, Damn, Damn... lol... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 15 June 2010: Thank you dear caller, this is one of the best pornography posts I have ever read.. It has been wonderfull listening to people with different views and experiences without the anger and people ignoring the other point of view.
Women who are upse... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 15 June 2010: The problem is 50% of women won't put up with or don't want to put up with porn, but only 20% of men feel the same way
Very important statistic...that leaves 80% of men and 50% of women not having such negative feeling against pornogra... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 15 June 2010: Of course they have a right to get upset and feel hurt. That's how they feel and that is there right. But a person has a right to feel upset and hurt about anything. I hate a man who watches sports, I think it makes him aggressive and turns him ... (read in full...)
I am happiest when my husband isn't in the house!
Q. i am sick of my husband. i have been with him 7 years and we have 4 children and one on the way but i have had enough of him i am happiest when he is not in the house. we split up for a while last year and my friends said i seemed more relaxed ...
A. 15 June 2010: Yes.. first hour with a lawyer is free in the UK. Relate fees are from £25 per hour, and are based on your income... you pay what you can afford.... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 15 June 2010: Celiaaletta is one of our stars, yes she had a problem with pornography, but when she came here for advice, she actually listened to the answers she was given and was willing to think through things logically and change her situation.
Many ... (read in full...)
I am happiest when my husband isn't in the house!
Q. i am sick of my husband. i have been with him 7 years and we have 4 children and one on the way but i have had enough of him i am happiest when he is not in the house. we split up for a while last year and my friends said i seemed more relaxed ...
A. 14 June 2010: I know you don't want to end up dependant on the government, but the welfare state was set up for exactly women like you. You have a disabled son, you are pregnant, you are not working, and you wish to continue education and make something of ... (read in full...)
My husband sees nothing wrong with staying touch with his exs but its making me sick!
Q. My husband is very outgoing and caring of others - a fact that attracted me to him in the first place. However, we have a major difference of opinion on what is considered as acceptable behaviour. My husband has had lots of girlfriends and partners ...
A. 14 June 2010: mmmm... wishing you well, and hoping you get over your bad day.... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 14 June 2010: Indeed Q.. a better comparison is asking a 5year old to give up ice-cream.. now the child dosen't NEED, ice-cream, and it's bad for it's health, but there is something about ice-cream that attracts the 5year old, and even if he promises never to eat ... (read in full...)
I am happiest when my husband isn't in the house!
Q. i am sick of my husband. i have been with him 7 years and we have 4 children and one on the way but i have had enough of him i am happiest when he is not in the house. we split up for a while last year and my friends said i seemed more relaxed ...
A. 13 June 2010: My parents divorced, and it's the best thing they ever did.. it is not always best to stay married for the children, they can see and taste the unhappiness..... (read in full...)
I am happiest when my husband isn't in the house!
Q. i am sick of my husband. i have been with him 7 years and we have 4 children and one on the way but i have had enough of him i am happiest when he is not in the house. we split up for a while last year and my friends said i seemed more relaxed ...
A. 13 June 2010: Yes Nightingale I agree.. so sad that you and your children have suffered under the hands of a bully...... (read in full...)
How do you put your penis in your briefs?
Q. Okay this might be an awkward question, but here goes. How do you put your penis in your briefs? I'm asking this because I put my penis in one of the sides of the brief because it's easier if you get an erection, am I the only one or are there ot...
A. 13 June 2010: Hahaha.. at last a gentleman with sense.. thank you vintage... (read in full...)
How do you put your penis in your briefs?
Q. Okay this might be an awkward question, but here goes. How do you put your penis in your briefs? I'm asking this because I put my penis in one of the sides of the brief because it's easier if you get an erection, am I the only one or are there ot...
A. 13 June 2010: Hey it's not us.. blame the Tailor.. I have a feeling this is a purely British Thing... well dressed gentleman and all that stuff... you can ignore Mr Texan... (read in full...)
How do you put your penis in your briefs?
Q. Okay this might be an awkward question, but here goes. How do you put your penis in your briefs? I'm asking this because I put my penis in one of the sides of the brief because it's easier if you get an erection, am I the only one or are there ot...
A. 13 June 2010: See.. I knew I was right.. Men should dress on the left.. but I don't know why.... (read in full...)
How do you put your penis in your briefs?
Q. Okay this might be an awkward question, but here goes. How do you put your penis in your briefs? I'm asking this because I put my penis in one of the sides of the brief because it's easier if you get an erection, am I the only one or are there ot...
A. 12 June 2010: Q (and other males).. since this question came up... why is important for a guy to "dress on the right side"? I never understood this saying. We women just pull up our knickers and we are done. Dose it also have to do with jackets and what side ... (read in full...)
My husband sees nothing wrong with staying touch with his exs but its making me sick!
Q. My husband is very outgoing and caring of others - a fact that attracted me to him in the first place. However, we have a major difference of opinion on what is considered as acceptable behaviour. My husband has had lots of girlfriends and partners ...
A. 11 June 2010: Maybe if you get to know his "friends", you'll find out that they are nice people indeed. At the moment it feels lonely being excluded when he has these "friends" you don't know. They knew he was getting married, I bet he talks about you all the ... (read in full...)
My husband sees nothing wrong with staying touch with his exs but its making me sick!
Q. My husband is very outgoing and caring of others - a fact that attracted me to him in the first place. However, we have a major difference of opinion on what is considered as acceptable behaviour. My husband has had lots of girlfriends and partners ...
A. 11 June 2010: ah... I got it mixed up.. the reason my cousin (dead guys ex partner) didn't come to my dad's house is because she and the dead guys new girlfriend decided to go over to his ex-wife's house instead and give her the support that she badly needed.... (read in full...)
I am happiest when my husband isn't in the house!
Q. i am sick of my husband. i have been with him 7 years and we have 4 children and one on the way but i have had enough of him i am happiest when he is not in the house. we split up for a while last year and my friends said i seemed more relaxed ...
A. 11 June 2010: Your children are being damaged by this man, they will have issues arround anger, commitment, trust and love if they stay with him much longer..
You have tried, this man is impossible, if he won't listen, he won't be able to change.
Leave, ... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 11 June 2010: mmmmm... pride and arrogance created Lucifer, but you are young and will learn as life goes by.... (read in full...)
I used to be skinny, now I feel like a whale!
Q. I have always felt uncomfortable about my body. I used to be skinny, and now that I'm married I feel like a whale. And my sisters and parents make these comments. I remember hearing how ppl who were over weight said that it hurts to hear ppl say I ...
A. 11 June 2010: Damn.. hate people who agree to take up me challenges.. that means I really got to start now..
I'm UK.. first we need to agree on what weight we are talking about.
2nd, two good films to watch are "fight club" and "Rocky".. we is like boxers, ... (read in full...)
My husband sees nothing wrong with staying touch with his exs but its making me sick!
Q. My husband is very outgoing and caring of others - a fact that attracted me to him in the first place. However, we have a major difference of opinion on what is considered as acceptable behaviour. My husband has had lots of girlfriends and partners ...
A. 11 June 2010: Last party I attended was at my father's house(a funeral) In attendance was my ex boyfriend (short relationship) and his girlfriend, my mother and father (divorced 27years) my dad's ex girlfriend (truely beloved by my mother) and his new girlfriend ... (read in full...)
My husband sees nothing wrong with staying touch with his exs but its making me sick!
Q. My husband is very outgoing and caring of others - a fact that attracted me to him in the first place. However, we have a major difference of opinion on what is considered as acceptable behaviour. My husband has had lots of girlfriends and partners ...
A. 11 June 2010: Many people are like you, they have no contact with ex partners and can't see the reason to do so.
But that's you, that's not him, that's not how everybody else in the world works. In my culture and within my friends and family, ex partners... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 11 June 2010: I stand corrected.. forgot that passage from jesus... thank you for reminding me.... (read in full...)
I so confused of who I am, I'm sure I'm not gay but people say I might be bi!
Q. So heres the thing i have a gay friend pritty much tried for years to convince me im "bi" or maybe even "gay" i mean my n my friend goofed around and went skinny dipping but i couldint even stand the thought of looking and thier ass hell in ...
A. 11 June 2010: Your not gay.. your gay friend is messing with your head because he fancies you and wants you.... (read in full...)
Does anyone know of any good romance novels???
Q. Hello again! I just had a quick question. I'm 19 as is my boyfriend. He is away at work during the weeks of the summer and is only home one day of each weekend for the entire summer. Before work started we used to spend every day together so ...
A. 11 June 2010: No.. not all of Judith's books are good, she stopped writing for a while, and when she came back her stuff was rubbish.. only read her old books...
Hahahaha... where do I start... I love me romance books...
For romance and laughs, and ligh... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 11 June 2010: You wish is right.. no text against masturbation in the bible... lust is seen as wrong, but that highlighted in the old testament (contract with the jews) and the new testament (especially St Paul)
Something I don't understand, you are Christia... (read in full...)
Does he masturbate to much?
Q. OK, I need some insight from the guys on a personal matter. I know that it is a private thing, but I am having a hard time dealing with how much my boyfriend masturbates. We probably have sex about twice a week on average and I would like to have ...
A. 10 June 2010: Why can't you two have morning sex.. He has "morning wood", you want sex more than twice a week... seems the solution is simple... Arrange to wake up together, or ask him to wake you up and not go into the bathroom to take care of his needs alone.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 10 June 2010: Here they are Karma, when you have time, take a look at these 3 links
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-would-not-have-married-her-had-i.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retroactive-jealousy--how-do-i-overcome-it.html
http://www.dear... (read in full...)
Is he cheating, gay, or what?
Q. Hi, please someone help! It's driving me crazy! Basically, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years... Things were so good to begin with, we did everything together. He stopped seeing his friends a few months before we got together because ...
A. 10 June 2010: Hold on if you can babes, don't cheat, give it a bit of time if you love him.
Yes he's got an addictive personality. He's addicted to the computer (I hear Warcraft hooks people bad) and he's likes his weed.
It's the weed that has turned him o... (read in full...)
Having problems with his daughter who is two years younger than I am.
Q. my partner and i have a massive age difference - 32 years to be precise. we've been together over a year now. he has a 17 year old daughter who he sees sundays - she's always hated me for the obvious reasons but is really close to his ex who is only ...
A. 10 June 2010: Nailed it You Wish.... She's obviously trying to draw his attention to the fact that his obsession with young girls is very, very distirbing....
... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 10 June 2010: Yes, Gottman's Four Horsemen article was brilliant, good for everyone to take on board.. think I'll print it and keep it for myself.
I'll try and track down Yos's recommended posts on this issue.. ... (read in full...)
Does my partner still miss his ex?
Q. So I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year, and we just started living together. He was with his last girlfriend for over 3 years and they lived together also. I sometimes feel a little insecure that he was with someone else so long, and I so...
A. 9 June 2010: Tell him what happened, tell him it hurts and makes you feel uncomfortable.. then ask him to burn them to DVD/CD and put it with all his old stuff (college days stuff, old photo's, etc, etc...)
Those are his memories, he probably dosen't look at ... (read in full...)
Is he getting sprung?
Q. Okay so my bf always wants me to give him head I give him head more then we have sex, he say's he loves they way I do it, Is he getting sprung????...
A. 9 June 2010: Oh yes.. you want an answer... he lies back, you do all the work... he is selfish, he is not sprung at all.... (read in full...)
Does she not want to be with me or what???
Q. I'm 21 years old. my girlfriend proposed me 3 months ago. so we are in relationship from last 3 months. she always says that she loves me a lot. i also love her a lot but she never talks much with me on the phone. she never messages me and never ...
A. 9 June 2010: Maybe she is selfish.. she could love you, but be so interested in herself and what she is doing she never thinks of you when she's away..
It's not a good sign, you need to talk to her and tell her you feel ignored, rejected and left out.... (read in full...)
Is he getting sprung?
Q. Okay so my bf always wants me to give him head I give him head more then we have sex, he say's he loves they way I do it, Is he getting sprung????...
A. 9 June 2010: I'm 40 and I'm spring is sprung.... (read in full...)
How do you have a successfull FWB?
Q. Question: How do you have a successfull FWB? How am I supposed to act in this type of relationship? I think I want to do this because I don't want to be in a serious relationship right now because of my kids. So, the question is, am I supposed to ...
A. 9 June 2010: Sigh.. you are right eyes.. she did mention something about "feelings"...... (read in full...)
How do you have a successfull FWB?
Q. Question: How do you have a successfull FWB? How am I supposed to act in this type of relationship? I think I want to do this because I don't want to be in a serious relationship right now because of my kids. So, the question is, am I supposed to ...
A. 9 June 2010: Worst thing about a FWB situation, is when you find the perfect unattached guy, and then he goes off and falls in love with someone else...
Only because a good guy who will do a FWB sucessfully and not give too much hassle is so damn hard to find.... (read in full...)
How do you have a successfull FWB?
Q. Question: How do you have a successfull FWB? How am I supposed to act in this type of relationship? I think I want to do this because I don't want to be in a serious relationship right now because of my kids. So, the question is, am I supposed to ...
A. 9 June 2010: She will do anything because the woman hasn't been born that can see sex as just sex but you are off scot free because "hey, I never said it was anything serious".
Hey Lazy guy, I resent that totally... me and BunnyTee just told you we did the ... (read in full...)
Apparently I have made him paranoid because of the porn I have been watching!
Q. Hello i am in need of some advice. My partner and i have been together for 4 years and have 2 children together, 3years and 6months, and recently we have been arguing a lot. Since having my second child i promised myself i'd get out more and have...
A. 9 June 2010: Lets push the porn aside, that is not the real issue. Both of you watch porn and enjoy it..
The problem is that he feels jealous and left out. He was used to you being at home, and now as you say, you go out a lot more now.. This is threaten... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 9 June 2010: It's funny how we've gone from a wife who was working through this with you in your original post, to a wife who now has a serious personality disorder... ... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 9 June 2010: Actually perhaps women who feel that looking at pornography is cheating, should make this very clear on the first date and then do exactly what they would do if the man was caught sleeping with another woman..
(Some) women feel it's cheating... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 9 June 2010: I suggest you also use the power of prayer, when you feel like masturbating, pray instead and give leave it all in your God's hands..
Stoping masturbation completely will be very hard, the body is weak and it is human and filled with natural ... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 9 June 2010: Sorry your post came in late and therefore my advice was not relevant to you.... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 9 June 2010: Oh, your a church person, you should have said that in your post... Go and talk to your preacher. They know that young people have a problem with stopping masturbation... the preacher can help you a lot..
Also join any church groups run for youn... (read in full...)
Husband cheated and says I treat him like a convict
Q. I am married with 2 kids aged 2 and 6. My husband frequents pubs and night clubs with his friends. I accidentally discovered that my husband paid and slept with the pub hostress after he got high and drunk. He promised not to drink again and will ...
A. 9 June 2010: I notice that you use the word "I" a lot... this isn't only about him, it's also about you I think..
This business, the cheating, has made you into the kind of woman that you dislike.. probably checking up on a man is not something you like... ... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 9 June 2010: Yep, best to knock pornography on the head if you can.. it's not necessary.. for me it's not wrong, but it's not necessary for masturbation. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 9 June 2010: Sexual addiction is a very misunderstood thing and I have even seen people on this site deny it's validity but for anyone that has ever been affected by this either from a spouse or personal struggle you will never get that argument! It is very real ... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 9 June 2010: "masturbating obsessively is NOT good for the body...it depletes the body of hormones." (anon)
As far as I know, this statement is not true...
However, obsessive masturbation can leave you sore physically... it is more the social and emoti... (read in full...)
Is he getting sprung?
Q. Okay so my bf always wants me to give him head I give him head more then we have sex, he say's he loves they way I do it, Is he getting sprung????...
A. 9 June 2010: I knew that.. you aunts and uncles sure are old.. :P... (read in full...)
How do you have a successfull FWB?
Q. Question: How do you have a successfull FWB? How am I supposed to act in this type of relationship? I think I want to do this because I don't want to be in a serious relationship right now because of my kids. So, the question is, am I supposed to ...
A. 9 June 2010: :) lol.. yep, they can work, if you and the guy are friends.... (read in full...)
How do you have a successfull FWB?
Q. Question: How do you have a successfull FWB? How am I supposed to act in this type of relationship? I think I want to do this because I don't want to be in a serious relationship right now because of my kids. So, the question is, am I supposed to ...
A. 9 June 2010: Choose yourself a guy who you consider a friend.. The friend bit comes first.. You and the guy should be able to go out, to hang out together and enjoy each others company. Sex should be something you do sometimes, it shouldn't be the basis of the ... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 9 June 2010: "I have to be the best I can be"
You are putting a lot of pressure on yourself... life is not perfect, you can't plan the future from now, you don't know what fate will bring..
Concentrate on your studies, and as I said before, hobbies and spor... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 9 June 2010: Yes, addictions are not good... however there is nothing wrong with masterbation...
What happens if you find out the woman you marry does it, women masterbate as well you know.
I suggest for now, you just cut down on masterbation. M... (read in full...)
Can't pull back foreskin
Q. hello ,, i have searched and searched and searched for people with my problem ,, i think im thu only one with what ive searched ,, im a 14 year old male and cannot pull my forskin back even when soft ,, someone please help ,, im soo... worried i ...
A. 9 June 2010: Just found out, somewhere from a thread on dear cupid, that they don't even cut you no more.. they have a cream they use and it loosens everything up.. go to the doctor and everything will be ok.... (read in full...)
Cant talk to boyfriend about this because he said he will leave me if I do? Help please!?
Q. Ive been seeing a guy for about 5 months now, long distance. Ive always felt a bit untrusting of him. He voluntarily told me the other day that his ex who recently got out of a mental hospital contacted him and wanted to "get ice cream with him". H...
A. 9 June 2010: mmm.. your behaviour is not good. He's said he's not interested in his ex, he also tells you when she contacts. He is not a puppet, even if she wants him there is nothing she can do. He is a grown man, he knows what he wants, he had her and now ... (read in full...)
I used to be skinny, now I feel like a whale!
Q. I have always felt uncomfortable about my body. I used to be skinny, and now that I'm married I feel like a whale. And my sisters and parents make these comments. I remember hearing how ppl who were over weight said that it hurts to hear ppl say I ...
A. 9 June 2010: Hey, where are the guys who feel out of shape.. how come they don't get upset about such things...
Now that sucks more than anything..... (read in full...)
I used to be skinny, now I feel like a whale!
Q. I have always felt uncomfortable about my body. I used to be skinny, and now that I'm married I feel like a whale. And my sisters and parents make these comments. I remember hearing how ppl who were over weight said that it hurts to hear ppl say I ...
A. 9 June 2010: I put on 3 stones.. ahahahaha.. lol.. hahahaha.. damn, this making meself slim and sexy is gonna take a long time..
Lets make a bet, I'll start tomorrow, and you start tomorrow as well.. we'll meet in 2months time and compare notes and see if i... (read in full...)
I used to be skinny, now I feel like a whale!
Q. I have always felt uncomfortable about my body. I used to be skinny, and now that I'm married I feel like a whale. And my sisters and parents make these comments. I remember hearing how ppl who were over weight said that it hurts to hear ppl say I ...
A. 9 June 2010: Ok, I will try... Inspirational words.. nope I aint got none..
I FEEL LIKE A WHALE TOOO.... IT SUCKS...
Ah to be slim again.. you could wear lovely dresses, and clothes were cheaper... why don't they make nice clothes for us fish people.. he... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 9 June 2010: Rereading all the posts again... a couple of things stand out..
1. You'd rather not feel like this, but you are in pain and suffering, it's not something you can help.. you need your wife to understand this and help you by working through this tog... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: What can she blame you for? The only thing you are responsible for is demanding she relive her past which probably causes her pain.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: So it dosen't mean that she has to repeat the story of the past... all she has to do is listen to how your feeling?... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: *sorry.. or her..
How dose your wife do this "validation" thing?
Does she need to recognise your in pain? Do she need to apologise for her past? Dose she need to admit that she was wrong? What is it that you need?
... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Ok.. lets break this down.. Let me try to understand what you want...
"I want to be validated now, I want to validate her now,"
Validate how, what dose this mean? Your in pain, definitely, thoughts about her past hurt you, yes, deeply...
... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Yes.. "the past is another country.. once we leave there is no passport to get back".... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: You say that you've noticed she hasn't changed... what dose that mean... has she been unfaithful to you, is she doing things with drugs again?
"I want is for her to give up the control and to learn not only to soothe herself, but also me. Instead,... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: :)... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: "some people do not know how to think. They have faulty logic, most of it too linear which allows them to justify just about anything in their own minds, even to help you with your problem."
You know what.. R&B is totally right.. I am wasting ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 7 June 2010: Yos, if I can remember was all for you fighting your own obsession yourself and trying to ignore it and push it away.
Troubletoomuch on the other hand found it useful talking about it with his wife and getting all the details until he could un... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 7 June 2010: We have very, very good discussions about "retroactive jealousy".. again search the board for posts by either "Yos" or "troubletoomuch", they have suffered and in many discussions gave lots of different hints about how to overcome..
I'm still he... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 7 June 2010: Karma.. I like your post and the way you are approaching things...
I do not have time for jealousy in any form.. it is a destructive, non loving emotion..
You want to know what I really think.. again, it's not good to ask women things when you ... (read in full...)
Can't pull back foreskin
Q. hello ,, i have searched and searched and searched for people with my problem ,, i think im thu only one with what ive searched ,, im a 14 year old male and cannot pull my forskin back even when soft ,, someone please help ,, im soo... worried i ...
A. 7 June 2010: Go to your doctor.. don't be worried, inability to pull back foreskin is common.. it's probably a little bit of skin that needs to be cut.. Tell your parents to make an appointment for you to be seen.
You need to get this seen too, it will mak... (read in full...)
Husband cheated and says I treat him like a convict
Q. I am married with 2 kids aged 2 and 6. My husband frequents pubs and night clubs with his friends. I accidentally discovered that my husband paid and slept with the pub hostress after he got high and drunk. He promised not to drink again and will ...
A. 7 June 2010: Yes, but trust takes time.. you've been betrayed and hurt, your trust destroyed, it will take you a long time to trust again.. Tell him this, tell him it's his fault that you now get scared of him misbehaving again... People that cheat destroy ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 4 June 2010: I suggest you take up Gabrielle's offer. Many aunts are not willing to open themselves up on the board, and a private letter would allow a longer conversation and more honesty than just a general response.
I would also suggest you search on the b... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 2 June 2010: Granted male anon, the main problem is his perception of his wife and what she HAS been capable off.. it leaves him feeling confused and picturing her in a different light. But we all have many dual personalities, we can be a whore in the bedroom, ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: Can you recreate the experience?.. you can give her the danger and excitement.. but the rest is impossible.. you can't give her the feeling of youth, or the feeling of doing something wrong, or feeling totally immoral and ultra powerfull.. she also ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: I'm like you.. no good at stranger sex.. I'm also one who thinks that the past is the past.
But I have a friend who suffered like you about his woman's past. He also found it comforting to understand and put things into perspective.
Sex, or... (read in full...)
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