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writes:My daughter is in a relationship and has a baby, recently my other daughter told me she is going out with other men and whilst I have the baby too, and I thought she was out with a girlfriend, what shall I say or do about this? Her partner is a loving faithful man and I feel for him and my grandchild. Reply to this Question
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (12 August 2007):
 Hi
I have a mate that used to do that. Her hubby was in the army & she would get her mum to babysit & go out on the pull. Her mum didnt ever find out though. Her & her hubby eventually split.
Doesnt sound like your daughter is too keen on her partner!
I would have a word with her & make it clear you wont be babysitting if shes out with other guys. That would mean you condone it & you dont.
If shes not happy with her guy she needs to address that. Fair enough, you like the guy & thats fine but ultimately its up to her who she wants to be with. Maybe she feels you would be disappointed in her if she broke it off with him.
Hope it works out ok.
C xxxxx
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reader, hit-the-road,jack... +, writes (12 August 2007):
if you look after your daughters kid it shouldnt be with strings attached, theoretically she should be allowed to do whatever she likes with her free time,
but if shes cheating and you know about it, youve gotta act,
talk to her find out if its true and go from there.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (12 August 2007):
 You need to sit your daughter down and say "Look, what you told me the other day has really affected me. You know I'll always be here for you but I feel that I'm being taken for granted as I'm constantly having to look after your child. Have you thought about your partner? Have you thought about how you seeing other men might affect you child and your partner if they find out? You have everything you could possibly want - parents that love you, a partner who cares for you and a beautiful baby. Don't throw that away for a fling with other men."
If she doesn't listen, her fate is not on your hands. Without gettin too involved, just sit her down, tell her how you feel calmly, and then it is up to her how she lives her life. She has to learn from her own mistakes now. She's old enough to take responsibility.
Just be there for her when she needs you, that's all you really can do.
Take care. I hope I helped. x
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