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writes:I think i'm falling for this guy... He told me the other night that he was into me and also said he would love to "have fun" with me. The thing is, this guy is gay...(I'm a girl). He said although he's gay he likes a very select few girls. I'm very confused though because I think he just meant he'd like to sleep with me but I'm fed up of having casual sex, I want a boyfriend. Reply to this Question
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reader, hotstuff  +, writes (12 August 2007):
 I don't think you want to have a relationship with him cause he probably won't be very faithfull to you, but if you are really falling for him talk about your fealings let him in on them.
I totally agree about the casual sex thing sex isn't bad, but I think haveing it with someone your REALLY into is much better
hope it helped and good luck
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (12 August 2007):
In order to achieve your goal of having a bf and not just casual sex I think you have to stop the casual sex altogether. Any potential boys might see you and think you dont want a relationship because you are sleeping around and such. Also by giving yourself away like that so casualy, you wont be able to tell which guys want to stick around until after you've done it.
As for the gay friend, personaly I would say it would be risky geting involved. He may not be sure of his feelings and do you really want to get involved in such a situation? Unless he claims himself as bi...maybe then it woudlnt be as risky.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): I have had gay friends tell me that they are curious about girls. It's natural to feel that way especially when they are still young because after all, they are male, and that is "supposed" to be their function. Sexuality is not as cut and dry as either you are gay, straight or your bi. Biologically, it's actually very fluid and has a lot more levels to it. But the people brave enough to go with their instinct and assume various gender roles are usually very experimental about sex. In other words, the object of his affection is not a man or a woman or any one person, but rather, it is sexual experiences, in general. So, it'll be hard for him to be faithful to anybody. Furthermore, he will probably be very promiscuious. And that kind of behavior poses a lot of risks to your health. std's and all. Point being, he doesn't seem like the kind of guy who would even be SAFE, from a health standpoint, to hook up with, much less carry on a relationship with.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (11 August 2007):
 Then i wouldnt think this is the guy for you.
Casual sex is alright, but i know what you mean. Ive tried it a couple of times when you know theres nothing more gonna come of it, and it wasnt for me.
But this guy you're talking about is Bi. If he was gay he wouldnt be attracted to any females at all. Im straight, im only attracted to guys. If i rarely was attracted to females, that would still make me Bi. See what i mean?
But he has said about fun. Fun being the key word here to definate indication of sex only. No relationship, end of.
At the end of the day, even if you did get into a relationship with him, being Bi he will always hanker after a male occasionally. Thats not a relationship you want to enter into i bet.
Im with you on the not wanting casual sex, but i would rather be single with no sex than with the wrong person that cant give me what i really need.Hope you get it sorted.
All the best.
C xxxx
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