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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now. and we have not had sex. Everytime I bring it up he says we will and nothing ever happens. I am 35 and he is 47. Reply to this Question
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reader, greatest love  +, writes (8 November 2007):
the only thing i can think of in this situation is that he is scared that he won't be able to satisfy you...i'm not saying that he can't but maybe he's not sure of himself in that way...maybe in his past relationships he had a mad experience in that topic...you should talk to him and find out if there's anything bothering him...reassure him about the feelings that you have for him...and that if anything is bothering him that you are there to listen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): Well something is going on! The possibilities are endless but you will only be able to find out the true answer from him. You'll have to ask and if he doges the issue you will have to press for an explanation.
He could have a sexual problem, be worried he's not good enoyught, he could be gay and so on! The only way to find out is to get him to tell you.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Hi,
gee, I think you deserve more of an answer than "soon" especially after 2 years.
You are at your peak sexually so it is not presumptuous to find out what is really going on. You are in a relationship after all, you deserve to know the truth.
I wouldn't take his excuses anymore as he is just fobbing you off and this is doing no-one any favours.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): Perhaps he has a major sexual dysfunction and or disease he doesn't want to tell you about. It could range from micropenis, herpes, HIV, or Erectile Dysfunction. Are you sure he 'works' well and the gay thing is not a possibility?
You have to talk to him about this matter seriously and give him enough space so he would open up to you in the event it would be because of an embarassing situation like the ones I mentioned earlier.
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