I find it hard to trust him because I have had 2 failed marriages both because they cheated on me.
Q. I have had two failed marriages both of which they cheated on me. My relationship with my boyfriend is falling because I find it difficult to trust him, it is not because he has done anthing wrong, he wants to go to night clubs with friends which I ...
A. 30 July 2007: I can see where you're coming from here, i used to feel like that about all those things too. Nuts and Zoo mags even! But things like clubbing i wouldnt expect my partner to be happy about but thats just how i am. Its normal for couples to set thei... (read in full...)
How can we repair the broken trust before it tears us apart?
Q. Hello! I was online the other day when a random woman contacted me telling me my boyfriend was chatting with her and planning on a rendezvous with her next weekend. She then went on to forwarding their entire conversation to me. It was very ...
A. 30 July 2007: Hmmm tricky, because you're not stupid and i think hes insulting you intelligence suggesting you are. Its a stroke of luck she kept the proof really. Theres a lot of guys and girls getting away with that sorta stuff everyday on the net. Where you ... (read in full...)
Could it be that I'm so scared of being rejected by him that I'm over-analysing everything?
Q. I met a boy a few weeks back and I really like him. He seemed to really like me too and we exchanged numbers. He called the next day and we arranged to meet up a few days later. On the day, he said he couldn't make it as he had to work. Since then ...
A. 30 July 2007: You sound a lot like me, your instincts are saying he's either with someone or he's not that into you. If it was me ive noticed this with guys before, but if they are funny about texting back, emailing back or whatever and are making excuses ... (read in full...)
I told him i thought i might be pregnant and he has gone out drinking.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years, I'm a student nurse and I think I'm pregnant althoguht we have been careful (I'm going to do a test tonight) Recently things between us haven't been the same he's started drinking more and tonight I told ...
A. 30 July 2007: What do you do? Pray to god you're not????! This guys not mature or ready for anything of that magnitude. I assume hes a similar age to you? Ive got my fingers crossed for you. Let us know the result. Hes a selfish man isnt he. C xxxxxxx... (read in full...)
Do I leave my wife for another woman?
Q. Hello. I could do with a bit of advice.First of all ive been with my girlfriend for 10 years since we was kids im now 27. we have 2 children girl of 5 and boy of 1. i love my children very much.Im an electrical engineer and do ok for us.Now me an...
A. 30 July 2007: It really must be awful for guys cuz they tend to be the ones that have to move out, but whats the alternative here? You have gotta make a decision havent you. Does your girlfriend know about this woman? If you're both out of love with each other, i... (read in full...)
My friends think he is controlling, and i'm not happy either.
Q. hi, basically ive recently got married but we are already having problems we have a daughter together and have been together 4 years previous to getting married. my husband has threatened to leave twice but going as far as packing his packs and me ...
A. 30 July 2007: The food thing will be your way to be in control because you feel everything else in life is out of your control? Because any expert will tell you your weight is fine, if a little underweight! I dont think he should have to know your password... (read in full...)
Do I leave my wife for another woman?
Q. Hello. I could do with a bit of advice.First of all ive been with my girlfriend for 10 years since we was kids im now 27. we have 2 children girl of 5 and boy of 1. i love my children very much.Im an electrical engineer and do ok for us.Now me an...
A. 30 July 2007: I can understand what you're saying about not loving your girlfriend anymore. Thats fair enough. I was with the kids dad 9 years and fell out of love with him. It happens. I stuck with it atleast 2 yrs after i knew i didnt love him, i saw a ... (read in full...)
If i don't have sex with him, then i have really lost him.
Q. I recently wrote about my husband cheating and going back and forth undecided who he wants to be with me (his wife) or his lover. And i know its obvious that i should leave him and I'm being strong and I'm trying to move on with my life, BUT when he ...
A. 30 July 2007: Stop giving him what he wants when he comes round, blimey hes having his cake and eating it isnt he! This is going to ruin any self esteem you have left. Im amazed that guys can treat the mother of their children like that. If you want to play ha... (read in full...)
Is it true, 'what comes around goes around'?
Q. My partner left after seventeen years togther. She found a new boyfriend within a few days. She handled the breakup poorly telling me over the phone. I turned up at her workplace to she if we could sort things out but was only to find her new part...
A. 30 July 2007: Sorry to hear that. I guess your counsellor is right. And i think it does sound like she took the chickens way out and failed on purpose to not mention that she had met someone else. Probably protecting your feelings. I dont think its wise to j... (read in full...)
Ex angry that I brought a male friend to a party
Q. Was it wrong of me to bring a new male friend to my friends birthday party when my ex was there? I didnt know that he was going to be there, none of our mutual friends said anything to me about him coming. I felt kinda bad for my ex, but me and this ...
A. 30 July 2007: I would of said maybe a bit of tact IF he hadnt already met someone new, blimey people move on so quick these days. But if your mates said it was ok to bring your friend then theres no problem, are you suppose to be telapathic and know he would be... (read in full...)
It's quite rocky at times.
Q. 7 years together (has been quite rocky at times, like any other relationship), should we still be dating or comitting?...
A. 30 July 2007: Depends. Do you want to be dating or commiting? Do you mean get married? Do you already commit by living together?Do you mean commit as in starting a family? Are you both happy the way it is? cuz it doesnt matter what society says you should be ... (read in full...)
Do you think it would be ok to have a relationship?
Q. hi, i need some honest impartial advice and after reading some of the replys this seems to be the place! Im a 27yrs old nurse,i have 3 children 15yr old boy(from my husbands first marriage) and 5yr old twins (girl and a boy). 2 1/2 yrs ago my husba...
A. 30 July 2007: Thats fab, real pleased. Good luck! C xxxx... (read in full...)
What food effects the taste of my cum?
Q. My boyfriend says that when he goes down on me and he tastes my cum he says sometimes it is sweet sometimes it is bitter and sometime it is nothing. What food do I eat to make that happen cause I dont understand it. He likes when it is sweet so does ...
A. 30 July 2007: Lots of water and lots of fruit for sweet taste. Avoid broccoli.
Meat can make it salty, and no garlic or onions.
Coffee, nicotine & alcohol doesnt help the taste either.
C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
How can I break up with my boyfriend for good?
Q. I am a 19 year old sophomore in college. I have been with my boyfriend of 2 years since we finished high school, he is a year older than me. I love him so much, and that's why i cant let him go even though i know he's not who i want. He has a dead ...
A. 30 July 2007: I was in a similar situation years ago. He was 10 years younger. Loved him loads but i knew while he was in his early 20's he had a lot of living to do. He didnt think so, but instincts told me he was just high on the family thing. Ive got 2 kids & ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of karma.
Q. dear cupid, i'm 18 and i already had not so serious past relationships. i'm afraid that i'll be having my karma in my next relationship which is about to happen now, i can feel that i'm falling for this guy fast but i'm afraid of karma and to expec...
A. 30 July 2007: We all have to take risks at some point with guys and girls. If we want it to go anywhere.
They say you need to let the barriers down & take the risk of being hurt, take the gamble, because you just wont know otherwise.
As long as you have no bad i... (read in full...)
Why do some guy's do this?
Q. Hey, I was wondering if it is normal for some guys to be really touchy feely with girls they are not interested in relationship wise, while at the same time they are in an actual serious relationship in which they are more respectable and slow paced ...
A. 30 July 2007: The long term partner is more serious, the flirting and laughing about with people hes not interested in sexually is just that, a laugh.
Plus they have known the long term girlfriend longer. They have their fun in the bedroom.
Dunno, thats my guess... (read in full...)
Help! I have a huge crush on a man I cant have!
Q. Ok..I have a huge crush on a man I cant have! Im nearly 20 and hes 39..Hes so nice I like him loads!! But the only problem is hes just got back in with his ex,who I know cos shes my dads friend.They all go out together,I joined them saturday.I ...
A. 30 July 2007: 'i need an older man im fed up being messed about by younger ones?' if this guy starts seeing you while with his girl, isnt he messing her around, eventually you in future no doubt? Find another older man, that ones taken. C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
Why did he get married if he wanted to chat to other women?
Q. I discovered pornographic stories, written by my husband for other men and women, on his pc. He had asked for photographs of their wives (or them if they were female). This was the third time I had cause to wonder what he was doing on the pc. The ...
A. 30 July 2007: This would seriously p me off too to be honest.
I agree with eyes wide open.
C xxxxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
Do I leave my wife for another woman?
Q. Hello. I could do with a bit of advice.First of all ive been with my girlfriend for 10 years since we was kids im now 27. we have 2 children girl of 5 and boy of 1. i love my children very much.Im an electrical engineer and do ok for us.Now me an...
A. 30 July 2007: Yes, how about tell your girlfriend you dont love her anymore and get out the relationship first? Especially if you have both pretty much had enough, or do you mean, stay where you are, let her nexy door move, and you have a little love nest awa... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my wayward brother, who only speaks to me when he wants something.? Advice appreciated!
Q. Ooops i posted a question on 'am i being petty about my brother' havent had any replies yet but things have progressed. I have fallen out with my mother now. And my older sister has fallen out with our mum too. My brother is 25 and isnt working at ...
A. 30 July 2007: Many thanks for the reply.
She knows deep down hes bleeding her dry, and ocasionally says thats it i cant keep giving him money! but he knows she doesnt mean it now, cuz she does go giving him money again.
Yes hes the youngest & has a differen... (read in full...)
What do I tell my son about his father?
Q. im a young mum, very young mum. i had my baby 3yrs ago, but when i first told the father i was pregnant he just left me on my own, saying its my problem - not his! i think that was really rude of him to leave his unborn-child like that! but the p...
A. 30 July 2007: I would go for the latter.
Because basically thats true isnt it?
You dont want to rubbish his dad to him, they might well hook up in the future.
I would go for the simple, your dad was young & couldnt cope with it.
Good luck.
Its a tricky one ... (read in full...)
Is there something about making love with someone they care about, that bores men after a while?
Q. My boyfriend has a really low sex and drive and this is causing problems. I'm not mad at him for this, I know we're all different and if it weren't for his circumstances and past, I wouldn't be so bothered. I get wound up about this because he'...
A. 30 July 2007: Can be like that for men, and women, but tends to be more a male thing, Thats because we are wired differently. Men can have sex with little or no emotional envolvement. Women dont tend to be like that. My mum once said she falls in love with guys ... (read in full...)
Concerned about three-some!
Q. Ive been dating my g/f for about 6 months now, and shes pressuring me to have a threesome with one of her friends. The third person is a female, and it should be my fantasy to have it, but i extremly dislike the idea. i love her very much and i ...
A. 30 July 2007: I am with you on this one. Im more into one on one.
Its very rarely successful having threesoms & i think you're asking for trouble if you get into that.
C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
He wants her-he wants me-now he wants her again.I am devastated. Any advice is appreciated!
Q. My husband of 7 years cheated on me and when i found out i told him i would forgive him and that if he wanted we can just move on and be a family with our two daughters. He said no that he wanted to be with the other woman. It did hurt but i said ...
A. 30 July 2007: Take the decision out his hands if he cant be man enough to make it himself!
And tell him to go to the sports shop and by himself some balls! Not too sure where he can buy a backbone cuz i was born with one of those, as it sounds like you were! So u... (read in full...)
Ex-hubby wants the kids around his gf who poses naked on porn webcams! What should I do?
Q. Can you offer any advise about dealing with your ex husband who wants your small children to know and be around his girlfriend who shows her entire naked body on internet webcam sites (porn sites)? or other stories of people who are dealing with ...
A. 30 July 2007: Er i wouldnt be happy about it. But how old are the children? Its not likely she will be doing it while the children are there?
Why does she wan that as a past time? How strange!
I guess what she does in the privacy of her own home is her business... (read in full...)
Do I tell the wife?
Q. I became involved with a man about 3 years ago, who is married, though I didn't know it at the time. Once I found out I ended it immediately but I'm ashamed to admit I went back to him, as I had fallen hard. He said all the usual things, he wante...
A. 29 July 2007: She would probably stay with him anyway. I did that same thing many years ago. She forgave him. I would quit while you're ahead and move on from him. He's not a good prospect for anyone, be glad you're out of it. C xxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
She is concerned i'm rebounding.
Q. Well, here's my situation, very recently broke up from my long term girlfriend. I will add that I have been emotionally and mental over this before I split. I had a date last night with a girl I like and I've been told she likes me. The date wen...
A. 29 July 2007: I wouldnt ignore her for a few days no. Keep in touch by txt or something? chat to her about just hanging out as mates if shes more comfy with that? c xxxxxx... (read in full...)
What are some good tips for getting over a malicious relationship?
Q. What are some good tips for getting over a malicious relationship? Last year I met a guy who rocked my world, in the sense that we had so much in common, had so much fun together, he was a sweetheart and seemed to share similar opinions and mor...
A. 29 July 2007: i have been in the same boat, although not with the violence and i know what you mean, you're over the actual person but how dare someone lie to you the whole time you were with them, in my case a year. I have been sooooooo angry inside and thats ho... (read in full...)
A male teacher texts flirts with me loads since he found out I fancy him! what can i do?
Q. a male teacher texts flirts with me loads since he found out i fancy him! what can i do?...
A. 29 July 2007: Change your number if possible. Sim cards on eBay are a couple of quid.
Dont even respond to him, geez i cant believe that guy.
C xxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
She is concerned i'm rebounding.
Q. Well, here's my situation, very recently broke up from my long term girlfriend. I will add that I have been emotionally and mental over this before I split. I had a date last night with a girl I like and I've been told she likes me. The date wen...
A. 29 July 2007: I dated a guy for a year that was just coming out a 6 yr relationship when i met him. He too said he had stopped having feelings for his ex for a couple of years before he left. Playing the father role to his daughter since she was 11 & the fact her ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be the person responsible for them breaking up.
Q. Almost a year ago, I met one of the most amazing women I have ever known at an audition. We "clicked" immediately, but the only trouble was, was that we were both in relationships at the time. Fast forward to 3 months ago where we got back in touch ...
A. 29 July 2007: Bit of a nightmare isnt it.
I wouldn't recommend seeing someone thats just split with anyone anyway, the risk of them going back & you getting hurt is quite high.
How longs she been with this guy? Have they got children?
Makes all the difference r... (read in full...)
Do you think it would be ok to have a relationship?
Q. hi, i need some honest impartial advice and after reading some of the replys this seems to be the place! Im a 27yrs old nurse,i have 3 children 15yr old boy(from my husbands first marriage) and 5yr old twins (girl and a boy). 2 1/2 yrs ago my husba...
A. 29 July 2007: You & your son are gorgeous! I can just tell. What a commited person you are & it must of been bloomin hard work since the accident.
I tell you what, i am with your son on this one as in i would go for it!
Just see how things progress, if you get ... (read in full...)
When my boyfriend touches me I feel like I am going to explode
Q. Hey.. soemthings wrong otherwise I wouldnt be here right! Well when my boyfriend touches me down below..i feel all tense and like im going to explode that i had to stop him which obviously he aint happy with, but its like my legs are going all over ...
A. 29 July 2007: Try getting him to be a bit softer touching. Sounds like he might be applying a bit too much pressure.
Worth a try.
c xxxxx... (read in full...)
He has not spoken to me in 4 days.
Q. Hi. Am married, 38 w/3 children. Have always dealt with the finances at home..made a mess of them over and over again but husband never helps, he just gets really mad and spiteful so it's now unbearable. Hasn't spoken to me, eaten with me or even ...
A. 29 July 2007: Why is he leaving all the finances up to you? He really has to shoulder some of the blame for them if he hasnt had anything to do with them. Your a team, he should be helping you sort this out. Do you stay or go? Well, hopefully you can both com... (read in full...)
Do i sign the papers?
Q. I have been married for 35 years and we have one son 28.I am 59 and my husband is almost 61. For about 10 years we had a commuter marriage and I only saw my husband on week-ends. During that time my husband had two affairs within one year. With each ...
A. 29 July 2007: Stay well away now you havent got him there. Let him get on with sorting the dicorce, if he wants one and you cant afford it then he will have to pay. You coped fine when he was away all week in the past. Time to move on and you never know, you ... (read in full...)
I would be too ashamed, but i want her.
Q. The wife or the girlfriend? Well this is my question. I have been married for seven years. I got married when I was 22 and mainly because my wife was pregnant. Since then we have 3 children together. I have had 2 affairs on my wife both which she ...
A. 29 July 2007: If i was your wife i would of taken the decision out of your hands long ago. Why have you stayed with your wife when you cant stay faithful to her? And she was pregnant at the time? It doesnt make much sense to me. No one can tell you who to choos... (read in full...)
A male teacher texts flirts with me loads since he found out I fancy him! what can i do?
Q. a male teacher texts flirts with me loads since he found out i fancy him! what can i do?...
A. 29 July 2007: I had a Gp that took my number from files and started txting me. I had recently been to him about a relationship breakup. I did end up seeing him for a couple of months but its all wrong! People in a position of authority like teachers, Gp's etc ... (read in full...)
He's moved on after 3 months of separation from me and said that if I wasn't so abusive he would have come back!
Q. Please help, i was with my ex for just over a year, we have been broken up 3months I have a 7month old baby by him, but the thing is he has moved on already with someone else, im heart broken has i still love him, i don't no how to handle him ...
A. 29 July 2007: Because of his child? I dont know. Surely he cant mean romantically if he is with someone else? If he does mean that, dont give it to him! Its not fair on you or your child. You need to make the effort for your child with him but only as parents.... (read in full...)
how do i deal with this fear that she is trying to break me and my bf up?
Q. The other night I went out with my bf and his work friends. One of his work friends brought his gf who has a bad drinking problem (she got caught drink driving a number of times and has now lost her lisence, not to mention she drinks excessivly). ...
A. 29 July 2007: I expect your boyfriend knows shes trouble with a capial T. I wouldnt worry too much about what she TRIES to do. Your guy isnt daft is he? This girl has some major problems, ignoring her will make her move onto someone else soon enough. Shes a v... (read in full...)
How can I get him to trust me again?
Q. my boyfriend is leaving me because he cant trust me anymore. he saw a comment i left for an ex on myspace although we are just friends and have been friends for years. we dated about 6 years ago. my current boyfriend didnt want me to keep in touch ...
A. 29 July 2007: I finished with someone because i couldnt trust them. I understand how he feels really. Its horrible being in a relationship where you cant believe anything your partner says. IF that was the real reason he ended it. How long did he try to believe ... (read in full...)
has he cheated?
Q. Dear Cupid, After I broke up with my ex he had another gf the very next day! I was really mad, because people were saying he was cheating on me, he only asked me out b/c he felt sorry for me, and that he really liked her. So I got really mad, and...
A. 29 July 2007: Hard to say. But if he had a new girlfriend within a day then its likely. How long was you with him? Its unlikely someone would ask you out because they feel sorry for you! I would let that one go over your head but i would hazard a guess that he ... (read in full...)
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