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writes:My girlfriend and I recently attended my best friends wedding. After the reception, everyone was pretty drunk. And myself along with several other people (two who were good friends of mine) continued drinking and partying in the hotel (we had the whole floor booked) Anyways, I got to the point where I was done for the night so I went to bed in my room, but everyone else kept partying, including my girlfriend. In the group that kept partying there was one couple (guy and a girl), two guys (good friends of mine), another girl, and my girlfriend. Anyways, the day after I get word from my friend that at the end of the night they got so drunk that they started taking they're clothes off and putting on shaving cream. And apparently my girlfriend took her top off (after the other two girls did it first) but she eventually freaked out and it got awkward or something after which she washed up and finally decided she was done for the night. My friend tells me he didn't suspect any ill intentions on her part, and this is very out of character for my girlfriend.When I asked her about it, she didn't even remember it happening. She remembered putting shaving cream on but not taking her top off. She said she was embarrassed, apologized, and said she would never do that again. When asked how she would feel if I did this to her, she said she would be disappointed and mad.This just really caught me off guard since it is so out of character, but it makes it hard to trust her and think of her how I used to. I just find it hard to believe someone could do something like that and not remember it. Should I be worried? Should I trust her?
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reader, karen1989  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 No you shouldnt be worried-you know what its like when you've had a few too many when your out with the guys,you do stupid things. Its the same for us girls. Its doesnt matter,we're not ourselfs when we're drunk.
Good luck :)
Karen.
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reader, the_stranger +, writes (7 June 2010):
"it is difficult for a man decieved to act with dignity" -Lord Kariana
to a degree jelousy and suspision are understood and almost expected in all relationships, so long as they are kept in check they are healthy, that being said by you leaving a large group of intoxicated adults who were witness to an event that is not only moving but meaningful in western culture (in short they wanted the whole marry-baby-taxes-death thing that is sooo great appearently lol) that showed far too much trust (or lack of judgement due to the hooch) which left the field open to all kinds of debauchery and drunken mistakes, i dont believe you were in the wrong, it was just an accident after all but a close eye on consumption and a closer eye on behavior couldnt hurt, so long as you dont bring it up often or make her guilty over it the relationship should stand
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 June 2010):
She was drunk. Her friends were drunk. As once was said, 'a person can be smart, but people can be stupid'. Together, her and her friends were just drunk and did a stupid thing. I don't think it's anything to worry about. Forgive her.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (7 June 2010):
 Drink too much alcohol and you black out and remember nothing.. of course it's true that she forgot what she did and acted totally out of character because of the drink..
Alcoholic blackouts are a common thing..
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (7 June 2010):
 i honestly dont think its that big of a deal. it might not seem that clever but they were all drunk and it sounds more drunken silly than sexual. if she cant remember doing it then she was probably very intoxicated and so this is likely to be a one off.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (7 June 2010):
 If it's a one-off incident and not part of a pattern, you should definitely forgive her. Sometimes nice people do silly things under the influence of alcohol.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (7 June 2010):
 She might not remember, but I suspect she does remember, in which case she lied. In my experince, people lie when they are sincerely ashamed. I forgive liars who lie for reasons like this because its not my business to judge them on things that they are so regretful of.
Your girlfriend sounds like a good lady. Things happen when people drink. They lose good judgement to the window of fun. They make desperate attempts to fit into the people around them. I've done it mself, and let me tell you, it DEFINITELY was not my character. I was arund only girls but still. Cut her some slack for this time. She should know her drinking limit now and when to stop and when to leave. Give her a chance to prove that she's learned from it before your freeze her out. She apologized and promised to never let it happen again. What more can she do?
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