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writes:I am 15 years old almost 16 and I had a boyfriend who just turned 17 and we live in different states and we dating for a while then we broke up near my birthday and got back to together on my birthday then awhile later we broke up again because he wanted to break up with me so we ended the relationship then we got back together.we really liked get other in the beginning and I started to really like him more aNd more.so we now we dated for a whole year. And now it seems like he pushing himself away from me.I would always talk to him about how he acts when he's around his friends when he texting me and we always end up getting into a fight. What should I do because I had to move and now I can't talk to him anymore and when I try to add him on Facebook he doesn't add me. Help me please.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (10 January 2011):
Hi there. Long distance relationships are a very big challenge.
The challenge being that it's just not possible to see each other at all, or very rarely anyway.
When the only contact is by text messaging, after a while you run out of things to talk about, and many misunderstandings occur and arguments as well.
It's possible that your boyfriend is feeling the strain of the LDR and it's got to the point where it's just not enough for him anymore.
This is completely understandable.
To be in an LDR, is a very lonely experience, as there is a lot of time you would like to be with each other, but distance prevents that from happening. Also, the expense and inconvenience of travelling to see each other, and trying to organise it in the first place.
For any relationship to succeed, you need to be able to see each other at least once a week. Otherwise, it's very lonely indeed.
Probably the only thing you can do now, is to give him some space. By that, I mean don't text message him and don't talk to him on Facebook either.
Instead, let him be the first one to contact you, then just see how it goes. Even if it's 2 weeks, just wait and be patient. Then if nothing heard from him, you could send him a short text saying something like - "Hi. Hope you are well. Enjoy your day."
Then wait and see what happens. If there is no answer from him for 2 weeks, then just leave it and try your best to move on.
You can't force him to feel something he does not feel, so unfortunately, you will just have to accept that it might be over for good.
Take care and best wishes.
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