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In love with a married man, but how do I cope with our break up?
Q. Hi, i hope you can help me out of this absurd situation. i fell in love with a guy i work with in the same office, he is married, with two kids. out of guilt we both called it a very close friendship, then he called me his soul mate and then his...
A. 1 February 2012: Again, if you manage to actually walk away and break the destructive relationship, please come back and share your experiences with the other ladies still living in torment.
Thank you for sharing your experiences so that others may learn.... (read in full...)
In love with a married man, but how do I cope with our break up?
Q. Hi, i hope you can help me out of this absurd situation. i fell in love with a guy i work with in the same office, he is married, with two kids. out of guilt we both called it a very close friendship, then he called me his soul mate and then his...
A. 7 July 2010: If loving you is right, I don't want to by wrong (By Millie Jackson)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OUTDdq1m67Q
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cZ13jHp7_P4
Life is short, very short, and your wasting it........ (read in full...)
In love with a married man, but how do I cope with our break up?
Q. Hi, i hope you can help me out of this absurd situation. i fell in love with a guy i work with in the same office, he is married, with two kids. out of guilt we both called it a very close friendship, then he called me his soul mate and then his...
A. 7 July 2010: If loving you is wrong...
I don't want to be right
If being right means living without you
I'd rather live wrong than right
My Mama and Daddy say "It's a shame..."
"It's a downright disgrace"
But as long as I've got you by my side
I don't care... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 25 June 2010: No, I loved the length and the frankness in your most current post.. I was getting pissed of by what I could see as your "cruelty" in continuing to demand she relive her past..
But your last post, that was beautiful, hard for me to understa... (read in full...)
I used to be skinny, now I feel like a whale!
Q. I have always felt uncomfortable about my body. I used to be skinny, and now that I'm married I feel like a whale. And my sisters and parents make these comments. I remember hearing how ppl who were over weight said that it hurts to hear ppl say I ...
A. 16 June 2010: Damn, Damn, Damn... hahahaha... I sent you a message with me details, here on dear cupid...
Damn, Damn, Damn... lol... (read in full...)
I used to be skinny, now I feel like a whale!
Q. I have always felt uncomfortable about my body. I used to be skinny, and now that I'm married I feel like a whale. And my sisters and parents make these comments. I remember hearing how ppl who were over weight said that it hurts to hear ppl say I ...
A. 11 June 2010: Damn.. hate people who agree to take up me challenges.. that means I really got to start now..
I'm UK.. first we need to agree on what weight we are talking about.
2nd, two good films to watch are "fight club" and "Rocky".. we is like boxers, ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 10 June 2010: Here they are Karma, when you have time, take a look at these 3 links
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-would-not-have-married-her-had-i.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retroactive-jealousy--how-do-i-overcome-it.html
http://www.dear... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 10 June 2010: Yes, Gottman's Four Horsemen article was brilliant, good for everyone to take on board.. think I'll print it and keep it for myself.
I'll try and track down Yos's recommended posts on this issue.. ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 9 June 2010: It's funny how we've gone from a wife who was working through this with you in your original post, to a wife who now has a serious personality disorder... ... (read in full...)
Cant talk to boyfriend about this because he said he will leave me if I do? Help please!?
Q. Ive been seeing a guy for about 5 months now, long distance. Ive always felt a bit untrusting of him. He voluntarily told me the other day that his ex who recently got out of a mental hospital contacted him and wanted to "get ice cream with him". H...
A. 9 June 2010: mmm.. your behaviour is not good. He's said he's not interested in his ex, he also tells you when she contacts. He is not a puppet, even if she wants him there is nothing she can do. He is a grown man, he knows what he wants, he had her and now ... (read in full...)
How do I know whether to believe my fiance?? I found 100's of porn and dating sites, but he blames a virus!
Q. Well basicly last night i accidently stumbled across porn that had been viewed on the computer...I had to know where it had come from so i looked and it was from my fiances acount...hoping i'd made a mistake i checked again and to my horror found ...
A. 9 June 2010: Yep guys are right.. he did look at porn, but not necessarily live shows.. once your on a porn site, lots of other porn links pop up on the computer.... (read in full...)
He wants me to give up my only "me" time or its a divorce!
Q. I have been with my husband for 13 years (married 8 years) and at first was very happy. He is a good man, with good values, but lets me do everything around the house and with the children while he pursues his rugby and associated social events. I...
A. 9 June 2010: You and your husband need to go to counselling.. a lot of anger and resentment has built up over the years. If you sell the horse or don't sell the horse, someone will still be upset.. Ask him to go to counselling with you, where you'll have an ... (read in full...)
He looked at porn right after we made love - whats wrong with me?
Q. I recently posted on here as i'd accidently discovered my fiance had been looking at porn on the computer..only one site had come up so i tried not to let it bother me as you all said and put it down to a one off. But earlier curiosity got the ...
A. 9 June 2010: Hey cee.. didn't read your answer, but I read it the same way you did.. :)... (read in full...)
He looked at porn right after we made love - whats wrong with me?
Q. I recently posted on here as i'd accidently discovered my fiance had been looking at porn on the computer..only one site had come up so i tried not to let it bother me as you all said and put it down to a one off. But earlier curiosity got the ...
A. 9 June 2010: Masturbation isn't just used for sex, it's also a form of stress relief and some people use it to sleep..
He probably got into the habit of masturbation to sleep.. no it's not the porn women, they is a tool.. He uses masturbation to sleep just lik... (read in full...)
Can anyone interpret these dreams?
Q. I had a dream about the person I like, one was where we were sat down in a public place, he was flirting with me (but this would never happen in reality) and I was touching what I thought was my arm but instead I was stroking his arm and he didnt...
A. 9 June 2010: You have romantic feelings for the person in your dream
or: You are single and you want to be loved (or in a relationship which lacks love) your brain has grabbed someone from your reality and is showing you what love could be like..
Problem... (read in full...)
Have you ever been through this and how did you know it was real?
Q. Girls and guys have ever been in a relationship with someone and they loved being around you and a few months into it they broke up with you because they weren't ready for a serious relationship. Its not ony that, but whenever we were apart she ...
A. 9 June 2010: "Only answers from people who have been throgh this or have no negative remarks to say."
Can't help you then.. this is a advice line for people who want real HELP and not just answers that make you feel good.... (read in full...)
Is it strange for me to fantasize about being raped?
Q. Is it wrong for me to like rough sex? I've always liked to be roughed up during sex. ( slap, grabbed and spanked ) Is it strange for me to fantasize about being raped? ...
A. 9 June 2010: Nope very common female fantasy... Read "My Secret Garden" by Nancy Friday, who did a study on female fantasies..
Rape and violence in fantasy is not the same as reality.. it dose not mean that you are unware the devestation the real rape brings..... (read in full...)
He wants me to give up my only "me" time or its a divorce!
Q. I have been with my husband for 13 years (married 8 years) and at first was very happy. He is a good man, with good values, but lets me do everything around the house and with the children while he pursues his rugby and associated social events. I...
A. 9 June 2010: Exactly chigirl... I think marriage counselling would help this couple lots... (read in full...)
Be a single mum to 3 boys or lose my daughter?
Q. Hi there. I'm hoping someone here can help me. I am in a relationship for the past 12 years. The early years were turbulent but we stayed together and now have 3 young boys. They are great. However ... I also have a daughter in her 20s from my ...
A. 9 June 2010: He has no right to ignore your daughter and make her uncomfortable.. they had an arguement fine...
Get the two of them together over the kitchen table and start to put down some rules.. They may not like each other, but they will be polite a... (read in full...)
I used to be skinny, now I feel like a whale!
Q. I have always felt uncomfortable about my body. I used to be skinny, and now that I'm married I feel like a whale. And my sisters and parents make these comments. I remember hearing how ppl who were over weight said that it hurts to hear ppl say I ...
A. 9 June 2010: Hey, where are the guys who feel out of shape.. how come they don't get upset about such things...
Now that sucks more than anything..... (read in full...)
He wants me to give up my only "me" time or its a divorce!
Q. I have been with my husband for 13 years (married 8 years) and at first was very happy. He is a good man, with good values, but lets me do everything around the house and with the children while he pursues his rugby and associated social events. I...
A. 9 June 2010: Which came first, the horse or the rugby?... (read in full...)
I used to be skinny, now I feel like a whale!
Q. I have always felt uncomfortable about my body. I used to be skinny, and now that I'm married I feel like a whale. And my sisters and parents make these comments. I remember hearing how ppl who were over weight said that it hurts to hear ppl say I ...
A. 9 June 2010: I put on 3 stones.. ahahahaha.. lol.. hahahaha.. damn, this making meself slim and sexy is gonna take a long time..
Lets make a bet, I'll start tomorrow, and you start tomorrow as well.. we'll meet in 2months time and compare notes and see if i... (read in full...)
I used to be skinny, now I feel like a whale!
Q. I have always felt uncomfortable about my body. I used to be skinny, and now that I'm married I feel like a whale. And my sisters and parents make these comments. I remember hearing how ppl who were over weight said that it hurts to hear ppl say I ...
A. 9 June 2010: Ok, I will try... Inspirational words.. nope I aint got none..
I FEEL LIKE A WHALE TOOO.... IT SUCKS...
Ah to be slim again.. you could wear lovely dresses, and clothes were cheaper... why don't they make nice clothes for us fish people.. he... (read in full...)
Why am I still crying over my parents breaking up?
Q. my mum and dad split up when i was 10 because he was cheatint its never sorte of bohered me because i know they both love me but suddenly its affected me all of a sudden i just feel down and depressed i just want to cry abotu ti all the time, i ...
A. 9 June 2010: Ah babes, that's totally normal.. you miss your dad and the family life you had together.. I'm 40, and I feel the same sometimes when I see my dad or mum alone...
It's ok to miss people, it's ok to feel sad that they aren't together and things h... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 9 June 2010: Rereading all the posts again... a couple of things stand out..
1. You'd rather not feel like this, but you are in pain and suffering, it's not something you can help.. you need your wife to understand this and help you by working through this tog... (read in full...)
In love with a married man, but how do I cope with our break up?
Q. Hi, i hope you can help me out of this absurd situation. i fell in love with a guy i work with in the same office, he is married, with two kids. out of guilt we both called it a very close friendship, then he called me his soul mate and then his...
A. 8 June 2010: Ah... Hi Ladies, I see many more have joined the group... just to remind any of you who want to change your life, summer is here, you have time to loose weight, get a new swimsuit, get the married waste of space out of your life, and go catch other ... (read in full...)
My husband backhands our daughter. Should I leave him?
Q. My husband and I have 3 children together. He is great with our 12 year old daughter and our 5 year old son but is very mean to our 15 year old daughter. Let me also say that our 15 yr old has a big time attitude as well. They clash big time with ...
A. 8 June 2010: This is a common clash, teenagers can be difficult, rude and moody, and stubbon as they fight to find their place in the world and find their own values...
Very, very challenging for adults who are sure of their own values, have knowledge and expe... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 8 June 2010: It's not your fault, it's not her fault.. it's not something you want to do.. it's just how your brain works, it's primative, repeatitive and sorry, obsessional...
Have you tried Cognative Therapy Behaviour (CBT).. which helps you rational... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: What can she blame you for? The only thing you are responsible for is demanding she relive her past which probably causes her pain.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: So it dosen't mean that she has to repeat the story of the past... all she has to do is listen to how your feeling?... (read in full...)
One way street ends up a dead end!
Q. I am married to an older man of 17 years, who he has been previously married for almost 20 years. We have been in our relationship for almost 7 years. He has two adult daughters who hate me and are not afraid of showing it. I have a son who is 10 ...
A. 8 June 2010: If you can't leave completely.. could you take the kids and go and stay at a friends or a relatives... just for a while, and maybe if you decide to work on your marriage then you and the kids could go back.
This way the man will know your ser... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 8 June 2010: No... please don't...
I have said my point.. it's long past time I started to listen...
You want her to not ignore the pain that your going through with all these thoughts about what she done in the past? Is that it? For her it's past, but f... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: *sorry.. or her..
How dose your wife do this "validation" thing?
Does she need to recognise your in pain? Do she need to apologise for her past? Dose she need to admit that she was wrong? What is it that you need?
... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Ok.. lets break this down.. Let me try to understand what you want...
"I want to be validated now, I want to validate her now,"
Validate how, what dose this mean? Your in pain, definitely, thoughts about her past hurt you, yes, deeply...
... (read in full...)
One way street ends up a dead end!
Q. I am married to an older man of 17 years, who he has been previously married for almost 20 years. We have been in our relationship for almost 7 years. He has two adult daughters who hate me and are not afraid of showing it. I have a son who is 10 ...
A. 8 June 2010: No babes, you know this guy is not treating you right.. this is so close to adultery.. and it's a sign of big disrespect.. no wonder you are lonely..
Can't be fixed, you need two people to do that.. please leave this guy who is making you unhappy ... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 8 June 2010: Ok.. new track.. exactly what are you looking for..
You asked your wife for details, she has given you them.. what more do you need to know from her..
You say you want to talk to her, about what.. do you need her to repeat the story again and ... (read in full...)
Step-sister making moves on me, but I only see her as a sister!
Q. Okay, first I gotta give a little background. My mum died when I was real little (I'm talking like 2) and my dad remarried within about a year and half or something. The woman who he got married had a kid too, lets call her Steph, who was about a ...
A. 8 June 2010: Soon.. that was the only law that was applicable.. I meant if you can't have sex with her, you can not marry her and thus there can be no romantic relationship.
I did not mean to imply that there was any dishonourable in this guy.. However,... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Yes.. "the past is another country.. once we leave there is no passport to get back".... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: You say that you've noticed she hasn't changed... what dose that mean... has she been unfaithful to you, is she doing things with drugs again?
"I want is for her to give up the control and to learn not only to soothe herself, but also me. Instead,... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: :)... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: "some people do not know how to think. They have faulty logic, most of it too linear which allows them to justify just about anything in their own minds, even to help you with your problem."
You know what.. R&B is totally right.. I am wasting ... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 8 June 2010: I don't do ratings.. if I did, I would be nice and sweet and polite..
Space is so limited here, how would I know you have OCD, when you have never mentioned it and I don't know you at all..All I know is what you write, if you don't tell us, then... (read in full...)
Step-sister making moves on me, but I only see her as a sister!
Q. Okay, first I gotta give a little background. My mum died when I was real little (I'm talking like 2) and my dad remarried within about a year and half or something. The woman who he got married had a kid too, lets call her Steph, who was about a ...
A. 8 June 2010: Yep, sexual activity with family member.. sister is under 18, you is over 18... and is stepsister and stepbrother, and lived in house together... sexual activity forbidden, maximum penalty 14years imprisonment for person over 18...
Outli... (read in full...)
Step-sister making moves on me, but I only see her as a sister!
Q. Okay, first I gotta give a little background. My mum died when I was real little (I'm talking like 2) and my dad remarried within about a year and half or something. The woman who he got married had a kid too, lets call her Steph, who was about a ...
A. 7 June 2010: Sorry will take time.. law changed 2003, and nobody is quite sure what the law says on sex and relationships...... (read in full...)
Step-sister making moves on me, but I only see her as a sister!
Q. Okay, first I gotta give a little background. My mum died when I was real little (I'm talking like 2) and my dad remarried within about a year and half or something. The woman who he got married had a kid too, lets call her Steph, who was about a ...
A. 7 June 2010: No easy way to do this.. she is your sister and that's how you see her.. she can have her dreams, but she has no right to demand you love her and be her boyfriend.
Not sure about the law...stuff.. I'll go and look it up for you.. will take me ... (read in full...)
A lot of relationship problems! Please help my hearts breaking!
Q. The father of my 18 month old daughter left me yesterday saying he needed to get away from me to better himself yet today he says he thinks hes made a mistake and wants 3 weeks break and then to return home. Hes been unemployed for basically 3 years ...
A. 7 June 2010: Sorry honeypie, but you need someone to reliable, or you need to find that strength to stand on your own..
Pain is fresh, you cry, you cry as much as you want. Today remember all the good times... But I want you to come back and remember all the ... (read in full...)
He cheated, treats me bad, yet I can't make myself leave. So I got another boyfriend on the side. Any thoughts?
Q. I could really use an outsiders point of view so please if you have time take a read..... I met a guy about 9 months ago after coming out of a long relationship. At first he was everything I needed, fun, exciting, nice but I never saw much of a fu...
A. 7 June 2010: Have you got daughters, sisters, girlfriends.. what would you tell them if someone was treating them like this.
If you stay get ready for more disrespect, more hurt, more cheating and less and less good times.
Guy is using you, you allow it, an... (read in full...)
How can I loose my bellyfat?
Q. what can I do to loose my belly fat? I am only 22years old and I am married. my husband is only 25 and I think he might get fed up with this. please help by telling me what i can use/do. ...
A. 7 June 2010: Bellyfat.. yep, got that.. mine is due to cola.. yoga is good for everything.. crunches are best, sit on floor and lie back then lift yourself up again.
I suggest you go book an appointment at the gymn.. it's hard to work belly muscles, if your ... (read in full...)
My dad's new wife don't like his kids!
Q. my dad he just married this women (names are changed) dian she i asian(not that it matters)she has three kids 2 boys 1 girl they are all above 14. and my dad has 4 kids with my mom. me and my 3 other brothers and sister. Well dian she does not wan...
A. 7 June 2010: Where is your mother.. your father isn't listening and yes your right, this woman is rude and isn't treating you fairly. Why can't you live with your mother?
How old are your brothers and sisters, are you the oldest?... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 7 June 2010: Oh one other thing.. this punishment.. no.. do not give up.. if your unhappy of course you must say something, just like you did here.... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 7 June 2010: And sorry, the laugh is for myself, for my own arrogance and my total misreading of your particular situation.... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 7 June 2010: lol.. so I was totally wrong.. understood and accepted... so what happens now..
slapping is abusive, just like screaming is.. you didn't actually say you smacked his hands, you said that you had slapped him.
More questions than anything else, q... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 7 June 2010: Yos, if I can remember was all for you fighting your own obsession yourself and trying to ignore it and push it away.
Troubletoomuch on the other hand found it useful talking about it with his wife and getting all the details until he could un... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 7 June 2010: We have very, very good discussions about "retroactive jealousy".. again search the board for posts by either "Yos" or "troubletoomuch", they have suffered and in many discussions gave lots of different hints about how to overcome..
I'm still he... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 7 June 2010: Karma.. I like your post and the way you are approaching things...
I do not have time for jealousy in any form.. it is a destructive, non loving emotion..
You want to know what I really think.. again, it's not good to ask women things when you ... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 7 June 2010: Your head is sick with this obsession, give your wife a break and go and see a doctor.... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 7 June 2010: "....but you should cede your top aunt spot to someone who isn't so quick to ignore others' pain."
Pot calling kettle black methinks.. what about your wife's pain.. she's the one who did the bad action, who has tried to forget and change..... (read in full...)
Not Your Typical Obsession With Wife's Past - Any Ideas?
Q. I'm haunted by one night of my wife's life when she had sex with a total stranger. I never did this, and girls that do have never been my type. My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married. Before I was going to ask her ...
A. 7 June 2010: "My wife did not tell me about this until we were just about to get married."
You knew about this before you got married, but still you decided to marry her.. why, to punish her and make her life hell...
How long have you been married by the w... (read in full...)
A lot of relationship problems! Please help my hearts breaking!
Q. The father of my 18 month old daughter left me yesterday saying he needed to get away from me to better himself yet today he says he thinks hes made a mistake and wants 3 weeks break and then to return home. Hes been unemployed for basically 3 years ...
A. 7 June 2010: OK... you spend all you money on this guy, what dose your daughter get?
She wants to introduce him to her friends, but he's too busy playing xbox to be bothered.
He's there, but he dosen't do anything, he dosen't help her with her homework, ta... (read in full...)
A lot of relationship problems! Please help my hearts breaking!
Q. The father of my 18 month old daughter left me yesterday saying he needed to get away from me to better himself yet today he says he thinks hes made a mistake and wants 3 weeks break and then to return home. Hes been unemployed for basically 3 years ...
A. 7 June 2010: mmmm... your right marieclaire, why keep him as a lover, £700, that's too expensive for even me... keep yourself free to find someone who treats you right.... (read in full...)
A lot of relationship problems! Please help my hearts breaking!
Q. The father of my 18 month old daughter left me yesterday saying he needed to get away from me to better himself yet today he says he thinks hes made a mistake and wants 3 weeks break and then to return home. Hes been unemployed for basically 3 years ...
A. 7 June 2010: Sigh.. I was going say he's feeling down because he's unemployed and that makes him feel like a slob.. BUT
1. Took £700 from your purse
2. Didn't care enough to come and see his daughter in hospital
3. Cheated on you when you was 9months preg... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: To the aunts that blame the poster, shame on you (I've read your views in other posts and it makes me want to scream, you are so far off the mark, but you continue to dish out your diatribe in a nasty and vindictive way).
Anon... I'm not here to ... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: Manipulative... yep, that needs more explaination for why I said that....
First, I am very aware of what happens when women get abused, and how they act and react...
You lived with an abuser, and this guy is (supposedly) abusing you by s... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: Lets walk in the guys shoes, lets turn this story around, and see if you still think her behaviour is wrong.
(story) I'm a woman dating a man. Everytime I walk down the street he accuses me of looking at other men and wanting to have sex with the... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: Man shouting = wicked abusive person
Woman slapping = fine, you had cause for violence... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: Is shouting and loosing your temper abusive.... is everyone on this dear cupid board a saint, who manages to keep their voice calm no matter what the provocation?
Don't listen to me, yes certainly, listen to only people who agree with you. Bu... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: *You know the difference between the abuse you suffered and this normal guy who was provoked and had a reason for loosing his temper and shouting.
You mention the abuse in your last relationship, because you are manipulative and you want sympathy... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: Your wrong, and you were not as calm and reasonable as you make out. You have jealousy issues and probably accuse your guy of all types of things. He is not your last boyfriend, he sounds like a guy who lost his temper because he has a distrusting ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 4 June 2010: I suggest you take up Gabrielle's offer. Many aunts are not willing to open themselves up on the board, and a private letter would allow a longer conversation and more honesty than just a general response.
I would also suggest you search on the b... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 2 June 2010: Granted male anon, the main problem is his perception of his wife and what she HAS been capable off.. it leaves him feeling confused and picturing her in a different light. But we all have many dual personalities, we can be a whore in the bedroom, ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: Can you recreate the experience?.. you can give her the danger and excitement.. but the rest is impossible.. you can't give her the feeling of youth, or the feeling of doing something wrong, or feeling totally immoral and ultra powerfull.. she also ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: I'm like you.. no good at stranger sex.. I'm also one who thinks that the past is the past.
But I have a friend who suffered like you about his woman's past. He also found it comforting to understand and put things into perspective.
Sex, or... (read in full...)
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