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writes:Iam 21 years old. I have been with my boyfriend now for a year. We generally have a satisfying sex life, except one thing: He wants me to shave "down there". I personally do not like or want to do it. I also dont believe in it. I believe a woman should look like a woman. Im full blooded Italian and we tend to be all natural. Anyway, he keeps pressuring me to do it and i keep telling him im not comfortable doing it but he wont stop. It is starting to affect our sex life. He doesnt want to be as intimate anymore. What should I do? Should I shave just to make him happy? Why is it so important to men that thier women be hairless?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): "I don't believe in it"? What is up with that. It won't kill you so what do you have to lose. It make giving oral a lot funner and sex is a lot more slippy. You'd be surprised at how much faster he can enter you. I'm also tired about people telling you to stand your ground. Would these same people give the same advice if you were married and didn't believe in sex? It is so stupid. As I said before - what do you have to lose? Why wouldn't you want to try it? My wife "didn't believe in vibrators" and after 6 months of presure she finally gave in and tried it. She was so upset about "me forcing her into it" that she didn't even try to enjoy it! After awhile, and more pressure, she finally got into it and had her first orgasm. So when people say "don't be pressured" I say "get a clue". Most people have all these baseless issues that get in the way of letting them enjoy things. So I find it ridiculous that you are having issues on simply shaving yourself. I'm mean really!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): Hell no!!! If that man doesn't want to deal with the real you, to Hell with him! If he won't deal with something as insignificant as natural human hair, then dump him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): It is your body, so do as you wish. If you dont want to then do not do it just to please him!
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): I understand you have your preferences, we all do. Perhaps you could look at it a different way...some men shave their faces rather than 'looking like men' and going all natural. Do you have a preference in your man shaving? Do you like your man to have a mustache or beard? These things can be very powerful turn offs for women that like clean shaven men, not because we don't like men but because it makes it nicer to kiss them, their faces are softer and less prickly and more kissable without all the facial hair, this is probably what's going on with your man, he has a preference for softness and kissability and being able to see your vagina without all the hair hiding it.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): my boyfriend shaves his pubic hair which i find a turn on but he wants me to let mine frow bushy. the idea of it turned me off at first but slowly im waxing it less and less so i get used to it and its still relatively under control. try that, just waxing it over a long period of time. if u really dont want to then stick to your guns.
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reader, mizzy.mara  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 If you don't want to do then he should respect your decision. Its a blunt as this, if you don't want to do it then don't. It's your body not his.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Here's the solution:
Tell him that if he shaves himself down there, you'll shave down there too.
I'll bet you $10 to a donut he won't do it. If he does shave himself, laugh and tell him you were only kidding.
Don't let anybody tell you how to look down there or any where. He's playing a control game. If he doesn't like you the way you are, tell him you'll find someone who does . . . and mean it.
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reader, happytochat +, writes (23 October 2007):
It seems to me that him being less intimate is his way of tryign to force you into shaving down there. Which is a really immature way of him trying to prove his point. If your sex life was fairly good before, then him showing less interest now isnt because hes truly less interested, its his way of tryign to get what he wants and making you feel bad while hes at it.
Stand your ground. If you let him manipulate you into doing this then he may continue to do things like this in the future. You dont want that. You need to show him that you wont be manipulated into doing something that you do not feel comfortable with. He will survive. Its not that important that you do it. Im sure he will still find you very attractive. So dont shave just to make him happy. Hes just trying to manipulate you.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Hi,
these days guys prefer girls to be at least partially shaved and I think you're beliefs are a little conservative . However, it is still your body and your decision. If your boyfriend cannot handle it then its his problem - his response sounds petty. He is not getting his way and is attempting to control how you treat your own body. Sure he can say that he prefers a girl to be shaved downstairs but he doesnt own your body.
Its your decision and he should respect it.
p.s. you might find other guys react the same way in future, it is a little uncommon for a girl these days to be 'fully clothed' downstairs. I'll admit I havent met any girl in 20 years who doesnt do a bit of maintenance down there. But it's still your body, you do with it what you want!
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): It's not important that you shave yourself down there. However, having a shaved pubic area shows 'willingness'. It's a very stimulating psychological thing for the guys who like that.
However, if you don't want to do it, then don't do it. It's exactly as simple as that. Sure, your boy desires it, but it doesn't mean you have to do it.
Mind you, I'm wondering about your comment about "I believe a woman should look like a woman." My question: What should a woman look like?
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