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*oingbananas
writes:i ve been seeing someone for about a month. we ve agreed to be exclusive and things were going great. however he s been having some personal problems in the last week and has been ignoring any attempt ive made to get in touch, which really hasnt been often. i know he may need space to sort his issues out but i dont think ignoring calls and messages is a good sign. are men unable to cope with more than one thing at a time or is he trying to tell me something?thanks in advance Reply to this Question
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reader, goingbananas +, writes (22 October 2007):
goingbananas is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi
Thanks to all who replied. He got in contact to say sorry and that he was very preoccupied at the moment and terrible company, he is dealing with something quite serious.. am relieved to know i havent been dumped and i ll leave him alone to sort everything out.. thanks again for taking the time to reply
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (22 October 2007):
 Hi,
despite the rumours, yes, we men can think about more than one thing at a time ( although we give appearances that we often cant ).
Having said that, lack of communication is more a male problem than female, but after only a month you would hope he would throw you a bone at least. It doesnt take much to type out a quick "I'm fine, dont' worry".
But I wouldnt give up just yet, he may be so overwhelmed with his personal problems it is jus too hard for him to contact you.
Wait to he gets back and then see what he has to say for himself. Only time will tell.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (22 October 2007):
 Well I know I can - but I suppose if I am honest and I have got a lot of non-relationship issues to deal with like work, relatives, officialdom etc then I probably put the relationship matters further down the priority. It's probably wrong I know, but it's how I am. It's not that I don't want to improve - it's that I just don't think of anything else when I 've got issues to deal with. I would call it being focussed. Sometimes it's a good thing and sometimes a bad thing.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (22 October 2007):
Well I know I can - but I suppose if I am honest and I have got a lot of non-relationship issues to deal with like work, relatives, officialdom etc then I probably put the relationship matters further down the priority. It's probably wrong I know, but it's how I am. It's not that I don't want to improve - it's that I just don't think of anything else when I 've got issues to deal with. I would call it being focussed. Sometimes it's a good thing and sometimes a bad thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): He does not want to call. VERY simple. Men are very easy to predict. Even if he had personal problems, he'd not lose a woman he wanted. I am sorry. I could beat around the bush, but it's not going to help.
Leave him for a while. Totally cut the calls and contact. He'll be back if he wants to. Otherwise, you don't want him.
Take good care
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