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writes:I recently moved to a new city, been here for about 4 months now, and found a new job. With this, I found some new friends. Two guys and a girl. One of the guys, and the girl have partners, so of course that left those two saying something was gonna happen between me and the single guy. Now I'm just a little confused. He's just 18, and I'm 22 - is he too young? He thought I was gonna be really experienced, but I'm not. I told him that. It didn't bother him at the time. He keeps going on about his past '18 girlfriends' who've all gone on to be models... er..?! lol!I slept with him once, and i gave him head another couple of times, but now he seems to be playing it cool. I dunno if Im reading too much into this, but I was kinda happy being 'friends with benifits', but I hardly see him now. I'm just looking for anyones input. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 My first husband was 18 the month before we married where as I was 3 months shy of 17. He left and filed for divorce because he wasn't ready for type of committment that marriage takes. We were together for roughly two years and two months.
My second husband turned 18 two months after we married and I was 20 years and 7 months older than he was. We stayed married for 14 years until his infidelity took him away and I divorced him.
My fiance of almost 7 years was 11 years younger than I and he was a good man. He worked hard and provided the best he could. We had too much baggage, including 4 children and a grandchild . We still remained friends after all the years apart. He by the way has resurfaced.
It just goes to show you that age isn't the most important thing in a relationship. Maturity isn't measured by age. It is by what you do and how affectively you deal with things.
As far as he is concerned it seems that he might be trying to make you think you hit a gold mind finding him. He probably got what he wanted from you and has moved on.
I hope that your new home will soon become more comfortable for you. Give yourself time and wait a bit before you date. Make some new friends and get to know them first. Find someone who will be mature enough to treat you with respect and not be into game playing.
Godspeed.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 he sounds like an immature prat if you ask me.
Its funny how friends often feel that the spare wheels in the group should naturally get together, as though just by being single you should try anything. Of course if this applied to themselves it would be totally different.
I would ignore this kid, surely you can aim a little higher. Leave him to chase these supermodels who obviously are falling over themselves to attract his attention.
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reader, kenny +, writes (22 October 2007):
 Genarally age gaps in relationships don't really matter a great deal, age is only a number at the end of the day, and its all about how yoy both feel for one another. Having said that he does sound like quite an immmature 18 year old. Telling you about his past 18 girl friends, then telling you they all went on to be models, like you really wanted to hear this. He is playing it cool, so i would be inclined to also, let him come to you and do the chasing. And if goes on about old exes who are now models i would ditch him and walk away.
Take care x
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