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writes:Hey, so this is my first question on here so go easy... My girlfriend and I have been going out for three years in Semptember, before that we had been friends for about six years and I would still consider her as my best friend as well as my girlfriend. Nearly a year ago she decided to go away to university in another country, which really bummed me out at the time, but with many visits to see her we worked it out and had a really good time when we were together and kept things going via phone, emails and letters when we weren't.But she came back from uni at the start of the summer there and things just haven't clicked since, we find ourselves always fighting and annoying each other even if we don't want to, which i hate so much! We are both working full time at the moment which just makes it even harder to talk or to spend time together.I still love her so much and know I want to be with her but I don't know how to 'fix' us?!! Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What helped? Thanks
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (12 August 2007):
 Hi
Its probably to do with the fact you spent some time apart & got used to it. now you are getting on each others nerves? Seeing as you did so well at keeping it alive when you were in different countries, dont lose that ability now, even though you are both working full time.
Make an effort like the previous poster said & make some time to go out again & spend some QUALITY time together. Remember how much you missed each other before.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007): hey
maybe the next time you see her take her out and do something different to what you would usually do with your girlfriend and try talking to her and just listen to what she is saying and just try to be helpful and show her that you really care about her.
i think the problem is that you two are working full time and it is stressfull. But if things don't work out I'd say that maybe you would be better off just being friends to avoid a horrible break up at least that way you wouldn't have lost a friend.
Hope i helped sorry if my reply doesn't seem to help
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