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writes:Hello guys,My brother told me that guys will change once they step into the society to work. Is it really true that there is a high chance that my boyfriend, who is graduating this year together with me. My brother shared with me some stories about his friends who is a pair of couple and graduated together. The guy broke up with the gf as he has better choices when he go to work. My boyfriend and I are happily in love now but I am beginning to feel really afraid that one day he will leave me for another girl once he step into the workforce. Should I be worried about that at all?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): Only if your bf has cheated in the past or if that is how you met him (in another relationship) should you worry. If he has a good history of being respectful in relationships and ending them well before another starts then you shouldn't be worried he will do this to you and you can trust him.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (18 January 2011):
Hi there. He wouldn't have any more choices than he does already. There are girls everywhere!
There would be just as many girls at a workplace, as there would be in school. No difference at all really.
Just nurture your relationship, keeping it as good as it's always been. Don't start getting worried about the future, because you will come across as needy and desperate. That alone is more likely to make any man want to head for the hills. So just don't go there.
Just enjoy your life exactly the way it is now, and have fun with each other going to nice places and enjoying each other's company.
No-one knows what the future holds, so there is no point in worrying about it. What will be, will be. We can't control what happens in life.
Whatever you do, don't make your boyfriend your whole life by putting him at the centre of your world. When you do that, things can go badly wrong the minute he does something that disappoints you.
So to avoid this happening, make sure you have a life of your own - your own friends, own interests and hobbies etc. This keeps you an interesting individual who doesn't really "need" a man to be happy. It's important that we all make ourselves happy. It is our own responsibility - not our partner's.
When we make our partner responsibile for our happiness, that's when trouble starts. We then become emotionally dependent on them for just about everything. This really, is more a reason for problems in relationships, than the possibility of meeting other girls.
So just relax, be your own person, be proud of who you are, and remain independent (but not too much so), then you will remain a person he continues to want to be with.
Best wishes.
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