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Had a miscarriage at 14 now I long to be pregnant again...
Q. i had a miscarriage at 9 weeks and im 14 years old. i was really scared about the pregnancy but came round to the idea and accepted it. and now i have strong sense of longing to pregnant people and young babies and want to get pregnant again. i dont ...
A. 26 June 2010: Go and talk to your mother..... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to have intercourse
Q. I am 27 years old and married for year and half. i am scared to have intercourse with my husband. he is a wonderful man and very patient and totally understands and i love him. i know it is not right to keep him waiting. also i surely want to have ...
A. 25 June 2010: Unfortunately, if the marriage isn't consumated, that you are not really married and your husband can get an annulment at any time. Please go and find a counsellor as soon as possible.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to have intercourse
Q. I am 27 years old and married for year and half. i am scared to have intercourse with my husband. he is a wonderful man and very patient and totally understands and i love him. i know it is not right to keep him waiting. also i surely want to have ...
A. 25 June 2010: You need to see a counsellor.. you are having a extreme fear reaction. I don't know why you are frightened, and neither do you. Speaking over your fears with a counsellor, especially one who specialises in sexual matters, will help you examine ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend called me mentally ill because I'm insecure about my body
Q. I hate my body, I don't know why, I just never feel adequate or beautiful, hot, sexy, whatever. I mean, a lot of it has to do with my face and hair, too. The two things that I can really do NOTHING about! But other than that I hate my small br...
A. 25 June 2010: Reread your answer again.. so because of one man, your ex, who behaved badly, your going to stay single, reject love, never have sex or kisses and cuddles..
mmmm... he goes on to marry, have kids, and fall in love with another average woman.. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend called me mentally ill because I'm insecure about my body
Q. I hate my body, I don't know why, I just never feel adequate or beautiful, hot, sexy, whatever. I mean, a lot of it has to do with my face and hair, too. The two things that I can really do NOTHING about! But other than that I hate my small br...
A. 25 June 2010: You start by saying "I hate my body".. This is body dysmorphia, and is a well known Mental condition... sorry you feel angry, but if you HATE yourself, then there must be something wrong going on mentally.
Your angry with me, why? What did you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend called me mentally ill because I'm insecure about my body
Q. I hate my body, I don't know why, I just never feel adequate or beautiful, hot, sexy, whatever. I mean, a lot of it has to do with my face and hair, too. The two things that I can really do NOTHING about! But other than that I hate my small br...
A. 25 June 2010: mmm... didn't see any mention of pornography.. I thought this woman said she was just "born insecure".... (read in full...)
Any men on DC who don't like porn?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Are there any men on DC who don't watch porn? Or never have? If so, why not? Ii'd like a tally please. I've only ever met one man who doesn't. ...
A. 25 June 2010: mmm... still no guys who have never looked at pornography, but one guy gave up because his wife didn't like it... intresting lack of response. ... (read in full...)
Why is he locking himself in the bathroom with his laptop?
Q. This guy and i have been together for over a year now. i thought everything was going fine. now he locks himself in the bathroom with his laptop. is he cheating or am i just paranoid?...
A. 25 June 2010: Probably masturbating.. so what is the problem you have with him?... (read in full...)
Any men on DC who don't like porn?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Are there any men on DC who don't watch porn? Or never have? If so, why not? Ii'd like a tally please. I've only ever met one man who doesn't. ...
A. 25 June 2010: "Then when he did "stop," he instead rewound sex scenes in movies he owned."
Says it all really.. that's why it's useless to try to FORCE anyone to give up pornography..
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend called me mentally ill because I'm insecure about my body
Q. I hate my body, I don't know why, I just never feel adequate or beautiful, hot, sexy, whatever. I mean, a lot of it has to do with my face and hair, too. The two things that I can really do NOTHING about! But other than that I hate my small br...
A. 25 June 2010: Sorry, but your not choosing to be single and happy, your choosing to be single, sad and insecure..
You say nothing has worked... I say you must enjoy the feeling of feeling insecure.
Have you visited the doctor to check for depression... bo... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 25 June 2010: No, I loved the length and the frankness in your most current post.. I was getting pissed of by what I could see as your "cruelty" in continuing to demand she relive her past..
But your last post, that was beautiful, hard for me to understa... (read in full...)
Any men on DC who don't like porn?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Are there any men on DC who don't watch porn? Or never have? If so, why not? Ii'd like a tally please. I've only ever met one man who doesn't. ...
A. 25 June 2010: Two guys answered... and the same two who always interact with this question... yep, says it all really... like Q said, men really have more important things to do.... (read in full...)
At 18 his father took them to a prostitute, I can't seem to get over that??
Q. Im not looking so much for an answer as advice from people who have maybe been in a similar situation. My bf and i have been together almost a year now, in that time i found out he had slept with a prostitute, before he was with me. I find this ...
A. 25 June 2010: OK babes, understood.. try to imagine yourself in his situation.. how he must have felt and how he got trapped into doing such things.
At the moment you are imagining the woman or imagining him having fun.. switch it arround, he's a young guy, his... (read in full...)
Any men on DC who don't like porn?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Are there any men on DC who don't watch porn? Or never have? If so, why not? Ii'd like a tally please. I've only ever met one man who doesn't. ...
A. 24 June 2010: Yes me to..... I have a feeling this is a problem some women have.. women (some) get bothered by porn, but men are not interested at all..
All porn questions end up with crying women, men are don't seem to feel the need to justify what they are... (read in full...)
Around the world in 80 naughty stories....
Q. Hi! Ok this is the thing, I was thinking my bf is going overseas on a business trip but his going for 90 days :( any ways, last year I just wrote him a letter and told him he can only open it when he gets there, which was sweet he like that. Now I ...
A. 24 June 2010: You are a kind, considerate and loving woman, your parents must be proud.. You have the ability to make other people feel special, you are creative and imaginative and you do it from the heart..
Please, please, please, send your messages, it will ... (read in full...)
Should I give up on him and find someone my own age?
Q. I'm 23 and the man I'm in a relationship with is 52 and divorced he and his ex-wife share custody of their 14 year old daughter. I really feel a connection with him but all my friends judge me for our age difference. All I ever hear is you have ...
A. 24 June 2010: 23 and 52, that is such a large age gap.. your attracted to him because your frightened of being with a man your own age. But for so may reasons your relationship is difficult and may not be suitable for both of you.. He's done it all, seen it all, ... (read in full...)
I don't doubt that he loves me, but his behaviour is just so selfish!
Q. hello and thanks in advance for reading my situation is that im a married, have 3 children and i left my partner nearly 1 year ago. i left because my husband completely lived a separte live from me and the children. he would go to work return from...
A. 24 June 2010: Big, big, hugs, that's all I can do from here.. Everything else is your decision.. my heart goes out to you, your husband and your family.. ... (read in full...)
I don't doubt that he loves me, but his behaviour is just so selfish!
Q. hello and thanks in advance for reading my situation is that im a married, have 3 children and i left my partner nearly 1 year ago. i left because my husband completely lived a separte live from me and the children. he would go to work return from...
A. 24 June 2010: Sigh.. yes, I know.. this man is not easy, he can learn to do things differently, but he will always be hard work, natural social and emotional things don't seem to come easy for him.
I like people to stay married...
But you sound like you'v... (read in full...)
Will I always push guys away out of fear?
Q. I've never had a boyfriend and yet I have had sex; I feel horrible about myself. I've had plenty of chances to be in a relationship and I've always wanted to be in one but when it comes down to it, I get scared and I push them away. I become distant ...
A. 24 June 2010: Yes indeed.. your problems are many and very deep seated, all we can do is suggest you go talk things over with your therapist.
You will take time to understand and heal, their are no quick solutions. Continue to talk to your therapist, and keep... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend might be gay! What signs should I look for?
Q. i am a bit worried about my boyfriend, as i think he is gay, been together 2 years and he tells me everyday that he loves me, he always wants sex with me most the time and he mainly makes the first moves, he kisses me alot and holds me all night, ...
A. 24 June 2010: ummm.. if he's gay, he wants to have sex with men and will find it difficult to have sex with women.. easy really... (read in full...)
How do I accept that I am just not "girlfriend material"?
Q. After my last "almost-relationship" (see the question "He's with another woman, but still comes to me to talk about sex!"), a big heartache and working through it and analysing my life and relationships with guys I do realise that I am "just not ...
A. 24 June 2010: Yos is completely right.. sorry to say, but you don't sound confident and sexually adventurous at all. Instead you sound insecure, using your sexuality as a false mask to make yourself sound strong and brave.
I'm sexually confident too. I also h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated, had a child, I don't want to be a part of the child's life, am I wrong??
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and last year cheated on me with another girl and got her pregnant.I decided to stay with him and told him that i understand that he has to be in the childs life, but I told him that he can count me ...
A. 24 June 2010: Listen to Caring Guy, there is no option not to be part of this child's life, that is impossible. Your boyfriend has a child, a child that walks and talks. He won't be able to control things so you never get involved.
That's like pretendi... (read in full...)
Why does he ignore me for porn, when I'm perfectly willing?
Q. Hello, I seem to be having problems with my boyfriend and have no clue what to do. We have been dating for nearly a year now. Deep down, I know he's a good man, but for reasons I cannot understand, he prefers watching porn instead of doing anythin...
A. 24 June 2010: I'm glad you found a way to make yourself happy. Good luck, wishing you a more suitable partner in the future.... (read in full...)
At 18 his father took them to a prostitute, I can't seem to get over that??
Q. Im not looking so much for an answer as advice from people who have maybe been in a similar situation. My bf and i have been together almost a year now, in that time i found out he had slept with a prostitute, before he was with me. I find this ...
A. 24 June 2010: Your future will last 20,30,40 years... but you are angry at one thing he done, well before you knew him... You are not ready to commit to this person, if your love is so easily damaged and you can think less of the man because of the boy he once ... (read in full...)
I hate him looking at porn, how do I get him to stop?
Q. ok so i've been reading some of the posts in the pornography section and i have a question to ask myself. I am a 17 year old girl. I have been with my partner for 2 years now and we have a 10 month old baby together. I haven't got the best bod...
A. 24 June 2010: "it makes me sick to think he gets off over girls who stuffed my life up"
But that is faulty thinking.. He is not looking at women you know, these women are not the women who bullied you. He is looking at women who put on make up, slim and some... (read in full...)
Any men on DC who don't like porn?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Are there any men on DC who don't watch porn? Or never have? If so, why not? Ii'd like a tally please. I've only ever met one man who doesn't. ...
A. 24 June 2010: Good question, I too would like to know the answer.... (read in full...)
What's the hang-up on swallowing?
Q. It probably has been answered already, but what is the real hang up on women not wanting to swallow a man's ejaculation. Taste? Contents? Etc. Also, if you are going to let them cum in your mouth, what's the difference? Men go down on women and ...
A. 24 June 2010: Oh and ladies, the correct technique (according to Mrs Miaminemanners) for removing semen from the mouth is to either,
a) Spit it out on partner's belly or back and rub it in.. best to try to smile at same time. Then it won't look like you hate... (read in full...)
What's the hang-up on swallowing?
Q. It probably has been answered already, but what is the real hang up on women not wanting to swallow a man's ejaculation. Taste? Contents? Etc. Also, if you are going to let them cum in your mouth, what's the difference? Men go down on women and ...
A. 24 June 2010: "I'll have what she's having"... (When Harry Met Sally)
"mmmmm... I've gone off me food".. (When Miamine Met Tisha)... (read in full...)
I want to have oral sex, she doesn't, what can I do?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months now. We have a very good sex life and I've always been (and still am) extremely attracted to her. The only problem is, she won't EVER let me go down on her. I have been trying since the day ...
A. 24 June 2010: Some women do not like oral sex, and you forcing it as an issue becomes upsetting to her.
Please remember all people are different and like different things. Pressure in sex is never good.... (read in full...)
I hate him looking at porn, how do I get him to stop?
Q. ok so i've been reading some of the posts in the pornography section and i have a question to ask myself. I am a 17 year old girl. I have been with my partner for 2 years now and we have a 10 month old baby together. I haven't got the best bod...
A. 24 June 2010: *can't... (read in full...)
I hate him looking at porn, how do I get him to stop?
Q. ok so i've been reading some of the posts in the pornography section and i have a question to ask myself. I am a 17 year old girl. I have been with my partner for 2 years now and we have a 10 month old baby together. I haven't got the best bod...
A. 24 June 2010: "They look so mean and ugly.. a lot like the girls who bullied me for 6 years in high school."
Then you have an issue with bullying from your childhood, you need to sort that out. You do not know these women, you can judge them as mean and ugly... (read in full...)
I don't doubt that he loves me, but his behaviour is just so selfish!
Q. hello and thanks in advance for reading my situation is that im a married, have 3 children and i left my partner nearly 1 year ago. i left because my husband completely lived a separte live from me and the children. he would go to work return from...
A. 24 June 2010: I was thinking slight Aspergers myself..... (read in full...)
What's the hang-up on swallowing?
Q. It probably has been answered already, but what is the real hang up on women not wanting to swallow a man's ejaculation. Taste? Contents? Etc. Also, if you are going to let them cum in your mouth, what's the difference? Men go down on women and ...
A. 24 June 2010: "but what is the real hang up on women not wanting to swallow?" (insrchof)
It's not a "hang up", some people like asparagus, some people don't.. best way for you to see what we mean is to swallow a mouthfull of cum yourself.... (read in full...)
What's the hang-up on swallowing?
Q. It probably has been answered already, but what is the real hang up on women not wanting to swallow a man's ejaculation. Taste? Contents? Etc. Also, if you are going to let them cum in your mouth, what's the difference? Men go down on women and ...
A. 24 June 2010: Taste mostly, but also can be psychological, many women are taught that it is nasty, as urine comes from that part of the body...
But mostly taste... it aint strawberry ice-cream to tell the truth...... (read in full...)
I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!
Q. How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...
A. 24 June 2010: "I have to agree with Cecelia the influence of porn on sexual relationships is harmful." (Marialatin)
Now I really am confused....... (read in full...)
I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!
Q. How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...
A. 24 June 2010: "This is not atrivial act it is uncomfortable, smelly, taste bad. But women do it out of love for a short time. why do women stop giving bj - because our love tank goes to empty fast" (marialatin)
Again, it is not good to generalise and try to s... (read in full...)
I don't doubt that he loves me, but his behaviour is just so selfish!
Q. hello and thanks in advance for reading my situation is that im a married, have 3 children and i left my partner nearly 1 year ago. i left because my husband completely lived a separte live from me and the children. he would go to work return from...
A. 24 June 2010: And if he ever changes back to that cold distant man.. then warn him that it's easy to pack your suitcases... ... (read in full...)
I don't doubt that he loves me, but his behaviour is just so selfish!
Q. hello and thanks in advance for reading my situation is that im a married, have 3 children and i left my partner nearly 1 year ago. i left because my husband completely lived a separte live from me and the children. he would go to work return from...
A. 24 June 2010: Think you made a mistake there.. he's doing what you asked, he's trying to change, he asked you for a date.
Forget about him being your husband. Treat him like a new guy who you've just met. Stop having sex with him. Expect him to want to spend... (read in full...)
I am 15, want to be a porn star, any suggestions?
Q. i am 15 and i want to be a pornstar so bad any tips?...
A. 24 June 2010: Oh sorry, your a guy.. all the advice I gave still stands. You need to know how to handle money. Your face, skin and body must be good. Your career will last longer than most women in pornography, but it's an industry when men loose out.
Your ... (read in full...)
I am 15, want to be a porn star, any suggestions?
Q. i am 15 and i want to be a pornstar so bad any tips?...
A. 24 June 2010: Get yourself a good education. The sex industry is a short career, you'll need something for after you finish working there.
Eat well, exercise, drink lots of water, and save lots of money. The industy prefers women with good skin, good bodies, ... (read in full...)
Why does he ignore me for porn, when I'm perfectly willing?
Q. Hello, I seem to be having problems with my boyfriend and have no clue what to do. We have been dating for nearly a year now. Deep down, I know he's a good man, but for reasons I cannot understand, he prefers watching porn instead of doing anythin...
A. 24 June 2010: "special relationship with porn?" ... First I ever heard of one... again, very strange.. ... (read in full...)
Why does he ignore me for porn, when I'm perfectly willing?
Q. Hello, I seem to be having problems with my boyfriend and have no clue what to do. We have been dating for nearly a year now. Deep down, I know he's a good man, but for reasons I cannot understand, he prefers watching porn instead of doing anythin...
A. 24 June 2010: mmmm... I think he has an addiction to pornography. He needs pornography every day, even when you are there. He avoids sex with you, but was sexually interested when his computer was broken.
He is in denial if he dosen't think he has a problem.... (read in full...)
I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!
Q. How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...
A. 23 June 2010: To True SincerlyYours...
Dear Poster, you broke your promise, and will probably break it again. Please never look at pornography in your home where you wife lives. This type of thing upset her. All you can do is appologise, and appologi... (read in full...)
Why does he ignore me for porn, when I'm perfectly willing?
Q. Hello, I seem to be having problems with my boyfriend and have no clue what to do. We have been dating for nearly a year now. Deep down, I know he's a good man, but for reasons I cannot understand, he prefers watching porn instead of doing anythin...
A. 23 June 2010: Pornography is a problem when it intefers with social life to such a degree that the user is no longer able to have sexual intercourse in the normal way.
Your partner does seem to have a problem with excessive pornography and intimacy with a r... (read in full...)
I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!
Q. How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...
A. 23 June 2010: "The world doesn't work one way just because you want it to."
Exactly.. that's the whole point..... (read in full...)
I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!
Q. How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...
A. 23 June 2010: If that is the case, then that means that approximately 1 in 5 women consume porn.....And like you mentioned before, half of women are accepting of porn. (Celiaaletta)
Even with these figures, it suggests that the majority of women, and an absol... (read in full...)
I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!
Q. How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...
A. 23 June 2010: "Oh and the porn industry is NOT a reliable source"
You are absolute right.. but in the UK, reliable figures comes from sales companies, who do report increased women using pornography.
In the UK, we have Anne Summers which sells pornograph... (read in full...)
I hate him looking at porn, how do I get him to stop?
Q. ok so i've been reading some of the posts in the pornography section and i have a question to ask myself. I am a 17 year old girl. I have been with my partner for 2 years now and we have a 10 month old baby together. I haven't got the best bod...
A. 22 June 2010: You arranged for him to have sex with someone in front of you, and that dosen't make you jealous, but the porn women on the screen do...
mmmmm... very strange....of course you must leave this guy.. but how come fantasy makes you more angry th... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 10 June 2010: Here they are Karma, when you have time, take a look at these 3 links
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-would-not-have-married-her-had-i.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retroactive-jealousy--how-do-i-overcome-it.html
http://www.dear... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 10 June 2010: Yes, Gottman's Four Horsemen article was brilliant, good for everyone to take on board.. think I'll print it and keep it for myself.
I'll try and track down Yos's recommended posts on this issue.. ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 9 June 2010: It's funny how we've gone from a wife who was working through this with you in your original post, to a wife who now has a serious personality disorder... ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 9 June 2010: Rereading all the posts again... a couple of things stand out..
1. You'd rather not feel like this, but you are in pain and suffering, it's not something you can help.. you need your wife to understand this and help you by working through this tog... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: What can she blame you for? The only thing you are responsible for is demanding she relive her past which probably causes her pain.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: So it dosen't mean that she has to repeat the story of the past... all she has to do is listen to how your feeling?... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: *sorry.. or her..
How dose your wife do this "validation" thing?
Does she need to recognise your in pain? Do she need to apologise for her past? Dose she need to admit that she was wrong? What is it that you need?
... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Ok.. lets break this down.. Let me try to understand what you want...
"I want to be validated now, I want to validate her now,"
Validate how, what dose this mean? Your in pain, definitely, thoughts about her past hurt you, yes, deeply...
... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Yes.. "the past is another country.. once we leave there is no passport to get back".... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: You say that you've noticed she hasn't changed... what dose that mean... has she been unfaithful to you, is she doing things with drugs again?
"I want is for her to give up the control and to learn not only to soothe herself, but also me. Instead,... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: :)... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: "some people do not know how to think. They have faulty logic, most of it too linear which allows them to justify just about anything in their own minds, even to help you with your problem."
You know what.. R&B is totally right.. I am wasting ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 7 June 2010: Yos, if I can remember was all for you fighting your own obsession yourself and trying to ignore it and push it away.
Troubletoomuch on the other hand found it useful talking about it with his wife and getting all the details until he could un... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 7 June 2010: We have very, very good discussions about "retroactive jealousy".. again search the board for posts by either "Yos" or "troubletoomuch", they have suffered and in many discussions gave lots of different hints about how to overcome..
I'm still he... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 7 June 2010: Karma.. I like your post and the way you are approaching things...
I do not have time for jealousy in any form.. it is a destructive, non loving emotion..
You want to know what I really think.. again, it's not good to ask women things when you ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 4 June 2010: I suggest you take up Gabrielle's offer. Many aunts are not willing to open themselves up on the board, and a private letter would allow a longer conversation and more honesty than just a general response.
I would also suggest you search on the b... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 2 June 2010: Granted male anon, the main problem is his perception of his wife and what she HAS been capable off.. it leaves him feeling confused and picturing her in a different light. But we all have many dual personalities, we can be a whore in the bedroom, ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: Can you recreate the experience?.. you can give her the danger and excitement.. but the rest is impossible.. you can't give her the feeling of youth, or the feeling of doing something wrong, or feeling totally immoral and ultra powerfull.. she also ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: I'm like you.. no good at stranger sex.. I'm also one who thinks that the past is the past.
But I have a friend who suffered like you about his woman's past. He also found it comforting to understand and put things into perspective.
Sex, or... (read in full...)
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