when a couple make rules in their relationship, does that mean they are very controlling of one another or is it a good thing to do?
Q. My boyfriend and I just celebrated our 10 month anniversary yesterday. Lately we have been arguing a lot about stupid little things. We get to the point where neither one of us want to deal with eachother anymore and we pretty much break up but then ...
A. 6 August 2007: Hi I wouldnt say so no. Whats wrong with having a few ground rules? I think its a good idea. As for the splitting up all the time, thats never a good thing, so if it works what hes suggesting, then it worthwhile isnt it. Lots of people want leav... (read in full...)
I want to be a great girlfriend to him but I dont want to love him more then he loves me!
Q. I am so attached to him. Its been 10 months that we have been together. How do I stop being so clingy? I want to be a great girlfriend to him but I dont want to love him more then he loves me, which I think is starting to happen. I kinda feel that I ...
A. 6 August 2007: Im afraid thats the risk we take in life. You dont want to be putting barriers up thats for sure. Or you never get anywhere in life. If your instincts are telling you hes a good egg, go with the flow. You cant make anyone love you, or love you more... (read in full...)
Not a relationship problem, but... my dog has chewed up my home!
Q. Hi Not a relationship problem but an animal problem! Had a cross breed dog for 4 months since she was 9 weeks, she has destroyed my home and garden. Shoes, cushions inards ripped out, you name it, its been eaten. The last straw came yesterda...
A. 6 August 2007: You have all been a great help, thanks very much.
I can get a crate off eBay. I Might give that a go. Petrified of her doing it to the floor again, as i havent got anymore spare lino to patch it up again.
Many thanks again.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
My ex got in contact out of the blue, was all flirty and has now told me his girlfriend is pregnant.
Q. I went out with a guy a year and a bit ago,and was completly in love...i lost my virginity to him, anyway a week after he dumped me and went back to his ex girlfriend..i never spoke or saw him again so was have never really got over him. About ...
A. 6 August 2007: I would stay well away. Email mates maybe, but any meeting up? no. I guess at least hes being honest about the set up with him at the moment, but how would you feel if he was your partner and you were having his baby and he was trying to hit on... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my mum.
Q. I am now sixteen, nearly seventeen, my mum is fourty nearly fourty one. About seven years ago, i was in the need of a drink and so walked into the kitchen where my mum was reaching for something on the top of the cupboard, i reached up only to get a ...
A. 6 August 2007: Go and speak with an experienced counsellor. Its not normal as you know, best to get it sorted. And will take more than a few paragraphs on an internet site. Good luck. C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
Chances of pregnancy.
Q. My periods suppose to start within the next few days. If i had sex just before it started what are the chances of me getting pregnant? ...
A. 6 August 2007: Minute, but still there! I wouldnt risk it at all. Most fertile time is between days 10-20 (mid cycle) Seriously, dont risk it though, its like the withdrawel method, a bad idea! C xxxxx... (read in full...)
Should I be settle for being his 'friend with benefits' or wait until he's ready to have a real relationship?
Q. I've met a guy through a friend of mine an known each other for quite a while now, i had friends over an he was one of them an i got quite drunk an told him a few times i like him....now the other day he told me a few things, one thing i didnt get ...
A. 6 August 2007: Men can have fwb loads easier than women. We can get too emotionally involved. If you can handle that, then go for it. Least hes being honest about it, thats a good thing. Only you know if you can handle it. Just dont make the mistake of thinking... (read in full...)
I need some space, how do i tell him this?
Q. How do I let my boyfriend know that I need some breathing space without hurting his feelings. We have been dating for 3 weeks and he visits EVERY evening?...
A. 6 August 2007: Difficult one isnt it. They get so offended if you say you want one night on your own. Just try and explain its a good thing to have some time out from each other, makes it more exciting when you see each other next! Good luck C xxx... (read in full...)
Std info needed.
Q. i was just wondering, can u get any STDs from snogging?...
A. 6 August 2007: No, just the common cold! C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
We get along great except, when we are out with friends! He ignores me...what can I do?
Q. Hi just wanted some advice from an outsider. I have been dating my boyfriend now for over 2 years. He is the best thing that has happened to me and we get on so well. We have great sex, a great laugh and can tell each other anything. The problem is ...
A. 6 August 2007: Stupid? Nice... Well its rude of him to ignore you when you're out especailly if hes giving your mates plenty of attention it seems! You've been together 2 years so maybe he just likes to catch up with others when you're both out, but even so, its... (read in full...)
I'm 32 and in a dead end relationship. Should I go and and be with this 20 year old guy, who likes me?
Q. im 32 and have been in a relationship for 5 years. we have no children but have just bought a house 2gether. Our relationship has not been good for a long time but I've just carried on. Recently ive met a lad though a friend of mine hes only 20...
A. 6 August 2007: Guys of that age that go for older women, tend to be the most immature of guys ever. They are looking for someone mature to take care of them. Mother figures. Bad basis to get into a relationship. I was 31 when i met a 22 year old. Great 2 years ... (read in full...)
My bf found out, I thought he was cheating with his exgf! Now he wants to talk..is this relationship salvageable?
Q. I was convinced that my boyfrind had gone away for a few days with his ex. I snooped on him and all the evidence led me to same conclusion. He has made me feel very insecure about his long term ex eg. she doesn't know about me, he avoids places she ...
A. 6 August 2007: She doesnt know about you because he wants to keep his options open. Thats why you dont go to places she goes, you will be seen then. Thats my opinion anyway from the info. Been here bought the t shirt myself.
Talk to him & tell him your inst... (read in full...)
Upset over my brother's lack of loyalty! Any advice?
Q. Family help needed pls! My ex and i split a month ago today. Never trusted him, so didnt fall for him, was with him nearly a yr. Admittedly stayed with him towards the end because my daughter adored his daughter, same age, 10. Anyway after i...
A. 6 August 2007: Cheers Donna. I guess you're right. It just riles me that he can be so stupid. And the way he treats my mum like a cash machine, knowing shes as soft as putty, is hard to watch at times. We will see how it goes. Havent spoken to him for over a w... (read in full...)
I'm seperated from my wife - should I stop the porn and masturbating?
Q. My second question of the day...I'm new here! For the past year, I have been seperated from my wife, and we are in the process of getting a divorce. Even before that started, I have had a habit of looking at porn--and masturbating to it--fr...
A. 6 August 2007: No of course your not losing it. There is nothing wrong with what you're doing, UNLESS its dominating your life. Some poeple drink when they're not happy, you masterbate to porn to excess! Do you go out socialising? any clubs or anything? Have man... (read in full...)
Married for a year, no longer in love with my life. In love with someone else!
Q. I've been married for a bit over a year and find myself no longer in love with my wife. I find myself in love with someone else who I know has feelings for me but because I'm married I haven't persued this individual as much as I would like. I went ...
A. 6 August 2007: Hi What a nightmare. Its awful when you fall out of love with someone and dont know how to tell them. Was in that situation myself a few years back. You really do have to just do it though. Like you say, its good that you are both young and she do... (read in full...)
Slept with the ex and all the old feelings have come flooding back!!!
Q. My ex broke up with me and i was devastated because i was deeply inlove with him. After going through alot of pain, i managed to pick myself up but still stuggled to accept and come to terms with it all. Its been about a month now. A couple of days ...
A. 6 August 2007: Hi Yes he just used you. But learn from it, put it down to experience. He had been drinking, wanted a shag and called on you. Im sure if he was sober he probably wouldnt of dont that but you are so better off away from this loser. What kin... (read in full...)
Being Raped hasn't ruined or changed my life...i kinda enjoyed it...Whats wrong with me?Am i a freak?
Q. Hi,im Naoko im 20 years old and when i was 19 i was raped... I just wanna know if im a freak Being Raped hasn't ruined or changed my life...i kinda enjoyed it...Whats wrong with me?Am i a freak?...
A. 5 August 2007: If you didnt want people to be honest about what they thought, why post in the first place. You know its not a normal reaction to enjoy being raped & obviously people are going to find that pretty grotesque to be quite frank.... (read in full...)
Being Raped hasn't ruined or changed my life...i kinda enjoyed it...Whats wrong with me?Am i a freak?
Q. Hi,im Naoko im 20 years old and when i was 19 i was raped... I just wanna know if im a freak Being Raped hasn't ruined or changed my life...i kinda enjoyed it...Whats wrong with me?Am i a freak?...
A. 5 August 2007: Yes you are. Hope you find solice somehow.
And the women this actually has happened to, dont think all of society is like it. Tragic...
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I told him not to "nut" in me... but he did! And now I'm worried about the baby...
Q. Okay i'm 8 months pergnant and i had sex with my baby father. i told him to take his dick out before he nut. he claim that it felt too good. and he "nut" in me. I was wondering is that dangerous because this is my first baby. and i wondering if that ...
A. 4 August 2007: Nut? Not too sure what that is but i assume its ejaculate? If so, its fine. Wont cause any harm at all! Relax! All the best with the babby! C xxxxx... (read in full...)
He says he's slept with other people, how do I forget about it?
Q. he had a sex with others, how can I forget this? he just slept with someone and said me about this...how do i react?...
A. 4 August 2007: Others? more than one? I would get out now. Possibly putting you at risk of std's too.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
What are the chances that our relationship isn't going anywhere?
Q. hi, im have been dating a 27 years old guy for one month who has a girlfriend of the same age, he spend more time with me that with her, whtas the chances of this going some where or getting hurt?...
A. 4 August 2007: Going somewhere.. possible. Getting hurt..possible. Its a bit of a gamble. I met someone that was literally just coming out a 6 yr relationship. Was with him a year and had no ends of problems from his ex. Wouldnt go near someone now thats so clo... (read in full...)
How long will it take my eyebrows to grow back?
Q. KO! I'm a male and shaved my eyebrows, just wondering how long it would take to grow them back....
A. 3 August 2007: Not long, a few weeks max.
My ex used to shave a tiny line in his like they do these days. Had to re do them quite often.
Why did you do that anyhow?? :o/
C xxxxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to have a f*** buddy while my girlfriend is out of state?
Q. Is casual sex OK when you love someone else who is not around? My girlfriend took a job that forces her to travel out of state for weeks at a time 90 percent of the time. I love her but dont want to sleep alone. Is it wrong to find a casual sexual ...
A. 3 August 2007: Of course its wrong. Unless you have spoken to her about it & shes cool with it. Otherwise you are playing a dangerous game & being a tad out of order no???
If you dont like a long distance relationship there are oceans of other girls around loca... (read in full...)
Why has he never got in touch with me???
Q. Sorry if this is long winded. I not sure where to start. I'm really hurting. I had been seeing a guy for 4 months and he said he loves me. We have been friends for 4 years before that. He always would text me every day and phoned me most and told...
A. 3 August 2007: Fab advice auntyEm. Spot on.
Words are cheap.
Couldnt of put it better myself.
Is upsetting when you know people are wasting their time on attatched people when it will only end in tears.
Cant believe there is so much of that happening on her... (read in full...)
I just want to move on and forget about him. Any suggestions?
Q. Hi there, I'm finding it really hard to get over my ex. He broke up with me about a month ago. It was all very sudden and he didn't really give me any valid reasons. He just text me and said "I can't do this anymore." I was devastated, as he always ...
A. 3 August 2007: In time, yes you will get over him. It took me about a year, maybe a bit more to finally get over one of my exes.
Probably more like 3 years to actually be with someone else & not compare him.
The saying he would never hurt you then doing it, make... (read in full...)
Me and my mum don't get along. What can I do to repair this?
Q. Well me and my mum are not close. I mean like I don't want to tell her anything. I can never tell her anything and I am starting to hate my mum. She doesn't know what to do cause I lock myself in my room and don't talk to anyone. All I want to do is ...
A. 3 August 2007: Have respect for you mum & accept how hard it is being a mum. Is it just your mum at home? I was always having a go at my mum when i was a teen. We fought like cat and dog. But you know what? I look back now im 36, and i know my mum is the best. We ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that your boyfriend loves you but also wants sex everytime you're together?
Q. Is it possible that your boyfriend loves you but also wants sex everytime you're together? ...
A. 3 August 2007: Of course. Can make you feel a bit like a sex object sometimes though! As long as you have lots of fun in other ways then i wouldnt worry about it too much. Just dont do it all the time because thats what he wants. You can say no sometimes, it ... (read in full...)
He kissed another girl, said she came on to him and apologised.
Q. Hey, I'd really appreciate some advice. I was going to go out with my boyfriend and some of his mates last night but decided I was too tired so told him I wouldn't be making it. He seemed a bit upset but whatever... This morning I got a text fro...
A. 3 August 2007: I wouldnt jump the gun and dump him. I cant stand cheats but the fact this guy is saying it was just a kiss & she came onto him AND he made sure he told you the very next day, kinda has me thinking you shouldnt give up on him for this one thing.
O... (read in full...)
Why has he never got in touch with me???
Q. Sorry if this is long winded. I not sure where to start. I'm really hurting. I had been seeing a guy for 4 months and he said he loves me. We have been friends for 4 years before that. He always would text me every day and phoned me most and told...
A. 3 August 2007: She most probably found out about you & gave him an ultimatum. Im afraid from this side, it looks like he was enjoying having that cake & eating it & things have changed suddenly.
Getting with an attatched guy, 90% of the time, possibly more, will... (read in full...)
Can I ever find happiness in a relationship, when my feelings always seem to dig me into a quagmire?
Q. Dear Cupid, Can I ever find happiness in a relationship, when my feelings always seem to dig me into a quagmire? Is there anything wrong with me for always getting stuck with guys who are not marriage material? I am 28 already and my last boyf...
A. 3 August 2007: The alcoholic will only reform if he really wants to, and you are better off letting him get on with that alone. I think one thing we all seem to have in common on here is that we like helping people. My mum said to me the other day that needy gu... (read in full...)
I just wanted to know what are the differences between cheating in a relationship, going on the rebound and having a affair is.
Q. I just wanted to know what are the differences between cheating in a relationship, going on the rebound and having a affair is. Why do these types of relationships have a low probabilty of working out?...
A. 3 August 2007: They are all similar in the way that you're not in the right frame of mind to be doing them.
Thats why they are pretty high risk to fail.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
After a year and a half he still wont introduce me to his daughter and wants our relationship to be secret
Q. I am separated and I met a man who is also separated. We have been seeing each other for a year and a half. When I first met him he explained that his ex can cause problems and so he wanted to keep things quiet about us. He further indicated he ...
A. 2 August 2007: You have a very understanding nature.
Hes lucky to have you.
Sounds like she gave him a right ol runaround!
Hope it all works out, and hopefully soon you will get to meet his daughter.
It must be frustrating for you. You could all have a good ... (read in full...)
He's got a roving eye, he watches porn and he often doesn't get hard with me... !
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. In this time, he has consistantly had a roving eye. He denies this. I have been physically moved out of the way, for him to get a better view of another female. I can see him getting twitchy when he sees ...
A. 2 August 2007: He says hes red blooded? in my opinion hes a waste of space. I had one that stared over my head once, i said oh sorry am in your way, he said oooh i couldnt help it she was gorgeous. I was like what the?????? Needless to say that didnt last long.... (read in full...)
Can girls cover up their real feelings for whatever reason?
Q. If a girl likes you, can she cover up her true feelings for some reason, ie being scared of commitment maybe, or fear of the future?...
A. 2 August 2007: Good for you. Soon you will meet someone that doesnt mess you about and you will look back on this one as a bad dream and wondering what planet yo was on lol Good luck C xxxxx... (read in full...)
After a year and a half he still wont introduce me to his daughter and wants our relationship to be secret
Q. I am separated and I met a man who is also separated. We have been seeing each other for a year and a half. When I first met him he explained that his ex can cause problems and so he wanted to keep things quiet about us. He further indicated he ...
A. 2 August 2007: Still doesnt make much sense to me. But if you are happy with the set up, then why the question in the first place? I always say, if somethings not a problem for you, then its not a problem. C xxxxx... (read in full...)
Can girls cover up their real feelings for whatever reason?
Q. If a girl likes you, can she cover up her true feelings for some reason, ie being scared of commitment maybe, or fear of the future?...
A. 2 August 2007: Shes probably deleted your number yes, but thinks you will txt anyway, then shes got it still for when she can be arsed to reel you back in. Shes a game player & time waster.
Dont let her waste any more of yours.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Do girls enjoy giving oral sex?
Q. Do girls actually like giving oral sex to guys or what? So many girls seem to have a real issue with it, like feeling subservient or degraded or something. But they don’t have any problem getting it!? What is all this double standards? I...
A. 2 August 2007: Its great! I dont know why you have been unlucky really. I dont see why guys wanna do it to women! But cool if they do! the other way round works for me too! Maybe some girls have had bad experiences, taste or whatever. I only had that once but i ... (read in full...)
Older Girls! What do girls think of lumpy cum?
Q. Older girls please! What do girls think about lumpy cum? I think it’s gross and it’s my own “stuff!” There’s always little lumps in my cum and I get so embarrassed about it. Apparently it’s perfectly normal from what I’ve read so I guess there’...
A. 2 August 2007: I wouldnt like it to be honest. But im funny about textures hehe
Im like it about food, lumpy mash yuk! That sago pudding stuff with little balls in...yuk! But taste would be worse, if its awful. Had that once with a guy, thankfully never again or c... (read in full...)
My best mate has cheated on her bf so many times, I feel like I should tell him. Should I?
Q. My best friend of 15 years has been going out with this guy for 2 years almost. In that time she's cheated on him God knows how many times, last time I got her to tell him because I thought it wasn't fair on him and she did, but got mad at me ...
A. 2 August 2007: Stay out of it. You know she will get found out eventually. Its rare not to if they are habitual cheaters.
I wouldnt tell him. People dont always thank the messenger.
It is her business really. Its not right, but ultimately her business.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Can girls cover up their real feelings for whatever reason?
Q. If a girl likes you, can she cover up her true feelings for some reason, ie being scared of commitment maybe, or fear of the future?...
A. 2 August 2007: Shes not ready for anything long term serious yet?
Girls are great at holding back feelings & putting up barriers. Sometimes its a good thing though. We tend to have good instincts.
If someones blowing hot n cold with you, its not worth the hass... (read in full...)
I feel like i'm more of a taker than a giver!!
Q. I feel insecure and it makes me somewhat shy in my relationship. I can never initiate anything, it's always him that has to ask if we want to go out or him initiating a kiss. I don't want to be like this because i feel somewhat selfish, you know, ...
A. 2 August 2007: Difficult one. I kinda know where you're coming from here. If they make all the moves you know they want to. Wheras if you make the first moves they might not want to & the thought of that is horrible?
Biting the bullet! thats the key i thin... (read in full...)
After a year and a half he still wont introduce me to his daughter and wants our relationship to be secret
Q. I am separated and I met a man who is also separated. We have been seeing each other for a year and a half. When I first met him he explained that his ex can cause problems and so he wanted to keep things quiet about us. He further indicated he ...
A. 2 August 2007: Alarm bells would be ringing for me before now. There is more to this than hes letting on i would be thinking. If you 2 are a couple, why are you only seeing eachother on average once a week? Have you spoken to him about that? Is that a joint de... (read in full...)
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