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*hick989
writes:my partner and i have a massive age difference - 32 years to be precise. we've been together over a year now. he has a 17 year old daughter who he sees sundays - she's always hated me for the obvious reasons but is really close to his ex who is only a little older than me. i stay away sundays because i'd rather go without her rude remarks and false smiles. the daughter has tried to cause lots of problems and has even got her mum to ring me to give me abuse down the phone for no reason. fair enough i can see why she is upset and i realise her deviousness is never ending - a year on she still continues. one thing that bothers me greatly is the fact that she tries to act like my partners girlfriend. he lived in a bed sit and told her she was too old to stay now - one of the first instances - she cried and said 'emma is allowd to stay' (she doesn't see me any different to her). she calls him every night (started a few months ago) when she's on the way home from friends at 9pm to 'make her feel safe' constantly asking if he's seen me. whenever she goes past his house and his car's not there he will get a phone call 'where r u , r u with her?' one thing that disgusts me is last weekends episode, she asked him to rub fake tan in her back (wouldn't let her nan who was in the next room do it), she then asked him to rub it into her breasts which he obviously refused to do. i feel sickened and really don't know what her game is. i know she doesn't like the age etc but going to this extent????
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reader, chick989 +, writes (10 June 2010):
chick989 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know how it sounds about the young girl thing but his ex got pregnant by another man and he ended up being her knight in shining armour. as for our relationship - it was my that did the running.
i tried to get on with her and treated her nothing more than a friend but she was just so rude to me for months on and and i haven't seen her now for four months. why's she constantly calling him and asking about me - what's the obssession. i thought as time on the situation would improve but it's got worse.
i am older looking and mature for my age so it's not as bad as it seems. i feel as though she is about 12 - infact that's an insult to 12 year olds. she's a brat and screams and cries when she can't get her own way and he therefore gets walked all over.
first anonymous female reader - i totally know it's not normal and makes me feel pyhsically sick. do you actually think somethings's been going on?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Nailed it You Wish.... She's obviously trying to draw his attention to the fact that his obsession with young girls is very, very distirbing....
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): How do you know your boyfriend is not going to dump you once you get a bit older? Also the daughter wanting her dad to rub cream into her breasts?! sorry but this whole situation is sick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): Seems her father likes YOUNG girls too much. His previos gf was young like you . What happens when you grow up. Does he dump you and get someone even younger? Are you sure this man is above board? Are you sure he hasn't done anything sexual with his daughter in the past? Creepy! Watch out kid, this man and his daughters 'relationship' is not normal. Where there is smoke there is fire.....
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Wow! This may sound totally out of left field, but I have to give respect to that daughter for what she's doing. I'm guessing that she's doing it consciously, but she's PISSED at her father for dating girls her age, so she's driving home the point to him that every girl that he's dating IS her. Know what I mean?? She's trying to change her dad's perception of girls your age. Wow! Now that's cunning, that's for sure! She's INTENTIONALLY trying to throw a wrench into not only your relationship with her dad, but his very taste in girls.
If you love her dad, you're going to have to be very patient, pleasant, and DON'T act like her stepmom figure. Treat her like a peer - someone on her level. If I were in her shoes, I'd probably be chafing at someone my age being my stepmom too.
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