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writes:I love being around him. When i'm with him its perfect. But as soon as he leaves i'm depressed. So depressed that my family starts yelling at me, telling me this is crazy. Is there any like way to fix this problem?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (18 January 2011):
Hi there. The problem you have is you have started to make him the centre of your universe.
Whatever you did before he came along - your friends, interests, hobbies etc., have probably gone by the wayside.
Because you like him so much, he has become the whole focus in your life. Now, you look to him for your happiness.
If he is not there with you, you feel depressed and like life is not worth living.
The way to remedy this, is to make a life for yourself - outside of the relationship. Take up some hobbies and interests, to make life fun for you when he's not with you.
You do need a life of your own, just as he does also. It's important. Without that, your whole existence depends on him being there.
It also puts pressure on him, to make you happy. It could ultimately end the relationship as a result. So you have to be aware of that, as it can be stifling.
Happiness is a choice. It's up to us to make ourselves happy, no-one else. We can't depend on our partners to do that.
The more interesting and fun you can make your life, the happier you will be. It will also make your relationship happier as a result. Then things will flow more smoothly.
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